Wedding related JOB descrimination... get this

I have been looking for a job in NYC over the past few months. Someone at my current job gave me a name of a recruitre to use..

so i emailed her. She left me a vm and in the mean time my friend at work asked me if i mentioned to her that i was getting married in the near future, i was like, no i didnt' why shouldn't I?

Apparently this recruiter thinks that girsl are frazzled or something a few months prior and will not be able to focus in a new job, she prefers to recruit them AFTER the wedding, so should the bride to be not measure up in the position, the recruiter doesn't loose her status with the company.. ridiculous right???

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Been there. It really stinks!

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Sorry to hear...something like this happened to a friend they actually told her NOT to wear her e-ring on interviews!!!

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Posted by waterspout4

Been there. It really stinks!

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why is that though? ANd what did you do to get around it? I feel like what if i was 9 monhts pregnant they can't not hire you! So what's the difference, all i'll be is out of the office for 2 weeks and then back to work!

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I haven't gotten around it yet. In my business everyone knows what you're up to.

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Posted by SweetCin704

Sorry to hear...something like this happened to a friend they actually told her NOT to wear her e-ring on interviews!!!

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That is crazy and really makes me

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Yes, I was told in college not to wear my e-ring to job interviews for teaching. They want teaching to be your number one priority. They don't want to see that you will be getting married and starting a family soon, therefore taking a leave. It's very dumb IMO.

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That's stinks.... and I didn' tknow that maybe that is one of the reasons I haven't been able to find a new job!!

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Legally, it is against the law for companies to hire you or not hire you because of your marital status and or pregnancy status. they are not allowed to ask you those questions on your interview. If you do, legally they are in trouble, although I would guess it would be up to you if you wanted to pursue that.

I say go for the job. it's none of that lady's business about your upcoming wedding. they'll figure it out after they hire you and you'll just take the time you're entitled to when the time comes. GOOD LUCK! (although if you already know this lady doesn't 'like' hiring people about ot get married, i might leave the e-ring at home so she has nothing to say to you that could make you uncomfrotable.)

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You know what, I don't like to hide the fact that I'm getting married. If someone doesn't want to hire me becuase they feel that my personal life will interfere with my work life, then I don't want to work there. People stink!

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On every single job interview I've ever gone on (finance) the company has always asked if I have any upcoming events or vacations planned. My response - no, and it was the truth. However, if I did have anything plan, I would tell them when (never planned on anything w/in the first six months) and they didn't have a problem with it.

The only reason I see the company confirming this is b/c they don't want you to start working with them, and now you're already asking to take time off.

Also, in a majority of companies, you accrue your days off (vacation, personal) so if you start a job, and now you're there for a month or two, you won't have those two weeks that you're looking to take.

I honestly believe that when looking for a job - you have to be completely honest with them about major events or vacations that you intend to take w/in six months of hiring. It's for the company's best interest and of your own. Taking time off (especially in a row, like two weeks) can slow down the training and development. There are also other members of the group that might be your coverage, and they're hiring b/c they haven't had a vacation in a while, and have seniority to that time.

I'm not justifying what the recruiter said or did by any means. She was completely inappropriate and wrong in stating the REASON why she didn't work with brides until after the wedding....it would've been a lot better to have heard the legitimate reason to why she doesn't work with brides.

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Thanks girls.. so i'm torn between telling her not all the facts, and some of the facts, i prefer to be an upfront kind of person.

I hope i find a job on my own rather than through a recruiter anyway, so we'll see how it goess!!

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the only reason you should tell her is for the vacation time that goes along with the wedding...you dont want to keep that from them- then have it come up when its too late

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That is complete discimination and no employer can ask that when hiring!!!!

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That is horrible! I started my current job 6 months before the wedding. I wanted them to know that I needed the time off. Luckily they were ok with it.

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I just went on an interview and told them I was getting married and they did not seem to have a problem with it-but who knows what they thought after I left. Companies want to feel like they are number one and you have no life outside of work.

My company now madates that you take all your vacation at one time-glad that my boss is good to us because he understands that there will be a few days I have to take off to take care of things.

It is very frustrating though.

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I have to be completely honest.....

I'd probably be fired from work if i was new to this job. And that's why I waited till after the wedding to find a new one. I am not frazzled, but as you can see I am online a lot, I'm doing my programs as we speak, etc. etc. etc. I can kinda understand what they are saying.

But if you are looking for a new job, I'd just mention once you were offered a position that you will need vacation time for your wedding.

HTH

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For me it was different. I work in a male dominant field. I did wear my e-ring for my interview b/c I wanted them to know I was serious about working, not using the job to find men to date and socialize with.

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Every interview I went on after I was engaged, I had my ring on. And I was always upfront about my wedding and the time I would need off for the honeymoon. I always figured being honest about it right away was the better option. And you know what? No one had a problem with it. I had 3 offers at one time 2 months ago, so that goes to show you, if the company really wants you, they will work with you.

As far as a recruiter not dealing with brides before their weddings, then to hell with her. There are PLENTY of other recruiters out there that will have no problems trying to find a job for you.