officiant needed

possibly. We are undecided on what we want to do and I am opening the door on other possibilities. As I have mentioned before we are working on a tight budget -
he is catholic.
I am agnostic.
Hope this helps.
Thanks so much
Laura

Re: officiant needed

I think the first thing to think of here would be just what everyone's needs actually are. I'm all for the your wedding your way but usually that includes a sensitivity and desire to make everyone as happy as you can without being unhappy yourselves.

While your fiance is RC and you are agnostic the real question is how much religion do you want in your ceremony? How important is it to the family? Does it have to me a male celebrant? Personally I have found when there is too much structure it loses the connection for all but those who truly love and appreciate said structure. Likewise on the other hand if one is used to some aspects of ritual being there, to take them makes it feel almost... Not real, if you know what I mean. IMO balance is the key. Your guests should understand everything that is being said and done, be emotionally connected to it, enjoy it. You IMO should try to make promises that will actually matter 15 - 20 years from now. Perhaps even give everyone a peek into what makes you tick as a couple, just in case you are ever in need of some good council, those you love will have the reference points they need.

I got a letter from a couple who had moved to NC, new jobs, 1st house, away from family and old friends. They said that the 1st year was difficult, but that reading over their ceremony helped when things got tough. A ceremony that resonates through all the years takes a bit of work to craft, and I don't think the 6 minute bare bones version that a judge will come and do has the same impact. Sure it's a little more money to have someone work with you on this but there's no reason you can't try to write these things yourselves.

The short version is you probably want a man for the Catholic's (It's ok I'm used to it. Don't miss Fr. Joe, he's hiding under 'Interfaith Unions' in the Officiants section) Then you may want an Opening Prayer, Invocation, and Closing Prayer (how heavy or light is up to you) and fill in between with very real and practical things.

I hope all this has been helpful. Feel free to contact me if there is anything else that I can be of assistance with.

Wishing you many healthy happy years of love and marriage, of wisdom and wonder!

L&L, Pastor April
http://www.churchofancientways.org
516-785-4191

Re: officiant needed

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