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sunflwr29
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Member since 11/04 318 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/3/2005 8:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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I am soooo done...sorry a vent
Unfortunately I have a big bridal party and I have to say I wish I did not ask many of them. Girls whom I have grown up with my whole life and I was in their wedding parties make every excuse not to be involved and it is just pissing me off. One of them said she was going to plan my bachelorette party still has not done a damn thing but always says she is on top of it. Now since she told my the rest of my bridal party that she was taking control they just stood back hestiantly and let her plan. Tonight I had invited the local ones over for wine and just to b*s and talk about the bachelorette party (which is in 2 weeks) and the one who was planning does not show. She finally calls to say she wasnt coming and when we asked her what plans she has made she told me none....
I am just so sick of no one following through on what they promise. I did everything for this girls wedding and she hasnt helped with mine at all....all I have to say is that I am done with even including her with anything and I guess I will plan my own bachelorette party.
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Posted 10/18/05 11:29 PM 
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Pookiesangel
My new favorite picture!
Member since 2/04 3500 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/7/2006 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Swan Club
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
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Posted 10/18/05 11:32 PM
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babybug631
Little peanut due in November!
Member since 1/05 2038 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/17/2005 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
West Sayville Country Club
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
I'm sorry she's being such a biatch. You can still have a great bachelorette party with the people that matter the most.
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Posted 10/18/05 11:36 PM
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tiffandmatt
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Member since 3/05 497 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2007 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
A Beautiful Place
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
I know how you feel!!! One of the girls in my BP, has shown no intrest in my wedding or any thing having to do with it, the only time she shows interest is when she feels that she needs to let me know what she dosen't like about my plans. I want her out of the BP, but then again I don't want her out at the same time, because she is a good friend, who I have been freinds with for many years. She is just too negitive about weddings. I just don't know what to do!
I don't understand why people are sooo willing to try and make things unpleast for us brides. It's as if they have no concept of how to be happy in the moment with us. I understand that nothing should stand in our way to be happy, but people like them make it hard. Hang in there!
Try and talk to her face to face. I was also having issues with a FSIL about the weddings, and after some heart to heart, every thing really is cool between us. Good luck!
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Posted 10/18/05 11:44 PM
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2003OCT10
10 <3 10 <3 03
Member since 7/03 2630 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/10/2003 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Sunset Harbor
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
Unfortunately I understand you whole heartedly... My girls did the same.. absolutely nothing.. It came to the point that I told them that I was going to Okey Dokeys -for crying out loud- for drinks, and if they wanted to show, good and if not that was fine wth me too.. All except for one who lives upstate showed.. FINALLY...
One of my DH's friends girlfriends let me vent to her and she took me out the next weekend with her sisters and threw me a kickass time!!! LOL... Things have a way of working out.. try and stay strong.. GL!!
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Posted 10/19/05 1:28 AM
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Happybride2005
SPRING IS ALMOST HERE
Member since 5/04 15892 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Ariana Waterfall A+++++++++
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Posted 10/19/05 8:23 AM
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LuvMyFH
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Member since 6/05 594 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/5/2006 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
Dont woory I am sure it will work out and the rest of you BP party will plan something great!
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Posted 10/19/05 8:28 AM
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jimmysgrl
It's An Obsession
Member since 10/04 3543 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/3/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Harrison House
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Posted 10/19/05 8:41 AM
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smurray
My Twin....Half of My Life....
Member since 8/05 2578 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/31/2007 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Nassau County Museum of Art
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
When my aunt got married my sister got stuck w/ doing everything, and didn't get any recognition for doing it. Her two MOH's just took over everything at the last minute. Although my sister is not as outspoken as my self she was pissed . So, sorry that you have to go through all of this as well. But sometimes when you have a big wedding party, people start to think "oh well if I don't do it someone else will", or towards the end "they get jealous, and cold hearted".
My wedding party is very small, Mysister, and best friend as MOH's, his sister, and my childhood, and still to date friend as my BM's
Hope hope everything works out for you, maybe a cousin, or your mom can through it for you, do they know the situation?
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Posted 10/19/05 10:36 AM
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idovig
I'M MARRIED
Member since 2/05 1805 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/22/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
LARKFIELD MANOR
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
what a pain in the butt!
