I am NOT talking about wedding plans w/ my FMIL anymore!!

Talking about my wedding with her is driving me nuts!! It makes m not like her, and I don't want to feel that way!

She has not contributed ANYTHING and won't be. And thats fine. But it annoys me a little since they paid for his siters ENTIRE wedding, HM and all, and she can't even give her son a rd?

She complains about how her daaughters in-laws didn't help at all and it was terrible.

She comes over last night and made some suggestions about how I could cut wedding costs:
1.Tell the church I can't afford the $250 pastor fee.
2. do my own hair and MU. I can't do my own hair and u that well on a good day, i can't even imagine trying with my nerves all over the place!
3. Go to PA for my HM, that way I don't have to get a passport, and why do Ihave to be a big shot anyway and go somewhere that requires a plane (I am planning on spending less then $3500, and fh and I have not been on a VAca in over 4 years!!)
4. Don't buy my bm's gifts
5. Host my RD in my tiny apt. That no one will fit in.
6. Don't get favors
7. get a fake wedding band, or sell my e-ring and get a cz.
8. don't get prof pics taken, they are aparently no different from onesshe can take

There was more, but I can't think.....

She also told me I should tell my dad he HAS to pay for more (He is allready paying for most of the wedding)

So I said, 'What do you mean he has to, well if you want to go all traditional, you should pay for our HM, RD, and marriage licence!!'

she said, 'Forget aout that, your dad should pay for that'

I have just had it up to here, I feeel like crying!!!

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I am so sorry! She sounds worse than mine. I agree keep her out of it.

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That's horrible!!! I wouldn't talk to her about ANYTHING wedding related anymore. She obviously has issues.

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UGH! I know how you feel! My FMIL wants to know about the wedding plans so I tell her but she will usually have a comment. Ive been ignoring them b/c she really has no say since she isnt paying for a cent of the wedding!

I dont offer information unless she asks for it and then I'm usually vague with my answer. Maybe I'm being a biotch but I rather not fight with FH or her about it.

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what does your FH say about the situation? When she decided to help out then she can be apart of it... until then do not tell her anything.

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First, I can't believe she even said any of that! Does she need to up the meds?

Second: You could mention to her in a very serious way that you expected her to contribute to the wedding since your dad is paying for most of it and you are very disappointed that she doesn't want to help. These days, weddings are a tremendous undertaking financially and require that families contribute in some way. (not that this happens all the time)

I would put the ball in her court. She has to take some responsibility for her son. Come to think of it, your FH should really say this to her.

I'm just a ballsy biatch and I would have flattened her already. I agree don't discuss any of this with her. If you make her feel alienated about the whole wedding-maybe she'll get the hint. If she tries to bring it up with you, simply answer that you have nothing to discuss.

Sending hugs..

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7. get a fake wedding band, or sell my e-ring and get a cz.


OMG forget not wanting to pay for anything or telling you to cut back...but suggesting that you sell /get a fake ring is crazy! Your rings are daily reminders of you and fh's love (and lets face it when you need a pick me up on a bad day its nice to have something pretty and sparkly to look at)

Does your fh know that she said this? I would think that he would be annoyed by this and step in maybe? There is only so much you can take. Definatley stop talking about wedding stuff ...pretend to be mute when she arround or better yet you could take up being a mime ...that'd make her crazy lol...or maybe this is me wanting to do this to my FMIL about wedding stuff....either way keep her away from your wedding planning!

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Boy, do I know how you feel.

Not talking about wedding plans with FMIL is probably the best solution. After I almost told my FMIL off one day, I promised myself that from now on I'll just tell her 'things are going well' when asked.

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we chose to go to the poconos for the hm because we wanted to drive. i would've flown somewhere too. what does your fh say about this

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are you kidding me about her?! omg i would die if that were me, but seriously, if i were you, and your parents or dad are paying for almost the whole thing, then i wouldn't even care what she says or thinks...put it this way, whoever is not contributing, should have no say in how you want your wedding or hm, or anything for that matter! have a heart to heart with fh also. sounds like you need his support.

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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Have you spoken to your FH about it? Maybe he can tell her to back off a bit.

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Look at it this way - at least your FMIL doesn't demand expensive things at your wedding and refuse to contribute towards them, right?

But I agree, she's a total biatch.

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OMG - really I have no words. That is INSANE!

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OMG- I cant believe it. I guess the less you tell her the better off you are. Some of those ideas she gave you are just down right ridiculous. Im sorry you have to go through this.

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Posted by Happybride2005



we chose to go to the poconos for the hm because we wanted to drive. i would've flown somewhere too. what does your fh say about this

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I don't think that there is ANYTHING wrong w/ going to the Poconos. I really like the Poconos. What pisses me off is that she PAID for her daughter to go to Hawaii as a gift.

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Thank you girls for all your support. I don't even bother to tell FH what she says. Theres no point. It will just upet him. OR he won't get it. Ugh... she drives me NUTS.

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Wow, she sounds crazy. Can your FI maybe talk to her and tell her to shut up. If you can just don't talk about the wedding. The last thing you need is more stress over stupid things people say and do.

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What nerve that lady has. I am so sorry you have to go deal with this right now.

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Seriously, I am so sorry. She sounds one McNugget short of a Happy Meal. Good luck to ya.

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Oh my god....she is horrible!!!! What does FH say? He better tell her to shut-up or you should. Don't let her ruin your wedding plans and big day. What an *******!