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tinkerb30
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Member since 2/04 499 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/16/2005 6:30 PM
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is it mean to not invite children?
even if they're your nieces and nephews. I don't want kids running all over the place and I don't think the parents can really enjoy themselves. Am I right?
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Posted 3/29/04 1:21 AM 
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nehaliasz
I'm Jaime's Doofy!!
Member since 7/03 1557 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/18/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I don't have nieces and nephews, but i'm not inviting kids. (except fg and rb, if thier parents don't mind). Between all of our friends and our cousins having small kids, it would add another 20 people to out guest list. I also want the adults to have a good time and not worry about cranky kids.
I hope it doesn't sound mean. I LOVE kids. I'm a teacher, so I have nothing against them or anything!
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Posted 3/29/04 1:38 AM
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LIJuneBride
Jesse's mom!
Member since 9/03 2152 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/26/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Areca
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I don't think it's mean - I think it's just a personal choice. We are having some kids at our wedding (my nieces and nephews - who are RBs and FGs) as well as a few that are close to FH. We are having a daytime wedding which I think is better for kids. If we were having an evening reception I'm not sure if kids would be invited. But I really wanted the kids there - a wedding is a family event, and they are part of the family. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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Posted 3/29/04 7:04 AM
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janwinterbridejoy
islanders season
Member since 12/03 6843 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/9/2004 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
chateau briandA+
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
i didnt invite my 2 nephews that are very young i dont think its mean. i think a wedding is an adult affair.
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Posted 3/29/04 7:19 AM
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brideinapril
My First Love.....
Member since 11/03 4449 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/17/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Rockhill in Manorville
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I'm not having children, thankfully there aren't too many real young ones in the family, as for my friends I wanted to give them a break and enjoy the evening without running and having to watch the kids!
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Posted 3/29/04 8:55 AM
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JimmysBride
Board Princess
Member since 7/03 10135 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/9/2004 12:00 AM
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SandCastle
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
Posted by janwinterbridejoy
i think a wedding is an adult affair.
Exactly. Only the kids in my bridal party will be at the wedding. And I chose those very carefully.
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Posted 3/29/04 9:07 AM
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chris605
HOMEOWNER and Loving it.....
Member since 6/03 2235 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/2/2004 3:30 PM
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I dont think its mean - I too am not having kids at my wedding for the same reason - we choose not to have a ring bearer or flower girl for that reason.... BUT let me say this - my one brother isnt speaking to me over it - BUT it is my wedding and my choice....
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Posted 3/29/04 9:34 AM
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steph4777
My little cutie pie!
Member since 11/03 2843 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/31/2004 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Larkfield Manor
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
It's not mean - just a personal choice.
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Posted 3/29/04 9:37 AM
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bobbsbride
Forever Bobby's Bride!
Member since 10/03 1513 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/5/2004 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crest Hollow Country Club
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I didn't want children at my wedding! I dont think it is mean at all. My FI has a ton of neices and nephews under the age of 3 and he fought me until I said ok. I really am not looking foward to having these kids running around like nuts! Not to mention that its $55 for children at my hall and thats steep for children under 3!! (Waste of money!!) I just pray that half of them will hire a baby sitter!
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Posted 3/29/04 9:38 AM
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glamourgirl1974
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Member since 3/04 236 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/23/2004 12:00 PM
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Villa Lombardi's
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I am not having kids either accept for the FG and the RB.
It definetly isn't mean!!
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Posted 3/29/04 9:40 AM
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no stress bride
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 11/03 2672 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/10/2004 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Atlantis Marine World
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
Posted by tinkerb30
even if they're your nieces and nephews. I don't want kids running all over the place and I don't think the parents can really enjoy themselves. Am I right?
Ur right that is my opinion we aren't having any children either for that purpose that is your day so u can do what u want!!
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Posted 3/29/04 9:45 AM
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halloweenbride04
Proud Mommy!
Member since 8/03 2665 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/31/2004 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Miller Place Inn
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
It's not mean, it's you day. I don't want children at my reception either. I have 12 first cousins who range from infant to 24 years old, I had to draw the line somewhere so we're not inviting anyone under 18. That goes for family friends as well, I think everyone understands.
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Posted 3/29/04 9:53 AM
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Spot12905
Waiting for the baby....
Member since 1/04 1672 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/23/2005 10:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Mediterrean Manor
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
Well i am only inviting kids that i think are not going to act up.
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Posted 3/29/04 9:55 AM
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HearzBellz
Always a bridesmaid 3x over
Member since 4/03 10389 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/9/2004 1:00 PM
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Harbor Club
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
We had a very strict rule....not children under 12.
