is it mean to not invite children?

even if they're your nieces and nephews. I don't want kids running all over the place and I don't think the parents can really enjoy themselves. Am I right?

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I don't have nieces and nephews, but i'm not inviting kids. (except fg and rb, if thier parents don't mind). Between all of our friends and our cousins having small kids, it would add another 20 people to out guest list. I also want the adults to have a good time and not worry about cranky kids.

I hope it doesn't sound mean. I LOVE kids. I'm a teacher, so I have nothing against them or anything!

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I don't think it's mean - I think it's just a personal choice. We are having some kids at our wedding (my nieces and nephews - who are RBs and FGs) as well as a few that are close to FH. We are having a daytime wedding which I think is better for kids. If we were having an evening reception I'm not sure if kids would be invited. But I really wanted the kids there - a wedding is a family event, and they are part of the family. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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i didnt invite my 2 nephews that are very young i dont think its mean. i think a wedding is an adult affair.

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I'm not having children, thankfully there aren't too many real young ones in the family, as for my friends I wanted to give them a break and enjoy the evening without running and having to watch the kids!

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Posted by janwinterbridejoy
i think a wedding is an adult affair.

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Exactly. Only the kids in my bridal party will be at the wedding. And I chose those very carefully.

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I dont think its mean - I too am not having kids at my wedding for the same reason - we choose not to have a ring bearer or flower girl for that reason.... BUT let me say this - my one brother isnt speaking to me over it - BUT it is my wedding and my choice....

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It's not mean - just a personal choice.

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I didn't want children at my wedding! I dont think it is mean at all. My FI has a ton of neices and nephews under the age of 3 and he fought me until I said ok. I really am not looking foward to having these kids running around like nuts! Not to mention that its $55 for children at my hall and thats steep for children under 3!! (Waste of money!!) I just pray that half of them will hire a baby sitter!

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I am not having kids either accept for the FG and the RB.
It definetly isn't mean!!

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Posted by tinkerb30

even if they're your nieces and nephews. I don't want kids running all over the place and I don't think the parents can really enjoy themselves. Am I right?

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Ur right that is my opinion we aren't having any children either for that purpose that is your day so u can do what u want!!

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It's not mean, it's you day. I don't want children at my reception either. I have 12 first cousins who range from infant to 24 years old, I had to draw the line somewhere so we're not inviting anyone under 18. That goes for family friends as well, I think everyone understands.

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Well i am only inviting kids that i think are not going to act up.

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We had a very strict rule....not children under 12.

Many of our friends were upset at first, but when they did not have to worry about watching their kids the whole day & actually enjoyed our reception, they were happy with our decision.

Those families that had kids both over and under 12, we actually let the kids come, b/c older brothers & sisters kept them in check! Even still, the youngest was 9.
ETA: we did not even have ring bearers or flower children because of this......

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No it isnt mean. I agree that the parents can relax and have more fun. The kidsmake really cute pictures but thats not enough of a reason to invite them.
My family has no children and the same for FI side of the family so I dont see the point in inviting all the children of the guests.

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We are also not inviting children.

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We aren't having kids we went back and forth with this - since FH has neices and nephews and I have a few second cousins with children (but they have infants) but then all of their parents BEGGED us NOT to have the kids there so they could relax and have fun and NOT babysit their crazy kids for a few hours - so we decided no children and everyone told us how happy they were with our decision - It is a formal nightime wedding that goes until midnight so we also felt that it would not have been a proper place for 1, 2, 4 and 5 year olds to be. We are having at least one or two people who are 15 and up but we don't consider them children (we did invite two children in the 12 yr range but parents didn't want to bring them)

If we had a day wedding things would probably been different

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We didn't have children at our wedding either.
I didn't feel guilty about it. At my shower, one of my aunts brought her grandson because she didn't have anyone to watch him. My Mom was kind of annoyed at it, but to me it was no big deal. If she had done that at the wedding, I would've been mad.

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Posted by MegLehner

We are also not inviting children.

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same here

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we're not inviting kids. I have been to weddings where kids have been running wild and have actually gotten hurt because of all the playing around. We did not want to have this happen at our wedding.