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Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:27 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:27 PM

Please tell me I'm not the only one...

that has been fighting more with their FH since the engagement? I'm not sure what it is but we are finding fault with each other more than ever and it is upsetting me so much. I think it is partially because FH hates to talk about money and that seems to be all we are talking about lately. Am I the only one?

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:28 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:28 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

it's stress.... it's ok - we had a lot of arguments because my family was getting way too involved and really stirring crap up... but we tried hard to remove ourselves from the drama...

BJandDan Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:28 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:28 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

See my previous post about FH not shining AT ALL!!!!!

So no, you aren't the only one. I snap at the drop of a hat. He doesn't listen. It isn't very pretty.

Beth1210 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:29 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:29 PM

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we did- and after the wedding we have barley fought

it all the added stress- plus my hubby opened his own business during this time- talk about a double whammy!

kellwolfe Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:29 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:29 PM

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Don't worry that will stop soon ....I know that right after we got engaged there were a few issues - but once we sat down and figured everything out on paper we both calmed down and things have been back to normal

ali120206 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:30 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:30 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

We've been arguing more, it's not as much wedding related as it is money related!!!

pupidda122505 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:31 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:31 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

we've def. fought more since we got engaged. at first i thought we weren't normal but then after talking to some friends and reading some of the posts i realized its normal. please we had a mini fight yesterday over a hero sandwich...we're fighting over the stupidest things. i guess it's all the stress and non-stop talk about the wedding and we're both veryyyyy stubborn which doesn't help either.

ali120206 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:40 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:40 PM

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I take that back, we have argued about wedding stuff too, the fact that I want to get stuff done and he thinks we have time, some of the registry (just to name a couple). Money has been the biggest one though.

JandJ1224 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:41 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:41 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

I'm having a similar experience. I think its mostly caused by his family who is totally unsupportive of us getting married which really hurts my feelings and causes conflicts and drama! I have been trying so hard to not let them bother me though.... FH also gets annoyed because I am obsessed with wedding planning-all the details, but thats part of who I am and why he loves me in the first place RIGHT!?

nygirl77 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:55 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 03:55 PM

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You are soooo not the only one! Fh and I argue all the time, especially about money.

EJSD2006 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:35 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:35 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

Posted by Katie&Chris2006

that has been fighting more with their FH since the engagement? I'm not sure what it is but we are finding fault with each other more than ever and it is upsetting me so much. I think it is partially because FH hates to talk about money and that seems to be all we are talking about lately. Am I the only one?

it'll get better. when FH and I were booking the major vendors, we argued almost everyday. mainly about $. my FH is 'frugal' to put it nicely and couldn't see the point in spending the money. eventually we compromised on everything and now he just leaves me alone. its just stress. believe me, we were both overwhelmed initially when we realized how much the wedding was going to cost. chin up...

FallBride05 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:38 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:38 PM

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you're not the only one and it will get better. With the excitement, emotion and stress of wedding planning.... it's only natural to 'bite' at eachother. I was on a mood swing ride roller coaster for much of our engagement. Good thing it was a short engagement!!!!

It does get better!

hmm8191 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:43 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:43 PM

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You're so not alone! But as everyone has said it will get better.
DH and I fought a lot when we got engaged and even more 5 mths later when we moved in togather. We were engaged for 2 years and about 6 mths before the wedding we hit out stride. We've been getting better, and better. We still argue of course but nothing like it was right after we got engaged.

SweetCin704 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:54 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 04:54 PM

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You're totally not alone. I want to pull my hair out sometimes. I handle all the bills & am quite anal about paying ahead of time & knowing our balance to the penny & he's so nonchalant & will spend $ & not let me know & then I blow up when the bills come in (nothing major, but TALK to me about it). We've been arguing over $ nearly every month....he'll finally sit down & talk when I'm at my end & he'll say he understands & then the next month its the same thing.

I can totally relate & feel free to fm me if you need to talk!

Cindy

DanaRenee Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:05 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:05 PM

Re: Please tell me I'm not the only one...

We argued for the first few weeks over stupid stuff...leave it up to FH to say 'this is ridiculous, this is supposed to be the happiest time in our lives...lets calm down!' It worked, and the arguing is almost non existant now.

I think it'll calm down...just be patient and understanding w/eachother!!

Bridex100 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:12 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:12 PM

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We fought more right after we got engaged. I was getting mad at him for not putting ANY effort into wedding planning. He just explained that he doesn't have much input. We don't fight at all anymore.

I just realized that I am marrying him, not his taste in flowers, linens, invitations.

cammolax23 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:16 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:16 PM

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cherryj24 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:23 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:23 PM

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We fought a lot at first, a little in the middle, and now we worked out all the kinks so it is tough but you have to play as a team. It will get easier.

Shorty McBride Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:26 PM+

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Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:26 PM

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Funny to read this post, 'cause we're fighting right now.

He was MIA for hours last night and NEVER CALLED ME or answered MY calls. I thought he was roadkill somewhere....he doesn't understand why I was so upset/mad about that - he thinks I'm just being possessive!

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Jan 20, 2006 05:27 PM+

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