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lanabean
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 11/04 2355 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/19/2005 3:00 PM
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Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
They came, they ate, they danced--they stiffed!
Anyhoooo......should we go? Usually if I can't go, I give a gift; DH thinks we should not go, not send a gift. What do you think? If we go, I will give a gift. It isn't my style not to.
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Posted 1/21/06 2:12 PM 
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Mrs. dleeny
My most beautiful day ever
Member since 3/05 12395 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2005 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club A+
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I would go... hey, it's a night out! 
I would probably give them something in the $50 range off their registry.
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Posted 1/21/06 2:17 PM
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kbeana24
I want to do it again!
Member since 6/04 1305 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/21/2005 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
John Anthonys: A-
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Give them a card saying you hope they enjoy their wedding as much as you did yours.
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Posted 1/21/06 2:39 PM
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jeanla4c
THREE YEARS already!
Member since 8/04 5242 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/9/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau La Mer
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I always love to go to weddings if we can.... We are STILL getting gifts maybe they'll remember Do whatever feels right to you guys 
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Posted 1/21/06 2:41 PM
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Soccer_Girl
"I'm Addicted"
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Message edited 11/4/2006 4:39:51 PM.
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Posted 1/21/06 2:49 PM
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DjPiLL
Mr. & Mrs. Pill
Member since 4/04 4198 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2005 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club A+
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Go and give like $50 buks.
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Posted 1/21/06 2:52 PM
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girlygrl33
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 10/02 2644 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/22/2005 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
because
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I would def go and give them something off their registry around the 50 buck range along with a card saying thank you for inviting us and I hope you enjoyed our wedding as much as we did yours!
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Posted 1/21/06 2:56 PM
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AnniesSS
We're now homewoners!!!
Member since 1/05 3147 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/12/2005 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Beach Club Estate
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by coopersmom
Posted by kbeana24
Give them a card saying you hope they enjoy their wedding as much as you did yours.
I think you should go. It's just so much fun to go to wedding and party and have fun. I can understand your wanting to give a gift and I think I would feel the same way.
I love the card idea too!!! I would go and have fun. Why not - unless you have something better to do. lol
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Posted 1/21/06 3:26 PM
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suven
Sunny skies on my wedding day!
Member since 8/03 5968 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/30/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck: A
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
go and give a check for $50 and write something like "I hope you enjoyed our wedding as much as we enjoyed yours"
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Posted 1/21/06 4:53 PM
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lanabean
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 11/04 2355 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/19/2005 3:00 PM
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
If you remember, this is the person for whom I wrote on their thank-you card:
We hope you enjoyed yourselves.
DH thinks it's ballsy to even invite us.
LOL
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Posted 1/21/06 4:57 PM
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SeptWed
Ryan Gosling....YUMMY
Member since 3/04 1291 total posts
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9/17/2004 12:00 AM
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I would go and just give a card. One of the nice things of getting married is we get to give back the same amount other couples gave us. It makes things so much easier. If i ever were invited to one of the non gifters weddings i would go and only give them a card. If later they sent something to us then i would do the same thing.
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Posted 1/21/06 4:59 PM
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wood2be
My Prince has come!
Member since 1/04 2639 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/10/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Montauk Yacht Club - FM me for details
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by kbeana24
Give them a card saying you hope they enjoy their wedding as much as you did yours.
I would do the same.
It's always in the back of my mind, what if they did leave a gift and it got lost in the shuffle.
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Posted 1/21/06 5:12 PM
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DjPiLL
Mr. & Mrs. Pill
Member since 4/04 4198 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2005 5:00 PM
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Swan Club A+
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by wood2be
Posted by kbeana24
Give them a card saying you hope they enjoy their wedding as much as you did yours.
I would do the same.
It's always in the back of my mind, what if they did leave a gift and it got lost in the shuffle.
Which is why you should always give a check for a wedding. When the check never gets cashed... I am sure the people giving the gift will inquire about it. Confusion averted.
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Posted 1/21/06 5:19 PM
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wood2be
My Prince has come!
Member since 1/04 2639 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/10/2004 3:00 PM
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Montauk Yacht Club - FM me for details
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by DjPiLL
Which is why you should always give a check for a wedding. When the check never gets cashed... I am sure the people giving the gift will inquire about it. Confusion averted.
