so I met someone at the yankee game last night- interested in opinions..

I went to the game last night with my sister, cousin and a good friend of mine- compliments to my Dad who got us tix to cheer me up. :)
There were three guys sitting one row below us. One was really cute.. So of course when there is a bunch of guys and a bunch of girls you wind up chatting. Were high fiving when something good happened, were talking.... and I noticed there was chemistry between us.. I havent felt that in awhile..
it was realy cold at one point and he offered me his gloves.. O mean real gentlemen.
After the game, were walking out and he manages to find me through the crowd and ask if I would like to go to dinner sometime- he lives in the city.
I said yes and gave him my number.

I know I am in the process of getting an annullment and my husband and I just separated a month ago so IYO do you think its too soon? I mean if you have been following my story, my soon to be ex met a girl and made plans to go out with her.. But to me two wrongs don't make a right.
But its just dinner, it's a night out inthe city, he is a sweetheart from what I know of so far... What do you think...

If he even calls, he took my number so you never know...

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go what do you have to lose?

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I say go for it! It'll keep your mind off things. Don't expect it to be like your ex, and don't expect this one to be the one...But have fun with that stuff like the first kiss, the tingle when he touches you...All that stuff is amazing!

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I say go for it. It will probably be very hard for you but it will be good to get out there and get your feet wet.

Plus he's a Yankee fan so that's a plus right there.

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Def go if he calls!! Like you said it's a night out and dinner.

I don't think this is a case of two wrongs - you're getting out of a bad marriage - your DH has chosen to continue to party, stay out late, drink, etc rather than be in a loving and mature relationship.

I hope he calls soon and I hope you go and have a great time!

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go for it....what can it hurt

maybe the annullment happened for a reason...timing is everything!

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I say why not. There is nothing wrong with enjoying someone's company & meeting new people. Have Fun!

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actually he's not a Yankee fan... He's orginally from California and he likes St. Louis!!! Believe me, he was hetting abused bu us for that..But he was rooting for The Yanks last night.

Believe me, I do not think this is the one!!! It's dinner. It will be hard but I am at that point where I am coming to reality that it is over and i am making peace with it.. I am far from thinking that I am going to jump into something thinking this is the one. That is ridiculous...But my marriage is over and I don't want to sit here crying anymore, wondering what if...Cause my ex is not.. Even if he is upset, he is not showing it when hes going out, having his friends announce that he is single, and giving his number and making plans with girls.

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does it feel okay to you? Do you feel really weird or uncomfortable about it? If not, I'd say go and have a good time. This doesn't have to develop into anything, but if it does then it was meant to be. I would jsut take it slow.

Good luck!!

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Posted by kdelace

actually he's not a Yankee fan... He's orginally from California and he likes St. Louis!!! Believe me, he was hetting abused bu us for that..But he was rooting for The Yanks last night.

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Sounds like you had a good time!

I think you should go, but I also think you should be upfront with him about what is going on in your life. I wouldn't say on the phone but say in person when you two are talking about yourselves.

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Have a great time and definitely tell us all about it!

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Posted by kdelace

I know I am in the process of getting an annullment and my husband and I just separated a month ago so IYO do you think its too soon? I mean if you have been following my story, my soon to be ex met a girl and made plans to go out with her.. But to me two wrongs don't make a right.
But its just dinner, it's a night out inthe city, he is a sweetheart from what I know of so far... What do you think...

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I say go for it! It can't hurt.

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I think dinner is harmless, and plus - it's a great way to get out there and have fun with new people! I say, if YOU are okay with it, then go for it! I doubt anyone who knows what's been going on in your life will look down their nose at you for just going to dinner! I'm sure they'd rather see you do that than stay home all the time and be upset too. You have the right to have a good time, especially after what you're going through right now. And anyway - isn't it a nice ego boost too just knowing that this cute guy is interested in meeting you again! Cute guys asking for your number is a good thing anytime! Whether or not he calls, you still got it girl! And when the time is right for you, I don't think you should be afraid to get back out there and ahve a good time! My advice if he calls you - is to go just for fun, then be sure to tell us all about it after, of course! It's nice to hear about nice things like this in your life now!

