Girls I need some newlywed advice?

I am really struggeling with how to do my pictures. I want to take them after the ceremony but we are getting married at the hall. Girls who have taken picture before do you feel like it made it less special when you walked down the aisle? Girls who did not take pictures before do you feel that the moment you walked down the aisle was so special because you had not seen each other? Also if we take pictures before hand we can take them somewhere else, If we do not take pictures before hand we have to take them only at East Wind. Which we might wind up doing anyway depending on the weather. Also we would extend the cocktail hour which would let us have some time in the cocktail hour.

Bridget

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I took my pics beforehand and while I loved being at our cocktail hour and was able to enjoy our day, I do think Gary lost a little of that "first look" since he had already seen me. I had wanted to take pics on the grounds of SL but it rained so we were holed up in the bridal suite we did get a few outside since it wasn't raining hard. I would suggest finding a place or being happy with East Wind and their grounds inside if that were the case and it rained.

Hope this helps.

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Posted by bridget&jimmy

Girls who did not take pictures before do you feel that the moment you walked down the aisle was so special because you had not seen each other?

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So if you could go back and do it you have taken pictures after?

I am happy with East Wind, because I am thinking in case it rains so if it dose I wont have to be worried.

Bridget

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Thanks Jennbaby

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Two of the moments I was most looking forward to was (a) our first look at each other.. and (b) my father walking me down the aisle.. so I would have NEVER considered taking pics beforehand.. EVER.. Nothing could replace that moment.

Message edited 2/24/2004 3:42:00 PM.

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Hi.

I got married at my hall, and I went back and forth deciding whether to take pics beforehand.

Ultimately I didn't, I am very supertitious and I also wanted that first look.

We took ALOT of pics beforehand separately.

I had a very small bridal party. My photographer came to the hotel extra early and took all of his pics, then he went to the Coral house and took pics of Dh and family and groomsmen.

All we had left to do after the ceremony was together pics and a couple of bridal party pics and family pics.

We were done so quickly, it also helped that we finished our ceremony ahead of time, so that bought us some time.

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Posted by MarcellaBella

One of the moments I was most looking forward to was our first look at each other.. so I would have NEVER considered taking pics beforehand.. EVER.. Nothing could replace that moment.

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We got married at the hall and didn't take pictures ahead of time. We were fully prepared to miss the cocktail hour. I really wanted that magical moment when he first saw me- so not being able to go to the cocktail reception was payment for that.

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I took my pictures before hand, and I think it made for the best day possible. I was relaxed when I walked down the aisle, and after our ceremony, all I had to was to have a great time, eat and spend time with my DH and guests.

I think I took like 5 pictures after the ceremony, since I wanted to enjoy the weding as much as possible.

I spent the entier time in my cocktail hour, well maybe like 45 mionutes, since i had to ahve myself bestled in the suite.

I would definitly recommend taking them before.

My friedn put it this way to me, DOn't you think your DH seeing you for the first time, should be a private moment, instead of a moment sahred with your guests?

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I got married at a church, so the first time he saw me was walking down the aisle.

However, this is what I've heard other people do when taking pictures beforehand.

Arrange a place where you and your DH can meet alone and spend a few minutes together uninterrupted. Therefore, you still have that "first look" moment for the two of you to share alone.

It sounds pretty nice to me.

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We took pictures before the ceremony and it was fine. We had our "special moment" the first time we saw each other, and it was captured beautifully by the photographer and on video--it was just not during the ceremony.
I didn't mind it that way at all. It allowed us to relax, and get all the pictures out of the way, and enjoy our cocktail hour with our friends and family.

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I agree, taking pics before allowed us to share our emotions with the first moment we saw each other with just our immediate family (and the photographer) and then we were totally relaxed at the ceremony.

But we aren't all that superstitious, so it wasn't that important to us. Being at the cocktail hour with our guests was way more important to us.

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Posted by MarcellaBella

Two of the moments I was most looking forward to was (a) our first look at each other.. and (b) my father walking me down the aisle.. so I would have NEVER considered taking pics beforehand.. EVER.. Nothing could replace that moment.

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I have to tell you Bridget I had the same concerns also!! I truly did and really did not want to but after talking to my photographer I did it and I am glad I did!

For me I was not as nervous walking down the aisle having seen Frankie before hand, except I hated that everyone was looking at me.

For Frankie he was just as nervous and said it was a totally new and different feeling when he saw me coming down the aisle even though he had seen me all day. Because at that point I was walking towards him to become his wife, not just to take pictures.

I hope that helps at all. But you have to do what is best for you.

