Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

Ever?
I am curious as to how everyone would react.

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

some dont wear it because of the nature of thier work.... i see no reason why you wouldnt want to wear it.

i plan on wearing mine for life

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

Yes, I think I would be.

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

no it wouldn't bother me.

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

Yes..it would bother me..but, it also depends on the situation..

For instance, on our honeymoon, neither of us wore our rings at the pool or beach..

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If there was a valid enough reason (i.e., something regarding his work or the fact that he was allergic to the metal , etc) then I would be ok with that

But if I'm being completely honest, yes it would bother me a bit if he didn't want to wear his ring. Not earth shattering, but I'd be miffed

Though in 45 years of marriage my Dad has NEVER worn a wedding band, and my parents have an incredible marriage so I suppose it truly doesn't make a difference

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Yes. DH 'forgot' a few days and then I started to 'forget' as well (forget is in quotes because I would never really forget but I am a bit spiteful so when he didn't wear his, I wouldn't wear mine). It really made me feel less married--without that symbol telling the world that I am married, I still felt connected in my heart, but I know the world doesn't know it. Anyway, it really hurt my feelings and once I told him he wears it now. We have a secret signal when we are out to tell each other 'I love you'--we rub our ring fingers together. It's cheesy, but nice.

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I would. Maybe not so much if he had a good reason not to. But over all, I would be upset.

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

no but i grew up with my dad never wearing his - and my parents have been married 30+ years

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

same with me, my dad has never owned one and they are still together

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What angers me is that it seems OK for guys to just say they don't want to wear a ring--they aren't used to it, it is uncomfortable, etc.--but if a woman didn't, I think people would think she was hiding the fact that she is married. Why is this different? I believe all the women on here wear their rings (probably e- and wedding if you have both), and yet so many women have said the men don't want to? And it isn't just working with their hands, it is in general.

I just feel like it is so sexist to say men don't have to but condemn women if they don't. To me, same rules for both of us. If he doesn't wear one, I don't wear one. He does, I do.

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It would probably bother me a bit. Unless, as others have said, it was for a reason like work or something. Neither of us really ever take them off except when I'm putting on hand lotion or my hair serum.
I don't even know if my dad can get his off at this point - I don't think I've ever seen him without it.

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

Yes, it would bother me.

DH tried to say that he wasn't going to wear the ring after the wedding because he just wasn't 'used to' wearing jewelry. I told him if he didn't think he could get used to wearing his ring, then I didn't think I'd get used to using his last name!!

He wears it everyday.

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No, as other people said, I never saw my dad wear his, and my parents were happily married 23 years before they died.

I see the ring simply as a symbol and to me, it doesn't really matter who chooses to wear it or not, male or female. I have forgotten on occasion to wear my ring, and it does feel weird, because I am used to it now, but I don't feel less married on those days.

Realistically, I think women are more used to wearing jewelry and enjoy wearing it more. I may stop wearing my diamonds to work because I am around construction sites and I'm paranoid that I will lose it.

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I would be - because the nature of his job is such that he CAN wear it everyday.
But he loves wearing it - he only takes it off occassionaly to wach his hands.....

My dad has worn his every day since my parents were married...33 years ago. There was even a time where he couldn't get it off because he gained a lot of weight and it was stuck

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I would be VERY upset if DH didn't want to wear his ring. I'm sure he would feel the same if I didn't want to wear mine.

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I would be extremely pissed. I couldn't even deal with how pissed I would be.

It's hard for me to even articulate why exactly, except that we've both been wearing rings since we got engaged, and they're symbols to the outside world that we're married. Why wouldn't he want to wear it - he picked it out and I had it engraved with a very particular saying only the two of us would understand. If it was temporary for some reason or another, fine, but if he never wanted to wear it, I would probably never wear mine.

I'm just that way, I guess.

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Posted by JimmysBride

Yes, it would bother me.

DH tried to say that he wasn't going to wear the ring after the wedding because he just wasn't 'used to' wearing jewelry. I told him if he didn't think he could get used to wearing his ring, then I didn't think I'd get used to using his last name!!

He wears it everyday.

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Amen Sista!

My DH tried the same exact thing...i told him the exact same thing. You know i didn't want to change my last name either, but i did it for him and that to me is actually changing my identity. All i ask is for him to wear a small band around a finger. I can see if your husband can't for work or allergy reasons, but other then that i won't go for it and DH knows it. Now he has actually came back after heading out the door for work in the morning when he has forgotten to wear it.

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I would definitely not be a happy wifey.

Re: Would you be upset if DH didn't want to wear his wedding ring

Yes, I would be pissed off