Are you being completely honest on invites with start time of ceremony?

I am getting married in a church, on a Sunday. We are not having a mass, just the ceremony. Ceremony is to start @ 2pm, and I am hoping all will be on time, but we all know how some people are 'fashionably' or just naturally tardy for EVERYTHING...with this in mind, which would you do?!?!

TIA!

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definately lie! People will be late even if you put 1:45. I would put 1:30 if I were you. People never arrive on time and the ones that do wont mind waiting a little bit.

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Heck No, My family is always on Puerto Rican time (hr later than actual star time)... I put the CH starting at 6:30pm in stead of 7pm (actual time)

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My invitation is for 11:30, but the ceremony begins at 12.

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no! Our ceremony starts at 6:30 and we put 6.

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IMO if you put 1:45 people will know start time is really 2:00. If you want to put an earlier time put 1:30.

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I put the correct time on my invites, but I have definitely heard of people putting an earlier time to make sure guests arrive on time.

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We were completely honest with our start time. If people aren't smart enough to show up on time, then thats too bad.
-It helps that we are having a bus from the hotel to the ceremony, and 75% of our guests will be on it.

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i am putting a start time of 30 min before the actual time for the ceremony on my invites.

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I think we're going to do the same. I'm nervous b/c my ceremony starts at 6:30 - all the way out at East Wind...on a Friday to boot! I'm nervous guests will be stuck in traffic, so we may put 6:00 on ours as well.

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I think we need to tell everyone its going to be at 9:30 instead of 10 (I know, its early) so that FMIL arrives on time..she is late to EVERYTHING!

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I sent out my invites with 2 'dishonest' times.... I put 1:00 instead of 1:30 for the ceremony AND I put 6:30 instead of 7:00 (when cocktail hour really starts).

We intentionally did this because of my family's track record of disregarding actual start times at weddings!

I agree with putting 1:30, people who are on time won't realize that they've waited a mere half hour for the ceremony to start.. especially if they're chitchatting with old friends/relatives they haven't seen in a while.

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i think u need to but the time 1/2 b4 actual start time. IMO

I will instruct my DOC that now one can enter after the ceremony has started.

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our invite says 30 mins before the ceremony is set to start.

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Posted by smara

Heck No, My family is always on Puerto Rican time (hr later than actual star time)... I put the CH starting at 6:30pm in stead of 7pm (actual time)

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Sasha! U crack me up! Same here!! My fam is not too bad but FH 's family are chronic about being late. The Priest told us to put 1:30! Even though the ceremony starts at 2.

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i lied by a half hour! just b/c i want my ceremony to start exactly on time. i'm on a tight schedule...so i cannot afford for ppl to be TOO late!

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My caterer instructed me to call the wedding for one half hour earlier than the start time of the ceremony. No matter how much time and lee-way you give people, some are ALWAYS late. Regardless of their reasons, some legit, some BS, you have to fudge it. We are having the ceremony and reception at the same place. Despite the fact that there is a huge and full CH after the ceremony, guests will still be greeted, one half hour before the ceremony with champagne and very light fare so that those who DO show up on time arent standing with empty hands. I asked that the doors be shut promptly at the beginning of the ceremony as I prefer NOT to walk down the aisle with late-comers.

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I would not lie about the start time...Usually with weddings, people know to be on time & if someone is late, it definately will not effect your day! It is their own fault if they miss anything!!!

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I put 11:00 for 11:30 ceremony. Some people will be late to everything, plus my hall is a bit of a drive east for most of my guests.

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I wouldn't lie. I would be totally p i s s e d if I showed up at a wedding and had to sit there for 30 minutes. If someone is late then they are late - that is not my problem. If they want to be there to see me get married they will be there. I am not going to make my guests uncomfortable by making them wait and have them think that it is Me who is running late.