I hate my FH today!

My FH usually uses the bathroom with his laptop. (Sorry to be gross). He loves doing research, and reading online football stuff. Anyways, I go into the bathroom (he leaves the door open) and I see that he is looking at porn!!!!! I freaked out, and made him sleep on the couch. While I know looking at porn is normal for guys, it just made me so angry!!!! I feel like he's cheating (I know it's dramatic) It just concerns me that maybe he finds those women more desirable, or that maybe I'm not enough for him and he will start looking outside our relationship for sex. I'm freaking out! and I cant stand him today!

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Ouch!!

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Hey honey, it's a guy thing they can't help themselves. I would not worry over it I would only become worried if there is an addiction. Some men can become addicted to porn and that can be a super huge problem. As long as he is not addicted then do not worry about it.

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I understand where you are coming from and think you have every right to be angry. WIsh there was something more I could say..

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I wish i could say something to make it all better - but I would feel the same way if I were you. I know it shouldnt be a concern and that its 'normal' but it would hurt me too. I'm sorry!!

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Okay let me tell you about my FH and I. My FH has porn on his phone. Which I don't mind, I actaully enjoy a dirty movie or pic myself every now and then. Well he gets mad every time I take his phone and check out his porn. I do it because it ruffals his feathers a bit. Well I confronted him, with why the big secret with the porn? I know its there, I can get to it easly even with his password block. And he told me, its more fun when you have to hide it. It had nothing to do with how I looked or am in bed, its just part of the excitment of hiding it and looking at as a rebel. He had to hide it from his parents, when he lived at home and he likes to hide it from me. LOL So its some game apparently a lot of guys like to play. I say let them.
My FH goes to strip clubs and has his porn, big deal. Hes comming to me in our bed and thats what matters.
I don't think your FH feels that your poor in bed, or would take those girls over you. He just likes to get the thrill out of doing something a little naughty. Heck isn't that why we all like porn, or lace panties, or lingera? Its naughty, its private and its often a secret. Heck this is the first time I've seen this topic on here.
Really don't worry about it. Your fine, hes marrying you! He bought you a big expensive ring, he is living with you, he is ready to totally commit his life to you! Unless he is sendy some naked chick on the internet roses and diamonds, I would say you have NOTHING to worry about. Try to relax, your beautiful, happy, smart and a good person. Most of those girls online aren't even real. He knows this, and that is why he is with you. Your the real thing, his real love. Please make up. I hate to see couples breaking splitting over such things.

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Maybe the reason he hides it from you is because he knows you will react this way.
Men are stimulated visually, and a lot of men look at porn in different ways (websites, magazines, strip clubs). It is a billion dollar industry.

For some men, love and sex don't mix. For them, love is reserved for 'good' women, and sex is reserved for 'bad' women. These girls that they look at are the 'bad' women.

You can either ignore it and let him do it in private away from you or talk to him about it.
Good luck.

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FH and I have had so many fights over the years, about porn. I get so angry, even though I know its normal, I feel rejected.

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Posted by EmberLynn

Okay let me tell you about my FH and I. My FH has porn on his phone. Which I don't mind, I actaully enjoy a dirty movie or pic myself every now and then. Well he gets mad every time I take his phone and check out his porn. I do it because it ruffals his feathers a bit. Well I confronted him, with why the big secret with the porn? I know its there, I can get to it easly even with his password block. And he told me, its more fun when you have to hide it. It had nothing to do with how I looked or am in bed, its just part of the excitment of hiding it and looking at as a rebel. He had to hide it from his parents, when he lived at home and he likes to hide it from me. LOL So its some game apparently a lot of guys like to play. I say let them.
My FH goes to strip clubs and has his porn, big deal. Hes comming to me in our bed and thats what matters.
I don't think your FH feels that your poor in bed, or would take those girls over you. He just likes to get the thrill out of doing something a little naughty. Heck isn't that why we all like porn, or lace panties, or lingera? Its naughty, its private and its often a secret. Heck this is the first time I've seen this topic on here.
Really don't worry about it. Your fine, hes marrying you! He bought you a big expensive ring, he is living with you, he is ready to totally commit his life to you! Unless he is sendy some naked chick on the internet roses and diamonds, I would say you have NOTHING to worry about. Try to relax, your beautiful, happy, smart and a good person. Most of those girls online aren't even real. He knows this, and that is why he is with you. Your the real thing, his real love. Please make up. I hate to see couples breaking splitting over such things.

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Bonnie.. Im quite impressed!!!!

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I'm going to be graphic and honest:

I don't think that you have cause for concern. Married guys watch porn and they masturbate - it's just fact. And I'm sure that married women do it, too. FH watching porn doesn't mean that he finds those women more desirable by any stretch of the imagination. And it's not indicative of him wanting sex outside of a relationship. Really.
I'm sure if you talk to him about your feelings, he'll reassure you that he only wants to be with you - he was probably really embarrassed that you caught him with it!

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Thank you all! I feel a litle better. I guess my freaking out is based on my own insecuruties and I need to get a grip. You all have great advise to share and I appreciate it!!!!

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Posted by RachelisEngaged

Thank you all! I feel a litle better. I guess my freaking out is based on my own insecuruties and I need to get a grip. You all have great advise to share and I appreciate it!!!!

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Don't worry about it. Men are just plain visual in that sense.

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Dont be upset. Men LOVE porn- its in their DNA. I laugh whenever i know FI watches it bc i get a kick out of how horny guys really are. He gets WELL taken care of and they just need more. They are little piggies

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Actually watch it sometimes with DH.

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Posted by Mrs. Powell

Actually watch it sometimes with DH.

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when I found it, I waited for FH to get home and then played it really, really loudly for FH as he walked in. He's still embarrassed about it.

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Hey me too! You know what, I'm an adult and I like it! I say what is the point of being a grown up if you can't have grown up fun!

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Sorry you feel this way.

I went thru a similar situation with a friend.

She hates her man looking at porn and found a magazine not even that bad like maxim magazine.

She totally frocked on the phone with me and thought of it as cheating.

On the other hand I don't and would never care if FH looks at porn. It's no big deal to me and I don't think it's cheating.

It is all a matter of opinion and how you feel. honestly my friend knows she is insecure and I think that's why she gets upset she finds herself thinking why am I not good enough to look at, he is not happy with me, he's cheating on me, etc.

I don't feel that way Men are Men and they like to look.

It really is all about how you feel if you think it's cheating it's cheating. Some girls really get upset about this and others like me don't mind.

If it bothers you, you need to let him know how you feel. You should say something like I know you thinks it's ridiculous but this is how I feel and I can't help the way I feel about it.

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It is in everyone's nature to be turned on and excited over the opposite sex-looking and thinking are very different from acting out-

Porn is great-where else can you see such fine cinematic talent.

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Posted by Mrs. Powell

Actually watch it sometimes with DH.

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Youre not alone there