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smilealways Posted: Jan 20, 2005 02:35 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 02:35 PM

Maybe a strange question...

For those of you who had friends/family provide wedding services as their gift to you, how did the subject come up? Did you ask, or did they bring it up? Our best man is a freelance graphic designer, but he doesn't have a lot of money. I think it would be great to have him design the invites that I love, but don't want to spend $$$$ on, as his gift to us, but I don't know how to breach the subject. We've talked casually about him doing the design, but not about the payment. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA! :o)

sophie78 Posted: Jan 20, 2005 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 02:38 PM

Re: Maybe a strange question...

I don't think you can make that decision for him. I think you just need to ask him how much he will charge you and then see if he offers.

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 20, 2005 02:56 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 02:56 PM

Re: Maybe a strange question...

Yup, I agree. Bring it up to him and say that you would be honored if he designed them...then ask how payment would wrk out. This is usually when they say 'I'll do it as a gift' or 'My service is free, I'll charge for the materials', etc...but he needs to say that.

traceyd Posted: Jan 20, 2005 06:35 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 06:35 PM

Re: Maybe a strange question...

Posted by SomethingBlu

Yup, I agree. Bring it up to him and say that you would be honored if he designed them...then ask how payment would wrk out. This is usually when they say 'I'll do it as a gift' or 'My service is free, I'll charge for the materials', etc...but he needs to say that.

I think that would be the best way to handle it!

smilealways Posted: Jan 20, 2005 07:21 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 07:21 PM

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Thanks for the advice ladies! I think that's probably the best way to go.

LuckyMe Posted: Jan 20, 2005 08:13 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 08:13 PM

Re: Maybe a strange question...

Posted by am470

I don't think you can make that decision for him. I think you just need to ask him how much he will charge you and then see if he offers.

Have to agree!!

EireBride-to-Be Posted: Jan 20, 2005 11:49 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 11:49 PM

Re: Maybe a strange question...

Posted by antoinette72

Posted by am470

I don't think you can make that decision for him. I think you just need to ask him how much he will charge you and then see if he offers.

Have to agree!!

Me too. My cousin is a fabulous photographer and is doing our pics. I just asked her what her rates are and she told me she she wanted to give to us. It's definitely a hard topic to approach but you can't go into assuming that he'll give it as his gift.

JCMsGirl05 Posted: Jan 20, 2005 11:50 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2005 11:50 PM

Re: Maybe a strange question...

You girls are lucky! Good for you! Wish we knew someone who could give us a service...a friend who was a videographer or something....maybe win lotto....who knows