Anyone ever invited to a shower/bachelorette party and NOT the wedding???

My friend just called me telling me her friend from college invited her to a shower last month and she could not go so she sent a gift...

Then she found out that even though her friend is having over 200 people at her wedding (with some people not that close of friends with this bride are invited) she is not invited....the bride has stated they have too many other people to invite...

She was upset, but said whatever...now she just got an invitation to this girls bachelorette party out on the island...and this girl only invited like 15 people to it.

She was really upset and even though she is not going to go she was asking my advice as to whether she should say something to the girl...i told her to drop it and just not have her as a friend anymore...

Has this ever happened to someone and how did you handle it??

Re: Anyone ever invited to a shower/bachelorette party and NOT the wedding???

Well, I asked around, and it's proper to only invite people to the shower if they're going to the wedding. However, according to my friends anyway, you can invite people to the bachelorette party and not the wedding, since that's less formal and a gift is not expected. This is according to my friends anyway.

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I was invited to an engagement party once and spent nice money on the gift. No thank you note and no wedding invite!! This girl is from my town and I still see her every so often!!

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That is rude. You don't invite people to your shower/bachlorette party and not your wedding. If I were her I would decline the bachlorette party.

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That's just not right.

I've been invited to two showers where the couple was planning on eloping. That was a different story. No one was invited to the wedding.

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i was invited to a friend of my moms bridal shower and as we are getting ready to walk in the place she stopped me and told me that i was not invited to the wedding but her friend wanted to see me...i was po'ed i wish i would have brought my own car so i could leave but i had to sit through that knowing this. needless to say when ever i see her i walk in the other direction. then when it was time for my wedding my mother had the b**** to have her on the list and it turned into a fight ! there was no way over my dead body that she was going!

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HOW RUDE!!!!


(i was invited to a bachelorette party for a girl who i wasnt even friends with- but i was friends with some of her friends- I did not go though)

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I have actually heard of people going to bachelorette parties that are not invited to the wedding, but they usually go for the party aspect. However, i can't understand how this girl can invite my friend as one of her closest friends to her bachelorette party and cannot seem to fit her into her wedding list.

I already told my friend that it is not proper to invite people to the shower and not theh wedding.