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Melissa&Steve Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:10 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:10 PM

bridal shower etiquette question...

Is it the MOH's responsibility to pay for the shower or is it split w/the BM's and/or MOB??
TIA!!!

October Bliss Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:15 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:15 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

Traditionally, the entire BP splits the cost with no help from MOB.

sarahbelle Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:21 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:21 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

I think the MOH would splint the cost amongst the BP either with or without help from the MOB.

BJandDan Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:22 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:22 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

My response from BHB.....
I believe it depends on each person current situation and what they all agree on. Your shower is only one of the things they are involved financially for your wedding. No one is responsible for anything if they financially can't do it.

MattsBride Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:24 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:24 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

In my family the MOB always pays for the shower.

evnme Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:28 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:28 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

for my shower--MOB and MOG are splitting the cost.

msnora Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:31 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:31 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

For my shower the costs are being split between the MOB, MOH and BM's ....

TheBigDay Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:32 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:32 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

I think traditionally the BP... when i was my friends maid of honor, the MOB and MOG gave us money to help..

but tradition these days is out the window with most things.. FH side of the list is mostly FH's mom's friends, if she insists on having all her friends invited it would be incredibly unfair for her to expect my BP to pay for them all w/o help.. not only that i know FMIL will expect top noch! soo.. i have made it clear to FH that his mother has to be fair to my BP financially.. either she invites what they can afford or she helps pay for what they can not.. i WILL NOT have my bridesmaids put out by FMIL wanting all her friends there.. i dont think it be an actual issue i know FMIL will help, but i wanted to make sure he understood the fairness if such an issue does arrise... Other than that, I think the BP MOB MOG tend to work that stuff out amongst themselves honestly... when i was MOH, i wanted to make sure all sides were involved.. it is their children... so i had tham all over for lunch with the BP to hang out and throw out ideas and stuff.. it was fun getting together behind the brides back

and everyone love it... (so i am told)...

Goldi1021 Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:39 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:39 PM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

My MOH organized it, but the expenses were split amongst by entire BP and family.

milerose Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:42 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 10:42 PM

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My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

diggity10 Posted: Feb 12, 2006 11:31 PM+

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Posted: Feb 12, 2006 11:31 PM

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Posted by milerose

My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

my mom feels the same way...

AlliNMatt06 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:50 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:50 AM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

My mom and sister (MOH) are doing the bridal shower I am sure. None of my BM have much money, so I don't expect them to run the party.

donofrio Posted: Feb 13, 2006 07:31 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 07:31 AM

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Posted by evnme

for my shower--MOB and MOG are splitting the cost.

Same here!

69 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 07:44 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 07:44 AM

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I just did one.. and we all paid for it.......including the mother and her daughters...

july06bride Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:11 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:11 AM

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My mom is paying for mine and my MOH is one month before me and her mother is paying for hers, all I paid for were some prizes for games

BEANS Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:16 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:16 AM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

Posted by diggity10

Posted by milerose

My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

my mom feels the same way...

So does mine.

M&S Sept12006 Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:20 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:20 AM

Re: bridal shower etiquette question...

My MOH is throwing my bachelorette party (in South Beach Miami) and therefore my mom is throwing my Bridal Shower...

steflily Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:25 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:25 AM

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Traditionally, the MOB should not be involved in the shower since she is the host of the wedding. The BP hosts the shower. But things are different now. Hosts does not = pay for. I've been a BM 4x and the MOB helped each time. And I know that my mother contributed to my (cancelled

) shower.

seta Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:30 AM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 11:30 AM

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Posted by BEANS

Posted by diggity10

Posted by milerose

My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

my mom feels the same way...

So does mine.

Same here. I have been to about 10 showers in the past few years and I think the brides mom or bride/grooms mom paid for them.

I have also been in several BP's and was never expected to pay for the shower, just to contribute to a bigger shower gift.

I guess things vary from situation to situation, I also do not think there is any right or wrong answers. Years ago the brides parents paid for the entire wedding and the grooms parents bought furntiture....Times are changing...as are traditions!!!

nicpizzo Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:20 PM+

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Posted: Feb 13, 2006 12:20 PM

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Posted by milerose

My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.

My mom too, and that was her feeling with not asking for any help financially from the bridal party.