Help - Giving Hall a Final Count

I know that this has been posted before, but I'm still confused. Past Brides...did you only count people that actually sent in their responses or did you count people that verbally accepted as well. We have 212 people who actually sent their response cards back with a 'yes', 10 people who never sent back response cards, but when we called said that they were coming, verbally accepted, 4 people who never returned our phone calls when we called to see if they were coming and 4 people who we didn't even call because we honestly didn't want them to come in the first place. What # should I give the reception hall?

The hall said that we could add people the night of the wedding if they show up, but that if we pay for people that don't show, we don't get our $ back. I know where I would seat the 10 people that never sent in the response cards if they did show up and there is room for those people at various tables if they do show up, so it wouldn't be like the hall had to add an extra table, just extra place settings.

Sorry for the long and drawn out post...it's just that paying for ten people is alot of $ and I don't really trust that these people will show up being that they couldn't even send the response card back.

Ughh!

Re: Help - Giving Hall a Final Count

I would tell them the 212 plus the 10 that verbally said yes. I wouldn't count any others. If need be they can be paid for that day. You might end up having some no shows and then the other will show so it could even itself out. But don't pay for any that haven't said yes. Also, if you do end up paying for additional people that didn't show, make sure they wrap those dinners for you to take home or send them home with a relative, you paid for them!!

Re: Help - Giving Hall a Final Count

I didn't get all the RSVP's back but I did hear from everyone. I had a few verbals (I guess the pre-stamped self addressed RSVP card was just too confusing to send back )

anyhow, I am giving my hall the final count on Monday, for everyone who responded, verbally and via mail.

Re: Help - Giving Hall a Final Count

don't feel bad, it looks like we're going to end up paying for 25 people (our numbers were alot less then we expected!). We're tyring to get the hall the lower our gaurantee, we were at 300, and we're trying to get him to 275.

I would give the hall as accruate of a count as possible and would have to say that the people you haven't heard from are going to be 'NOs' That's how I'm looking at it. I'm not going to chase these people down two weeks before my wedding. Besides, we have to give our final count on Monday

Re: Help - Giving Hall a Final Count

I would only include those that you got a 'yes' from verbally or in writing. Don't count the ones you did not hear from.

Re: Help - Giving Hall a Final Count

I would only count the ones you got a yes on your RSVP's from and verbally-in the end if you add everyone you might wind up paying more...it is more cost efficient if you do it that way b/c then you dont wind up paying for people who dont show up