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Posted by jannshari

We're not having a kosher wedding, but we're having it kosher-style (no dairy, pork, or shellfish). Our site will provide Glatt kosher meals for those who need them at no extra cost. Unfortunately, they serve them in the aluminum trays that they are packaged in and with plastic utensils. Not so classy, but those who are observant are used to it. The family friends that we are planning on getting kosher meals for said that they would be able to eat any vegetarian or fish entrees as well, so that we wouldn't have to worry about it, but as I said, we get them for the same price as the other dishes, so I will leave it up to the guests whether they want the kosher or another option.

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I was going to purchase a set of matching dishes (cheap from like K-mart) for the kosher meals, but my aunt said not to bother, they are used to it and didn't want me to spend the extra money. You can get the box set of service for 8 with silverware and glasses for like $40 sometimes, I'm sure its cheap but it would serve the purpose for the day.

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I definately like the idea of Jewish Bride Post. I feel like there aren't that many on this board

For those not listed- where is everyone getting married and who are your bands, florist, etc!

I am getting married at EMJC in May! I can't wait!

Groovey Peg to answer some of your questions-and welcome :)

Being covered under the Chuppah depends on your Rabbi- our Rabbi, even though he is conservative said it is ok for me and the bridal party to go strapless!

For the Ketubah - it does need to be a jewish non-relative. I don't know how religous you or your Fiance's family is, but basically as long as they had a bar/bat mitzvah and can write their hebrew name you wshould be ok (this is what we were told) some will allow a girl to sign, in my case my FI best friend is signing, and one my closet friends, bc I couldn't put her in my bridal party so I wanted to give her some role in the wedding. and if you ask me- this is more of an honor than being in the bridal party.

Hope that helps!

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My dad said he would wear one if it made me happy. He wants to be respectful towards my FH's family-his only concern is that he is bald and doesn't understand how it will stay put!

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Tell him they can sew it on, or use rubber cement, maybe shelf liner- you know that rubber stuff. Double sided tape?

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I am all for it! I agree that there doesn't seem to be many Jewish brides on the site. I am getting married April 3rd at Temple Chaverim in Plainview. We ordered our kippot at www.yarmulkes.com and they were $1.89 each which I thought was really reasonable. As for shoulders covered, I am not covering mine. Our rabbi is reform and it is a reform synagogue so I didn't think it was required.

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cknyc check your FM!

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Posted by Jess2

But, if you are getting married by reform Rabbi I think that having a veil covering your shoulders is acceptable.

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That depends on the Rabbi. We're reform and my Rabbi is requiring that my shoulders are covered.

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Oh, Jillgari -

Temple Chaverim is beautiful! My cousin had her Bat Mitzvah there and it was beautiful. Also, my friend who is studying to be a Cantor has a student pulpit there. We were really thinking about getting married there, but since my heart was set on having MY rabbi, we opted for a catering hall ceremony.

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Sorry, princessrose! I guess it does depend, I'm getting married by a conservative Rabbi & it is sort of the 'don't ask don't tell' thing where lots of girls wear strapless and use the veil to cover their shoulders, but I guess you are right. I'm wearing short cap sleeves so it hasn't come up for me, sorry!

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Questions about the Ketubbah signings - I saw someone mentioned that it has to be a Jewish non-relative - my brother can't sign for my fiancee? just wondering...
also - i need your thoughts - one of my BM is making my Ketubbah - she's an artist - and I am really honored and excited about this! I was planning on having her sign as my witness - since she is the one making it - or am I better off honoring another friend who is not in the wedding party and hasn't been 'honored'
thanks!!

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Does anyone know the correct order of walking down the aisle?

Thanks

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Lets start a list of officiants, I'll add them to the first post, I'll need: name, phone, reform/concervitive, whether they do interfaith or not and maybe temple.

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Hi-

Just wanted to say hi!

I'm converting reform, having a Jewish ceremony and a glatt kosher reception.

Question; my family's Jamaican and they are insisting that they make the traditional Jamaican cake. My FMIL insists that the rabbi in the kitchen (that's what I call him, I can't spell his title ) won't allow any non-kosher food into the hall. My family just wants to display the cake and serve it as a favor to people as they're going out. They won't use any diary products either. Has anyone ever been in this situtation and do you have any idea how to solve it?

Thanks,
Nadine

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nsgrahm-

Where are you getting married? The shaliach (rabbi who oversees kosher food) will definitly not allow food into a kosher establishment that has not been cooked there unless it it packaged and says kosher on it. But, maybe your hall will let you leave it 'outside'. We wanted to give away chocolates as guests leave but they have milk so we can't bring them inside. But, our caterer said that he can leave them in the enterance way and the valets can give them to people as they leave. Maybe that is an option for you...

Mindy

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Here's a site that you all may find helpful. Mostly books and stuff dealing with the contemporary Jewish wedding.
http://www.askginka.com/religions/jewish.htm

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Posted by groovypeg

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As for your father wearing a yarmulke, I don't think it's necessary, but it would be a nice touch if he's not uncomfortable with it. I assume your FH and his father will be wearing one?

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My dad said he would wear one if it made me happy. He wants to be respectful towards my FH's family-his only concern is that he is bald and doesn't understand how it will stay put!

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During the ceremony, all males in the room must wear a yarmulke.

LOL, a friend of mine shaves his head and he had no problems at my wedding!

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Posted by mrswask

Questions about the Ketubbah signings - I saw someone mentioned that it has to be a Jewish non-relative - my brother can't sign for my fiancee? just wondering...
also - i need your thoughts - one of my BM is making my Ketubbah - she's an artist - and I am really honored and excited about this! I was planning on having her sign as my witness - since she is the one making it - or am I better off honoring another friend who is not in the wedding party and hasn't been 'honored'
thanks!!

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Unfortunatelly, it has to be a non relative! So, my sister couldn't sign!

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Re: Ketubah signing - My fiancee has two Jewish friends who will be at the wedding - but they aren't THAT close - it seems weird that one of their names will be on our Ketubah forever - but I guess that's how it goes!

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Jewish Brides-

When you walk down the aisle with your parents how do you hold your bouquet? Do you need to have one?

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cknyc, check your FM- another EMJC bride!

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Eliz- You hold your bo-K in both hands and your parents hold you. You don't hold your parents.