For the not yet married....Do your parents know you are intimate with your SO?

My parents, i think, are pretty clueless, or just want to be..LOL. My mom gives me a lecture every time I spend the night at FH's place. I tell her he sleeps on the couch. It's the most ludicrious thing ever. Are anyone else's parents like this?

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yes. tehy read my diary when i first did it. i was like 17 and stupid enough to keep a diary.. but i wanted to 'remember every detail about everything'. idiot.

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when I was a freshman in HS, my parents went through my drawers and found those freebie condoms given away on AIDS day - they've assumed the worst since then. (even though I just had those in a drawer - was not anywhere near ready to use them!)

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yes we had a kid first

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Apparently they have arguments about whether or not we are

My dad thinks yes, my mom says 'not my little girl'

I just keep them guessing

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Well they obviously knew, because I was pregnant when we got married.

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Uh, embarassing as it is.....Yes.
I think they would be nutty to think that we havent!

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I don't know about what my dad thought (ewww to that idea anyway) but after DH and I had been dating for about six months I was hospitalized because of my asthma. My mom said, 'You better not be pregnant' and I assure her that I was not. Then she said, 'Well, I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing.' I was mortified even though I was 31 at the time. I ended up being admitted (which I hadn't expected) and I needed her to get my BC pills from my apt, since I hadn't brought them.

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yes, i know that they know. my dad desn't talk about it. with my ex, my mom once thought i was preggo, and try as i might, i couldn't convice her it was the immaculate conception. also, i'm 29 and fh is 25, what are the odds that something wouldn't be happening. no offense to those who are waiting/waited, props to you.

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When FH stays over he sleeps on the couch. When I go to him we sleep in his room. Mom asked me where I slept at his house so I told her. In his bed...we're engaged after all....her response: 'Oh how cozy' (dripping with sarcasm). yeah...she knows!

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both sets of parents knew -- it was never really discussed, just assumed

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lol, I sat my mother down the very next morning and told her, I did not want all of my years swearing I was pure to go down the drain if I wound up preggo. She always thought I was active, and I wasn't...so if I would have come home preggo, she would have never believed that I was new to that whole world.

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Of course my parents know. We've lived together for like three years. My mother loves to make the two of us feel uncomfortable by shouting things through our door like, 'Hey guys! We're leaving, so you can take your clothes off now!' Gotta love my mother She says it more to make my father gag We don't talk about it in a serious way ever, just make jokes. They also say things like, 'Hey, can you call before you come home so we aren't naked on the dining room table when you come in?' It's a perpetual gross out fest in my house

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I wouldn't come out and have a discussion with my parents about it, but it's pretty much assumed. This is my second marriage and their delusions of me being a virgin when I walk down the aisle are pretty much out the window!

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We have NEVER discussed it. Yuck!

But, we've been living together for a year and a half so I'm fairly certain she's got it figured out

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I am sure mine do!
We live together for 4 years, it would be pretty funny if they thought we didn't!

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My mom knew (before I was married) but I'm not sure if my Dad knew.

I used to stay over DH's on the weekends and scurry home at 5 or 6 am so I'd be there when he woke up... so that he wouldn't know what time I came home.

Eventually though... 6 am became 7 am, then 8 am until finally I wouldn't come home til I felt like it on Sat & Sun. It was NEVER acknowledged by my Dad.

I think he was very much in denial. When we told him I was pregnant this past Christmas (after the wedding), he put his hand on his hip and said 'SANDRA!?!?!' as if to say... 'you did THAT?' He seemed totally shocked that that could even happen!

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My mother knew I was waiting until I got married but I wouldn't even THINK of telling my father that.

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ok i am married but i am answering your Q:

when my DH and I got engaged, and I told my parents we were getting an apartment together - my dad said 'I always thought my daughter would be a virgin when she walked down the aisle' I was mortified! But what did they think? I was engaged to a 30 yr old man and I was 25 - we spent every waking moment together - were they clueless

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I think they probably do.. they just don't want to think about it. Just like we don't want the think about them being 'intimate' even though we know they are.