Exactly! I am always surprised at how many people give cash. It's so easy for it to get lost.
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Posted 1/21/06 6:05 PM
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Bunnymonkey
Feels like home to me...
Member since 6/04 4861 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/11/2005 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Raphael Vineyards
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I agree with the majority - go, eat, dance, have a blast and just give a card.
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Posted 1/21/06 6:16 PM
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Blu-ize
My House
Member since 8/04 8305 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/28/1998 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Meadow Jewish Center
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I'm in the minority. I would take the high road. I would go if I could and give a gift that I would normally give. If we couldn't go, then I would send a card and check as well.
Two wrongs don't make a right JMHO.
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Posted 1/21/06 6:45 PM
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mrswask
The Dutchess
Member since 9/03 5840 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/1/2004 7:00 PM
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Chateau La Mer
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
I would go and give a cheaper gift off the registry.
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Posted 1/21/06 10:18 PM
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lanabean
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 11/04 2355 total posts
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3/19/2005 3:00 PM
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
PS: There was no chance it got lost in the shuffle; this person came up to me AT the wedding and told me they "forgot" it. We never got anything. Of course, at the wedding we said, "Hey--no worries." It wasn't exactly something we were thinking about; we were just so elated. But then this person kept saying, "Gosh, I keep forgetting!" Guess they never remembered.
Thanks for the opinions!!!! We will probably end up going. I would never not give something if I attend. I agree, two wrongs don't make a right.
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Posted 1/22/06 7:10 PM
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hbradio
Our board is gone :-(
Member since 11/03 9840 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/29/2005 4:00 PM
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Chateau Briand
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by DjPiLL
Go and give like $50 buks.
I would do the same. Maybe when they open your card they will start to say what the heck only $50??? And realize they gave you NOTHING!
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Posted 1/23/06 10:20 AM
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wood2be
My Prince has come!
Member since 1/04 2639 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/10/2004 3:00 PM
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Montauk Yacht Club - FM me for details
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by lanabean
PS: There was no chance it got lost in the shuffle; this person came up to me AT the wedding and told me they "forgot" it. We never got anything. Of course, at the wedding we said, "Hey--no worries." It wasn't exactly something we were thinking about; we were just so elated. But then this person kept saying, "Gosh, I keep forgetting!" Guess they never remembered.
In that case, I would go with a very small check in hand.
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Posted 1/23/06 10:23 AM
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Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
Member since 10/05 3105 total posts
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9/4/2005 12:00 AM
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by Blu-ize
I'm in the minority. I would take the high road. I would go if I could and give a gift that I would normally give. If we couldn't go, then I would send a card and check as well.
Two wrongs don't make a right JMHO.
I totally agree. Sometimes you have to be the better person.
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Posted 1/23/06 10:45 AM
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Blu-ize
My House
Member since 8/04 8305 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/28/1998 6:00 PM
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East Meadow Jewish Center
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Posted by Blu-ize
I'm in the minority. I would take the high road. I would go if I could and give a gift that I would normally give. If we couldn't go, then I would send a card and check as well.
Two wrongs don't make a right JMHO.
I totally agree. Sometimes you have to be the better person.
The main reason I say this is that -will there be a good outcome? Will they say oh, sorry I forgot to give you a check..here let me get my check-book out..embarrasing already...why add to it.
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Posted 1/23/06 11:33 AM
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lrs2005
today is a GREAT day!
Member since 6/04 2065 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/28/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
booked
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Have you decided whether or not you will attend? I am not sure what I would do. I think I would just decline and not send a gift because I would feel way to guilty for going and not giving what I usually do.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:01 PM
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Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
Member since 10/05 3105 total posts
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9/4/2005 12:00 AM
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Re: Hey guys--we got invited to the wedding of our ONLY non-gifter couple!
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Posted by Blu-ize
I'm in the minority. I would take the high road. I would go if I could and give a gift that I would normally give. If we couldn't go, then I would send a card and check as well.
Two wrongs don't make a right JMHO.
I totally agree. Sometimes you have to be the better person.
The main reason I say this is that -will there be a good outcome? Will they say oh, sorry I forgot to give you a check..here let me get my check-book out..embarrasing already...why add to it.
Exactly.
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Posted 1/23/06 1:53 PM
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