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I've been following your story (sorry for all the heartache you've dealt with) but if you feel it's right then go for it. Personally, I think it would of course be best to proceed with caution, though. Best of luck and hey, you never know what could happen! What's meant to be will be!

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Message edited 12/7/2005 2:35:30 PM.

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I don't think anyone can truly put ourselves in your shoes and figure out if you are ready to date yet or not. I think the very fact you are asking us for an opinion means that you would like to go if he calls, but just need some support that what you are doing is the 'right' thing to do perhaps?

You definitely have a right to go out on a date with someone, your ex has moved on and there looks to be no turning back between the two of you. As most of us have read and followed your story, you definitely deserve to have fun and be happy !

Way before DH, some of the nicest guys I met when I was single would be when I'd go to Yankee games with all my girlfriends One guy I even dated for 6 months and it was a sweet , fun time in my life.

Of course I know that story is 100% different from what you are faced with right now. I know you are in a very 'transitional' time in your life and your situation is enitrely unique to most of us on here. I would say that as long as you feel ready to move on and are up for it, then by all means GO FOR IT if he calls!

And heck, after all those Yankee boys I met in my past, who would have thunk I would wind up with a hubby who's a METS fan (J/K)
Good luck whatever you decide! I think all of us just want to hear that you are finding some happiness again!

Message edited 10/20/2004 11:37:14 AM.

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To be honest, *I* would not until the annullment was behind me ...

but you have to do what feels right for you and only you.

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ok, my advice is that you should out and live your life -- no sitting at home being upset, especially since your ex is not.

One word of caution and I may be wrong, so this could be considered a question. If your ex were to find out that you had a new "boyfriend", even though it may not be serious, his lawyer may try to spin so that it looks like the divorce is your fault, that you gave up on the marriage (the proof would be the new boyfriend) and that may effect the negotiation of assets. Since you know he is seeing others, you can make the same argument.

I'm not sure how much you both have together jointly, so this may not apply, but just wanted to throw it out there

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Posted by don424

ok, my advice is that you should out and live your life -- no sitting at home being upset, especially since your ex is not.

One word of caution and I may be wrong, so this could be considered a question. If your ex were to find out that you had a new "boyfriend", even though it may not be serious, his lawyer may try to spin so that it looks like the divorce is your fault, that you gave up on the marriage (the proof would be the new boyfriend) and that may effect the negotiation of assets. Since you know he is seeing others, you can make the same argument.

I'm not sure how much you both have together jointly, so this may not apply, but just wanted to throw it out there

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like i said, since she found the cell phone message, her lawyer could use the same argument

just food for thought -- lawyers will always seek to protect the best interest of their client

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Posted by bluegrl24ny

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Posted by don424

ok, my advice is that you should out and live your life -- no sitting at home being upset, especially since your ex is not.

One word of caution and I may be wrong, so this could be considered a question. If your ex were to find out that you had a new "boyfriend", even though it may not be serious, his lawyer may try to spin so that it looks like the divorce is your fault, that you gave up on the marriage (the proof would be the new boyfriend) and that may effect the negotiation of assets. Since you know he is seeing others, you can make the same argument.

I'm not sure how much you both have together jointly, so this may not apply, but just wanted to throw it out there

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right - but if she already found a message from the ex about meeting another girl..... It seems like he made that first move, so I don't think it would hold up as a valid argument?

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GO GO GO and while you are going..have a GREAT TIME!

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It didn't sound like there were many assets to divide, and with a mediator it is pretty much jointly coming to an agreement over assets like the computer, etc., not lawyers fighting... I don't know. My FH and I broke up for a couple months and I went out with a guy and it just made me so sad--I almost started crying over my chicken parm! I just remembered eating with my now FH and how comfortable it was, and there I was trying to make small talk with a surgeon who was as interesting as a piece of cardboard...But, I digress--only you know when you are ready!