RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

My best friend/Matron OH and I were just chatting about how everyone wants us to get pregnant tomorrow.

She says 'What, does my abdomen have a sign on it that says 'This space for rent'?'

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

Oy, tell me about it!

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

Ughhhh, this is my worst pet peeve ever!!!!! I just tell them I'm on the 5-year plan - you know, I still have about 5 years of other stuff to do, such as getting my Master's Degree, traveling, etc.........

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

We are on the 4 year plan.

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

Rachel - I didn't get out of my wedding reception without at least 20 people or so asking me when I was having kids and were we planning to have a honeymoon baby!! I automatically say '2 years' when asked now - and I plan to keep saying it until we're ready, no matter how many years pass!

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

Our Best Man, who's been married for 5 years and no kids yet made it part of his wedding toast that he expects us to have kids soon ?!?!?!? And his wife sent me emails before the wedding telling me that I should 'start punching them out' but not to look at her b/c she's too busy having fun and working part-time. ?!?!?

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

My mom told me yesterday that she was converting my old bedroom to a nursery.
No pressure there!

Ugh, it sucks! Not because I don't WANT to get pregnant, but because people assume that if you aren't, then you aren't trying. What about if you are trying and it just hasn't happened? Then people asking you makes it so much worse!

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

I recently began knitting (everyone at work is doing it) and I was teaching my adult ESL class last night and knitting while the students did an assignment. A few of them asked if I was knitting for a baby. We had two weeks off from class and they asked if I made a baby and that was why I was knitting. I just got married in June, relax!!

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

People ask us all the time too. My DH's aunt said to me the other day - It's your anniversary soon...3 years...don't you think it's time?. I said Time for what? LOL

We're waiting at least another year...to even discuss when we'll TTC.

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

No one asked us that, not even once but now they don't have to

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

I used to hate that! I'd tell people who asked when we were having a baby that 'we're working on it', LOL! That usually shut them up long enough for me to make an escape.

Don't feel bad though, even after having 2 kids I still get asked 'are you going for a third?'

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

I get that all the time from people outside the family. The worst part about it is that I am trying to get pregnant and I get upset when I am constantly asked. We have only been trying for a couple of months but it there is a problem, I certainly wouldn't want to hear that question over and over again!

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

I don't really get it either--just from 1 friend. I think our families still think of us as really young (but we're 29)

I am hoping people don't start asking, b/c I am not sure if we will be able to have children.

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

Well I hit the 6 month married mark recently, and I guess some people think I'm falling behind and should be preggo already . Yes, I have been asked this question CONSTANTLY.. but in my case I think this is because I am older (35) and I think people figure we're 'running out of time' or some other uneducated opinion

DH comes from a family where every sibling , cousin has a least 3-4 kids.. and they are all younger than me So its kind of expected that we have a big family

The thing is, the questions themselves don't bother me to a huge degree ... I do want to start TTC shortly. But its the fact that I feel its a little insenstivie for people to ask in the 1st place, especially since they have no idea what I may or may not be going thru re: medical issues and the like. Hearing the questions , on top of being worried and concerned with my own fertility , well that IS what bothers me to some degree

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

We were just asked that twice this weekend. UGH!! I mean we are trying right now (we're not telling anyone) , but we've got enough pressure with that, don't need people constantly asking.

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

I got the same thing - over and over again. Then - we got pregnant - told everyone and you know what they have the nerve to say

'What's the rush?' 'Why so soon' 'You have only been married 5 months'

You know what people - I DON'T remember asking you for your help in making the decision.


It is all about you and your DH - remember that - do it when it is good for YOU no matter what people say or think.

(oh and I also got a lot of - 'was this baby an accident' - are you KIDDING me?!!)

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

People were constantly asking me about getting pregnant...or they would say...'She is going to come back from her honeymoon pregnant!' People still ask..'So...are you pregnant yet?' How annoying LOL

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

I went to my friend's baby shower this past weekend and everyone asked if I was 'next.'

It made me want to leave early rush home and take my pill.

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

LOL, Kriss, that's exactly what happened to me at all the bridal showers, weddings, and such I went to before we got engaged. 'So, when are you and Adam gonna take the plunge?' It was TORTURE, because I really wanted to get engaged, but it wasn't UP to me!!!!!!

The other day, when I gave my notice at work and told the guys that I was getting a beautiful two bedroom apartment, the next thing out of their mouths was 'For the baby furniture?' Then Harlan started making rocking motions with his arms and humming rockabye baby.

Re: RE: Constant borrage of 'When are you getting pregnant?'

---

Posted by shamrock12472

I get that all the time from people outside the family. The worst part about it is that I am trying to get pregnant and I get upset when I am constantly asked. We have only been trying for a couple of months but it there is a problem, I certainly wouldn't want to hear that question over and over again!

---

It's very insensitive of people to ask questions like that, which is why I never asked people that question, and I've been grateful that no one's asked me for the most part. Most of the people I know have been respectful of the fact that DH and I plan to wait a year or so- I'd love to wait longer but I am already 33 and DH is 34.