Many of our friends were upset at first, but when they did not have to worry about watching their kids the whole day & actually enjoyed our reception, they were happy with our decision.
Those families that had kids both over and under 12, we actually let the kids come, b/c older brothers & sisters kept them in check! Even still, the youngest was 9.
ETA: we did not even have ring bearers or flower children because of this......
Message edited 3/29/2004 10:07:11 AM.
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Posted 3/29/04 10:06 AM
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diamondgrlie
Board Princess
Member since 2/04 10473 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club - A+
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
No it isnt mean. I agree that the parents can relax and have more fun. The kidsmake really cute pictures but thats not enough of a reason to invite them.
My family has no children and the same for FI side of the family so I dont see the point in inviting all the children of the guests.
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Posted 3/29/04 10:08 AM
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MegLehner
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 12/03 1045 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2004 6:00 PM
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Bourne Mansion
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
We are also not inviting children.
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Posted 3/29/04 10:09 AM
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Rob-luvs-me
It's A Sickness!
Member since 10/02 5027 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/24/2004 4:30 PM
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The Cherry Valley Club
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
We aren't having kids we went back and forth with this - since FH has neices and nephews and I have a few second cousins with children (but they have infants) but then all of their parents BEGGED us NOT to have the kids there so they could relax and have fun and NOT babysit their crazy kids for a few hours - so we decided no children and everyone told us how happy they were with our decision - It is a formal nightime wedding that goes until midnight so we also felt that it would not have been a proper place for 1, 2, 4 and 5 year olds to be. We are having at least one or two people who are 15 and up but we don't consider them children (we did invite two children in the 12 yr range but parents didn't want to bring them)
If we had a day wedding things would probably been different
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Posted 3/29/04 10:39 AM
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KerrC
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Member since 11/02 476 total posts
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10/12/2003 12:00 AM
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
We didn't have children at our wedding either.
I didn't feel guilty about it. At my shower, one of my aunts brought her grandson because she didn't have anyone to watch him. My Mom was kind of annoyed at it, but to me it was no big deal. If she had done that at the wedding, I would've been mad.
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Posted 3/29/04 10:59 AM
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drewsgirl
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Member since 10/03 1225 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/5/2004 3:00 PM
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Hamlet Windwatch - A++++++
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
Posted by MegLehner
We are also not inviting children.
same here
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Posted 3/29/04 11:11 AM
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DrmnBlnd
I need a vacation!!
Member since 12/02 5976 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/15/2004 12:20 PM
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Giorgio's
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
we're not inviting kids. I have been to weddings where kids have been running wild and have actually gotten hurt because of all the playing around. We did not want to have this happen at our wedding.
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Posted 3/29/04 11:13 AM
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OctGroom
If I only had a brain....
Member since 10/03 3267 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2004 5:30 PM
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
it's not mean.. when I was a kid it happened to me and I still love those family members who didn't invite me.
It's your Wedding.. your rules.
Adults won't admit it.. but once the get a babysitter they enjoy the time alone and they cn party without having to be on watch for the little ones. Have a good time sans the kids!
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Posted 3/29/04 11:14 AM
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Jordan
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Member since 4/03 5708 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/3/2004 6:30 PM
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Hamlet Wind Watch
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
Posted by JimmysBride
Posted by janwinterbridejoy
i think a wedding is an adult affair.
Exactly. Only the kids in my bridal party will be at the wedding. And I chose those very carefully.
Same here.
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Posted 3/29/04 11:19 AM
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AJsMommy122
Happily Ever After!
Member since 12/03 10711 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/20/2005 12:00 AM
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SandCastle
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I have to say that IMO a wedding isnt an adult affair but a family affair - kids and all    
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Posted 3/29/04 11:38 AM
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luvsun27
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 9/03 2887 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/17/2004 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Beach Club Estate on Lake Ronkonkoma
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
Posted by Soon2bMsZ
I have to say that IMO a wedding isnt an adult affair but a family affair - kids and all
I agree. I am having kids...and I didn't think it was worth the stress or the argument to exclude them. I hired 2 babysitters to come to the reception and hang out with the kids...and help watch them.
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Posted 3/29/04 11:46 AM
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nicknmb
can it get any better??
Member since 3/04 2475 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/5/2005 2:30 PM
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Watermill
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Re: is it mean to not invite children?
I am not inviting kids for the reason that you don't want them running all over the place. I also think that the parents enjoy themselves more if they get toleave them home!!
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Posted 3/29/04 11:53 AM
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