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My friends got married at the hall and they took pics during cocktail hour. I got married at the church and took pics befor my cocktail hour.

you have pleanty of time to think how you want your pictures done..

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I took mine before, and I am SO happy I did. We did not have to miss our party, and I do not think I could have made it without him to calm me down.

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We were married at Flowerfield at 6:30, so I obviously day time pics and really had to do it before. HOWEVER...it was amazing seeing him before the wedding. When we saw each other it was so exciting to take pics, enjoy that time then go to our ceremony. I did not feel like my walk up the aisle was not special, I felt like I got two very special moments. When I first saw him, and when I walked up. It extened our day and allowed us to go to our cocktail hour. I LOVED IT!

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Posted by shelzyp

I took my pictures before hand, and I think it made for the best day possible. I was relaxed when I walked down the aisle, and after our ceremony, all I had to was to have a great time, eat and spend time with my DH and guests.

I think I took like 5 pictures after the ceremony, since I wanted to enjoy the weding as much as possible.

I spent the entier time in my cocktail hour, well maybe like 45 mionutes, since i had to ahve myself bestled in the suite.

I would definitly recommend taking them before.

My friedn put it this way to me, DOn't you think your DH seeing you for the first time, should be a private moment, instead of a moment sahred with your guests?

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WE took pictures before and I have 0 regrets. During the picture taking, It was still amazing to both see each other for the first time. Also, during the ceremony, I still got all teary eyed. During the cocktail hour, we were able to chat it up with the guests and enjoy the food! No regrets here. As for the superstitions, we broke all the rules!! We thought about sleeping in seperate places the night before but we decided it that it was easier for each of us to just stay at home. After the wedding, we accidentally ate the top of the cake back in our suite. WE were cracking up because we totally forgot. Oh well!

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I agree with the private moment...ours was very private (with the exception of 2 video guys and 2 photographers...)

but i am glad it wasn't on display...

and you can have that moment alone...instead of on the aisle

here are our first meeting pics:

John got to do the walking to see me!!

how can you not love that face!!!

me waiting






when walking down the aisle...I was as calm as I could be...I enjoyed looking at all the guests (looking at me) and I have those images burned into my head...those smiles!!! they were great!!!


I also loved that I could partake in every second of the day...getting married in the hall cuts down that time!!!

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We had our pictures after the ceremony and I tell you I dont regret a thing!!! The look on my husbands face, I remember my sister saying look at his face, he looked as if he were in awe, it was GREAT, and he was so excited he said I DO so loudly and proudly that everyone started giggling, it was really a great momnet, and I dont think in our case the effect would have been so strong had we seen each other before hand. We had teh hall bring the cocktail hour to us, so while we were taking pictures, we were still eating and drinking, the only thing we missed out on was our Stell Pan player, but we'll catch him in the video! Its a personal decision, many people are just as happy if they take pictures before hand, the groom will still get caught in the moment when he sees the bride walking towrads him along with the beautiful music, I just was against doing it before hand and I like the way my decision worked out, but again, its a personbal decison, its what works best for your situation! Good luck!

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We took our pictures BEFORE the ceremony because we were getting married at the hall and I didnt want to squeeze all my pictures into one hour. Realistically you are paying a lot of $ for everything and you want to have enough pictures! Does your hall allow you to extend the cocktail hour?
If were getting married at a church we would have done differently because there is usually a few hours inbetween to take the pictures.
I didnt feel that it was less exciting walking down the aisle. It was SO exciting because the reality kicks in that in about 30 minutes your going to be married! Plus all the guests are there so its a different feeling.
I had my parents walk me out to where my fiance was waiting for me, with the rest of the bridal party to take pictures. It was very emotional and I had a few quite moments with my fiance.. that we would have been able to do until after the ceremony.
The other thing we had to consider was the time of day... Our ceremony began at 7 so it would have been totally dark if we waited until the cocktail hour.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

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Posted by jennbaby

For me YES!
It was the moment I always dreamed of! Walking down the aisle on my dad's arm, with him seeing me for the first time.

I loved it so much!

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We got married at our hall and took pictures BEFOREHAND - mostly bc he refused to miss any part of the cocktail hour. I had my reservations but honestly would not change a thing. We had time to go to a beach for pics before formal pics at the hall. We were able to spend the cocktail hour with friends that we hadn't seen in a while. AND - He still had the most amazing look on his face seeing me walk across the lawn with my parents, and I still felt radiant!

It's really your choice. I would weigh what your priorities are and decide that way.

Message edited 2/25/2004 3:10:00 PM.