FH and I just had a big fight! I need hugs...

I started dieting as of the 1st of the year and tonight I had steak and salad for dinner. He accused me of having potatoes with dinner and saying 'what happened to your diet?' It blew up into a huge argument where I kicked him off of the couch and threw him out of my parents house. I constantly have my weight on my mind and he knows how sensitive I am.

It's not the first time he's done it. My sister says he's trying to help but he doesn't realize that when he does that it only reminds me that I'm fat. I'm crying and feeling very blue right now. I need hugs please...

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IF I were you I would talk to him. Tell him that although you appreciate that he is trying to be supportive, his criticism isn't helping you diet, it is just hurtful. He probably doesn't realize what he did wrong - guys just aren't that sensitive to many issues that plague our lives!

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i'm sorry your upset. i dont blame you for being angry and hurt. explain to him that he needs to support you 100% and that EVEN if you did have potatoes for dinner its okay. Explain that in order to keep this up long term you need to be able to have carbohydrates (in moderation.) Plus, I have to recommend walking. Walking is key when you want to lose weight and it will make you feel great!
good luck! dont be so down on yourself either - your FI even if he says the wrong things loves you no matter what.

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im sorry your sad...

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It's important he realizes that he is an important part of your healthy eating journey. Even if you wanted a piece of chocolate - if you are controling yourself and making even small changes he has to understand how important that is... However, cutting carbs despite what the media says... is not healthy!!! Tell him that programs like Weight Watchers allow carbs and they shouldn't be eliminated. If you eliminate carbs one side effect is depression and mood swings. For that reason alone tell him your doing him a favor by having some potatoes... FH lost about 30 lbs on WW and I made him my dad's stew this week which has potatoes, peas and carrots... did someone say carbs??? He still lost weight this week!!! He controls his portions and counts the points/calories...

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I feel your pain and have been where you are.
Keep your chin up. The most important thing to realize is that you are doing this for YOU, not for your FI, the wedding, your sister or anyone/thing else.

Good luck. It is hard work.

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I don't mean any harm but if things happened the way you wrote I don't think he did anything wrong. All he did was ask a question.


It sounds like you are feeling fat and blew up at him because of it.


Evidently he finds you gorgeous he has plans to marry you. Your negative views of yourself sound like they are causing you to treat him harshly.

JMO from what you posted

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i have the same opinion. i'm trying diets too and once in a while my FH will ask your going to eat that, he does it out of support not to be harsh tryin to keep me aware of my goal. he jokes too but just cause i'm doing it for myself not for him . he couldn't care less if i lost the weight or stayed the same and i'm sure your FH feels the same way

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I'm going to play devil's advocate for a second...

are you constantly complaining to FH about your weight? If so, then it's only fair he points things out to you... When I complain to FH abt my weight and then he sees me eat junk - he says the same thing - I can't get upset because I put him thru hell sometimes with how I trash myself.... He doesn't want to hear me do that to myself, but if he sees me eat junk, he's like - what? why?

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boys can be such buttheads sometimes

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Let him know its YOUR diet! not his... my dad has done this to my mom for their entire marriage, he thinks its out of love for her... the only thing its done is caused my mom to closet eat late at night when he's not there and has struggled with her weight for along time now..

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