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Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

bedda26 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:12 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:12 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

We got stiffed too...cheapos. I would never go to a wedding without a gift.

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:28 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:28 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

YOu think I am funny :)

Well Ron called people who came to our e party and said OMG we must have lost your gift bc we didn't find it

She was so embarassed..
She sent a gift 3 mts later

Ronnie doesn't care

He is RUDE!

His MOTHERS 2 sisters didn't even respond to the E party or send a gift

THEIR wedding invite will be lost

Nikki10-12-03 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:41 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:41 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

We only got 1 stiffer and it was my BIL my Dh's only sibling our bestman

him and his girlfriend came I could understand no $$$ if you are having hard times but no card

for your only brother

eroxgirl Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:43 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 12:43 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

Posted by Ronnie&Theresa

YOu think I am funny :)

Well Ron called people who came to our e party and said OMG we must have lost your gift bc we didn't find it

She was so embarassed..
She sent a gift 3 mts later

Ronnie doesn't care

He is RUDE!

I love it!!!

Annemarie13 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 01:05 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 01:05 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

Theresa- YOu are so funny! DH wanted to call 'The Stiffers' too. He may still do it. I'll keep you posted.

Misty Posted: Jan 16, 2004 01:20 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 01:20 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

We did! By two couples. And in one case, we really DID think the card was lost because it was so mind boggling. My MIL did exactly what Theresa said. Called and said that the card was lost and that she was worried...only to be told that it wasn't lost...it didn't exist. LOL.

It really was completely mind boggling, otherwise my mil wouldn't have done that.

jennbaby Posted: Jan 16, 2004 01:36 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 01:36 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

yep!

franksbride Posted: Jan 16, 2004 02:07 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 02:07 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

We were stiffed by 2 of DH's friends...one even went so far to tell us that he doesn't feel comfortable bringing cards to the wedding...and even emailed DH for our address...DH sent it to him and we haven't received anything yet!!!

They are NOT getting TY's from me. Hey, I figure that if they could go so far as to stiff us at our wedding...what good is being the bigger person and sending them a TY going to do for me? Nothing...and same goes for when either one of them gets married...if we go to their wedding they are getting $0...no card either. I really don't care if they send me a TY or not...and if they do, I'll return it!!!!!!!!!!

WeddingsRock Posted: Jan 16, 2004 03:59 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 03:59 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

I too was stiffed and I didn't send TYs. What was I thanking them for...I know their presence was inportant, but hey, they should also know to bring a present! I must say that my DH friends are the cheapest people alive! Now, many of them are single and brought guests without asking! UGH! the nerve!

Diane Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:02 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:02 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

we did. One of hubbys cousin came with a date, and stayed up till the pasta dish, and did NOT like who he was sitting with, and left

Did NOT eve say hello, or leave a card

nrvbrd Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:02 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:02 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

Posted by WeddingsRock

I too was stiffed and I didn't send TYs. What was I thanking them for...I know their presence was inportant, but hey, they should also know to bring a present! I must say that my DH friends are the cheapest people alive! Now, many of them are single and brought guests without asking! UGH! the nerve!

The stiffers were on DH'S side and were his friends

V&S03 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:28 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:28 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

It happened to us also but the guests ended up mailing us something afterwards. I definitely do not think that it is right to call and ask for it, that seems tacky to me, your inviting guests to be part of your special day and enjoy the celebration, if you expect everyone to give a certain amount you will be disappointed. I do agree that as a guest it is wrong not to leave any gift but I think it would be worse to call them out on it.

curly2003 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:32 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:32 PM

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Posted by hmichick

It happened to us too. I am still surprised, one of my cousins told my mom that she has to get us a gift. I mean, you knew about my wedding a year before, and we have been married for 4 mos. What is she waiting for??

Personally, I would not go to a wedding and give nothing. But I guess some people dont know any better. I will send them a TY for being with us on our wedding day.

Same here!!! I am still waiting for a cousin to 'send' me a gift. Whatever!!!!!

MichelleW Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:56 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 04:56 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

LMAO

Still waiting for FIL's gift, next monthit will be 3 years

Guess to say it's safe we are not getting one

spel Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:06 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:06 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

ooh, this topic gets me worked up.

we got stiffed by several friends. including one groomsmen whom we love, and several of DH's other friends. are guys that clueless?

DH's mother, father, and brother did not give us a CARD (parents helped pay for the wedding & we got an early gift from his brother)- no card!!! that hurt.

i'm going to bite my tongue and send them all thank you cards anyway.

june262004 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:21 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:21 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

My friend was just telling me about her wedding. She invited a Coworker and the coworker sent the response card back +1. She wasnt invited with a guest but to not cause problems she let it slide. Fast Foward to the wedding... Co worker shows up with no guest so thats one person she paid for that she wasnt expecting that didnt even show up. She never gave a card. 2 weeks later she gave a card with 20.00 in it. Why bother? For 20.00 u could have bought something.

june262004 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:26 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:26 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

Posted by Ronnie&Theresa

His MOTHERS 2 sisters didn't even respond to the E party or send a gift

THEIR wedding invite will be lost

Same thing with my FH dads side of the family. All 5 of his dads siblings never came to our e-party and only one sent a card.

Mike says they shoulnt be invited to the wedding!

jlf41 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:39 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 05:39 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

Posted by V&S03

It happened to us also but the guests ended up mailing us something afterwards. I definitely do not think that it is right to call and ask for it, that seems tacky to me, your inviting guests to be part of your special day and enjoy the celebration, if you expect everyone to give a certain amount you will be disappointed. I do agree that as a guest it is wrong not to leave any gift but I think it would be worse to call them out on it.

I feel the same way. I invited our guests to the wedding because I wanted them to physically be there for the celebration, not because I wanted a gift. Of course I was taken aback by the couple that didn't give us a gift but I know they are strapped and I was just happy they came all the way out and were able to enjoy themselves for a night. Clearly I would never not give a gift, but not everyone has the same etiquette standards, so what can you do? Just be the better person and move on.

ddunne23 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 06:13 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 06:13 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

Posted by jlf41

Posted by V&S03

It happened to us also but the guests ended up mailing us something afterwards. I definitely do not think that it is right to call and ask for it, that seems tacky to me, your inviting guests to be part of your special day and enjoy the celebration, if you expect everyone to give a certain amount you will be disappointed. I do agree that as a guest it is wrong not to leave any gift but I think it would be worse to call them out on it.

I feel the same way. I invited our guests to the wedding because I wanted them to physically be there for the celebration, not because I wanted a gift. Of course I was taken aback by the couple that didn't give us a gift but I know they are strapped and I was just happy they came all the way out and were able to enjoy themselves for a night. Clearly I would never not give a gift, but not everyone has the same etiquette standards, so what can you do? Just be the better person and move on.

I agree with this also. Luckily we didn't get stiffed by anyone, but if we did I would have shrugged it off and moved on. Everyone has different ideas of what is 'proper'.

Tammy5-03 Posted: Jan 16, 2004 06:42 PM+

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Posted: Jan 16, 2004 06:42 PM

Re: Curious? Did anyone get Stiffed at their Wedding?

I had lots of stiffers. I wish I only had one or two to single out. I had a bunch of no-shows too which is even worse. Some people have no idea what is right. Don't worry, you get over it. I used to get all riled up, now I don't even think about it.