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Posted 10/19/05 10:46 AM
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MrsH1156
I'm a Mommy!!
Member since 10/05 3313 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/5/2006 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
East Wind AA+++++++
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Posted 10/19/05 10:48 AM
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cindyandkevin
To have and to hold
Member since 2/05 21575 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/10/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Stonebridge Country Club
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
I'm so sorry!! Don't worry, I'm sure things will work out!!!
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Posted 10/19/05 11:06 AM
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sunflwr29
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Member since 11/04 318 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/3/2005 8:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
Thank you for your support everyone. This morning my sister called me and told me that she booked a restaraunt in nyc and that everything was taken care of. She reached out to the girls who have been involved and they are all excited about it. I guess I am just a little disappointed with the way some people act. I know that if I promise something to someone I follow through and I thought my friends were the same but some of them have been proving me wrong.
My fiance keeps telling me to focus on the girls who are involved and not to worry about the ones that are not. He goes and those who are a part of everything are your true friends....I guess I should listen to my FH
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Posted 10/19/05 8:42 PM
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PeterNChris
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 8/05 1259 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/2012 12:00 PM
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Posted 10/19/05 8:51 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12772 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
I understand. My BP is not even that big but they are quite busy as they work and some are parents of over programmed small children. It can be disappointing - trust me. I am sorry you are going through this.
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Posted 10/19/05 9:00 PM
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suzybilly819
MARRIED
Member since 8/05 1323 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/15/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht club
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Posted 10/20/05 12:00 PM
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Jennie0898
saving bee bees since 2005
Member since 5/05 3083 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/23/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
Posted by sunflwr29
Thank you for your support everyone. This morning my sister called me and told me that she booked a restaraunt in nyc and that everything was taken care of. She reached out to the girls who have been involved and they are all excited about it. I guess I am just a little disappointed with the way some people act. I know that if I promise something to someone I follow through and I thought my friends were the same but some of them have been proving me wrong.
My fiance keeps telling me to focus on the girls who are involved and not to worry about the ones that are not. He goes and those who are a part of everything are your true friends....I guess I should listen to my FH
Your FI is absolutely right! Don't let one bad apple spoil the bunch! It sounds like the rest of your BMs are interested and are taking an active role. Focus on that and don't let this one girl get you down.
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Posted 10/20/05 12:17 PM
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FDWedding07
Kerry and Steve next 8/8/08
Member since 7/05 3705 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/30/2007 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow A+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
I am sorry....I hope it all works out for you
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Posted 10/20/05 1:04 PM
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Laura&Phil
Married! The stress is OVER!!
Member since 4/05 1254 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/25/2006 10:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow A++
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
My girls are all being great to me but not to my Matron and Maid of honor. (tho not many LIKE the Matron). They complain that my Matron wants to do too much for the bachelorette party (spa, dinner, club- they want to cut out the spa even tho my MOHs tell me it wasn't adding that much-maybe 25-30) yet when I say that I'm not registering for big ticket items on because I know money is tight for people and I don't want them to feel obligated (which is true, which is why I understand them not wanting to shell out 25 more...) and the ones who are complaining say that they WANT to get me something big. One even offered to pay for other expensive things. So I don't understand her.
Overall, I think it'll work out.
One of my closest friends was in my Matron's BP and it left such a bad taste in her mouth that she said no to being my BM!! At least she was honest and it kept our friendship strong-maybe even stronger b/c I know she is close enough to be honest!
Hang in there everyone!
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Posted 10/20/05 1:08 PM
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SeptWed
Ryan Gosling....YUMMY
Member since 3/04 1291 total posts
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9/17/2004 12:00 AM
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Re: I am soooo done...sorry a vent
A LOT OF people go through this....i don't speak to one person i had in my bridal party who i had been friends with for years.
People's true selfs come out during wedding planning (friends, bridal party members and family). I was so not expecting everything that happened.
Some people make it about them and forget about you, while other people don't have the time to be happy for you.
The only advice i can tell you is to just remember what these people did to you during this time. So the next time (or the next time) you can remember and think if the relationship is worth it!
Most of my girls were awesome though and went above and beyond.
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Posted 10/20/05 1:08 PM
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