My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

She asked me months ago how much I am paying per plate and I told her $150 and she t called me a liar pretty much. She said it can't possibly be that much for Leonards. Now she is engaged and went to Leonards as an option and asked me again how much I am paying per plate (I think to see if I was making up the price and would fumble) She said 'your paying $70 a plate, right' and I said no $150. Again she practically called me a liar saying that she got quoted only $70 per plate and how could mine be $150. I told her we are having an extensive menu. I am good friends with her and I am inviting her and her parents and they are so cheap and I think they would probably give me about $100 for all three of them (even thought they have a lot of money)
I really don't care about the money, but this really bothers me. She buys me $5 presents when she 'requests' $70-80 gifts (she will actually tell me what she wants)Should I just let it go?

Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

I would just ignore her next time she brings it up. You already told her so why does she need to keep bugging you about it?

Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

That is so rude - tell her you are uncomfortable discussing prices or just keep ignoring her when she asks. She's going to give you what she wants anyway regardless of how much per plate it is. Some people are exasperating.

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I agree-either ignore her or tell her straight out you are uncomfortable discussing prices for your wedding!!! It is none of her business, plain and simple!!!

Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

If she asks again, say 'Why do you ask?'

It's a very good way to shut up nosy people

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Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

Wow, how rude of her. You guys are paying a lot of money. Jeez louise. Was that rude Tell her to mind her own business. Maybe it is less for her too because she is not getting married during a prime month? Good Luck!!

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I don't have a problem discussing prices with people I'm close too but she flat out told me that I was purposely upping the price to 'fool people in giving me more money'. So I sat there and broke everything down for her so she saw why it was costing me so much money. But I hate justifying myself. Yes I could of gotten it for $70pp as well, but my mom added a lot of extras in food, drinks, seat covers, ice sculptures etc. But how rude to think that I would say another price just to 'fool people i ngiving me more money' and to actually say that to my face! People give what they can...it doesn't matter how much you are paying per plate.

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Posted by hugs213

I don't have a problem discussing prices with people I'm close too but she flat out told me that I was purposely upping the price to 'fool people in giving me more money'

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I would have responded by saying that I am not trying to fool anyone since NO ONE else has the nerve to ask! (even if that's a fib )

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Whenever anyone asks me, I lie.

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I don't get it. Why would you lie? Are you saying you paid more or less money?

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Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

Tell her if she has ANY manners she would know that it is NEVER appropriate to ask what someone is paying when they are being invited as a guest to something and that is just tacky and classless.

Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

people are nuts! I'd say to her, 'what do you want to see my contract?' Id show it to her just to shut her up and prove she was wrong. Then Id tell her was insulted that she would think I wouldnt tell the truth. I'd turn tables, why should you be feeling bad for her rudeness!

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You some people just can't take a hint. I would NEVER ask someone how much they were paying pp. It's just rude.

My MOH kept asking me how much we were paying pp and I would just say 'too much'. She's the type of person who will comment on how much money you are spending whenever she gets the chance.

The other day she asked my again and I told her she was 'damn, I can't wait to see this'. then she asked how many people we were expecting. Within seconds I could hear her calculator going trying to firgure out the cost of the reception.

Then she calculates how much she spent pp. I explain to her that a wedding in NY is gonna cost more than a wedding in Memphis, TN. That I was having a cocktail hour, sit-down meal and 5-hr open bar, while she just had a serve-yourself buffet dinner at a Holiday Inn. Although the food was good and the hotel was the nicest Holiday Inn I have been to, it doesn't compare.

I wasn't trying to be mean but I had to break it down for her. She just wouldnt get the hint that I didn't want to talk about it with her. She's just one of those people who always compares what she has to someone else's.

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Wel thank goodnes no one has really questioned me about the wedding costs,(even if they did all I would say is TOO MUCH) but your friend has absolutely NO MANNERS. That is just rude, tacky and classless. If she were doing it for the sake of research or something that would be one thing, but she sounds a little bit jealous. She is acting like a child when she starts comparing costs. She is a bit silly for not understanding that extra things add cost. I wouldn't pay attention to her, not worth your time, and don't justify yourself to her either, as long as she is not pying she should not be worried about it.

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its kinda tacky to ask, and more so to say that your lying...

i know the last wedding my family went to was at coral house, and my mom wanted to 'cover her plate' so she called up coral house and the looked it up and told her how much..

Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

By Suven

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But, then there are those people whom I am NOT that close to that ask how much I am paying. My first response is ALWAYS, 'I don't even want to think about it' But, if they push me more, I inflate the number.

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Am I the only one that thinks it is really weird to lie about how much money you are spending on the wedding? I agree it is nobody's business to ask. But if you decide to provide an answer, why would you lie.

I read your rationale, but I still think it is odd. Don't you think that people know how much places are? I am from the area and I certainly have an idea of how much Leonard's is. There is a huge difference between $100 and $200. Maybe you could upgrade a little, but come on...$200. So, if you were to lie to me, I would absolutely suspect it.

Further, even if a person did not know, once you get to the wedding, you have an idea of how much money was spent.

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This friend of yours sounds very odd !!! I used to have a friend like that until I got engaged(she was engaged before me). She is more of an acquantence(sp?) now though. She makes her wedding sound like it is the wedding of the century and mine is cheap when I know that we are paying approximately the same amount, give or take 5 bucks and everything that she has at her cocktail hour and reception is soooo grand but I am having that too. It is very odd !!! When I booked my photographer, it was oh you don't need two photographers and that is so much money and then when I got my dress she had the nerve to ask me how much it was !! When I told her she was like, I would never spend that amount of money on a dress I will wear for one day. (I am venting sorry)

The point is to each his own. I think that she asks you how much everything is is very tacky. I would never ask that. My 'friend's' behavior would account for why I am her acquaintence now.

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Re: My friend keeps asking me how much I am paying per plate(trying to trick me...I think)

Being a bride herself now she should know how rude it is to ask how much you are paying per plate.

I am sorry your friend is stressing you.

BTW....I love your avatar!