Official FMIL Issue Support Group

Come on, girls! Post your FMIL issues here. all of us going through the same thing can help out maybe. Good luck with your weddings and the lifetime of trauma of dealing with your FMIL!!!!

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this is not a bad idea.

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here's ny issue. My FMIL doesn't like me. She said she won't even come to the wedding, but FH's sister said that if she has to she will "tie mom up, throw her in the car and drag her to the wedding". The thing is, I have no idea what I have done to this woman for her not to like me. I'm a very likable person; I don't have any enemies (at least to my knowledge). I thought that maybe she had an issue with me taking away her little boy, but i'm the one who's moving far away from my family; we're going to be living in the same town as her, so he'll still be able to drop in and visit her whenever. And other than her not liking me, I have no problems with his mom.

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Posted by uawojcik

here's ny issue. My FMIL doesn't like me. She said she won't even come to the wedding, but FH's sister said that if she has to she will "tie mom up, throw her in the car and drag her to the wedding". The thing is, I have no idea what I have done to this woman for her not to like me. I'm a very likable person; I don't have any enemies (at least to my knowledge). I thought that maybe she had an issue with me taking away her little boy, but i'm the one who's moving far away from my family; we're going to be living in the same town as her, so he'll still be able to drop in and visit her whenever. And other than her not liking me, I have no problems with his mom.

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I think this is an awesome thread!!! LOL, every other day I have a FMIL/FH issue. My issues include: (1) FMIL will not call our home, she only calls FH's cell; (2) FMIL lost her job 3 weeks ago and I spent all night fixing her resume -- did I get a thank you????" NO; (3) My sister had her first child on Sunday, did FMIL call me to express her best wishes for my family?? NO; (4) engagement/wedding gifts... has she bought ANYTHING for us off the registry -- that I worked hard to create??? NO -- she gets things she buys for her home, she got waffle iron, we got waffle iron
Ok, I think I can fill this whole thread!!! LOL

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Oh, that's nothin'!! My FMIL is trying to invite the ex to the wedding. She invites the ex to ALL family functions. She will not speak to me when she sees us. She only speaks to FH. She gave us a workbook/book for our engagement present, called "How To Know If Your Marriage Will Work." And, she left it at the ex's house so we had to go over there to get it.

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OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is really awful!
Really terrible. eeeeww. hopefully your fi is a strong man, my fi is a total momma's boy and he always puts her first.
Ugh, don't you hate the thought of one day giving her a grandchild LOL LOL
Oh, and make sure the ex's invitation gets lost in the mail

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oh god, i def. wouldn't let the ex- go to the wedding. thats crazy. well, we know some sister in laws (going to be) talk to the ex's too

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My FMIL is Bunny McDoogal, Treys mom from Sex in the City.

It's SERIOUSLY disturbing.

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Posted by kam29

My FMIL is Bunny McDoogal, Treys mom from Sex in the City.

It's SERIOUSLY disturbing.

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um... I don't have any issues like these with my FMIL, but can we please recognize the girl who suggested this for you guys on the other thread about FMIL Sweet Revenge? lol

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Posted by sarahradio5

you guys should form a support group together! And introduce your FMIL's! lol.

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Posted by sarahradio5

um... I don't have any issues like these with my FMIL, but can we please recognize the girl who suggested this for you guys on the other thread about FMIL Sweet Revenge? lol

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Posted by sarahradio5

you guys should form a support group together! And introduce your FMIL's! lol.

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THAT WAS ME!!! (not to pat myself on the back or anything. lol)

I just saw the need for it when I kept confusing FMIL horror stories between different brides on these boards. Inviting Ex-girlfriends, no shower, must play Greek music, RSVP's come to me, etc. Yikes!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!!!

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My issue is that my MFIL is like a 'dead fish' she has no opinion on anytthing, hasn't gone with us to give an opinion on anything and doesn't seem to care that her only son & child is getting married! Her loss though since I'm pretty much done with planning everything. It makes me sad that my mom is sooooo excited about all this and his mom can care less. Oh well!

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Posted by sarahradio5

um... I don't have any issues like these with my FMIL, but can we please recognize the girl who suggested this for you guys on the other thread about FMIL Sweet Revenge? lol

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Posted by sarahradio5

you guys should form a support group together! And introduce your FMIL's! lol.

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THAT WAS ME!!! (not to pat myself on the back or anything. lol)

I just saw the need for it when I kept confusing FMIL horror stories between different brides on these boards. Inviting Ex-girlfriends, no shower, must play Greek music, RSVP's come to me, etc. Yikes!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!!!

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I couldn't remember your name... I'm sorry. I should have done that.

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Posted by sarahradio5

um... I don't have any issues like these with my FMIL, but can we please recognize the girl who suggested this for you guys on the other thread about FMIL Sweet Revenge? lol

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Posted by sarahradio5

you guys should form a support group together! And introduce your FMIL's! lol.

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THAT WAS ME!!! (not to pat myself on the back or anything. lol)

I just saw the need for it when I kept confusing FMIL horror stories between different brides on these boards. Inviting Ex-girlfriends, no shower, must play Greek music, RSVP's come to me, etc. Yikes!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!!!

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I couldn't remember your name... I'm sorry. I should have done that.

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Don't worry about it! I was just joking! Maybe I'll sit on the "honorary board". lol!! (I know it's hard to make things sound humorous on these chat boards, but BELIEVE me... I was joking when I wrote that)

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Genius! (I'm the original poster of FMIL sweet revenge..)

So lets recap my FMIL:

(1) She's looking into buying a wedding dress for MY wedding
(2) She's been mean and nasty to every vendor, thus embarassing me & my father and making me worry that the vendor will find a way to f-ck us the day of the wedding as revenge
(3) She uses FH as a messenger to tell me things. TELL ME YOUR GODDAMN SELF!
(4) She complains to FH about me -- the last time this happened I ended up speaking with her. I told her that if she has a problem with me she has to tell ME because FH can't rectify a problem that he has nothing to do with, and putting him in the middle isn't fair.

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Not that I am in ANY way a fan of Jane Fonda (can't STAND her actually), but I found myself watching "Monster-in-Law" late the other night. (at this point, I try to watch anything about weddings, and it was on after Starsky and Hutch, so I just fell into watching it). I think you all would be able to relate to some of the stuff in that movie. You'd probably get a good - and much needed - laugh out of it.

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I'm so sick of FFIL at this point I don't think I even want to have a relationship with them! FSIL just pulled the biggest crap with me over the weekend I don't know if I can ever forgive her....
XOXOXO
Kitty

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Posted by mrsbyrd06

Oh, that's nothin'!! My FMIL is trying to invite the ex to the wedding. She invites the ex to ALL family functions. She will not speak to me when she sees us. She only speaks to FH. She gave us a workbook/book for our engagement present, called "How To Know If Your Marriage Will Work." And, she left it at the ex's house so we had to go over there to get it.

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Posted by robynlevy

Genius! (I'm the original poster of FMIL sweet revenge..)

So lets recap my FMIL:

(1) She's looking into buying a wedding dress for MY wedding
(2) She's been mean and nasty to every vendor, thus embarassing me & my father and making me worry that the vendor will find a way to f-ck us the day of the wedding as revenge
(3) She uses FH as a messenger to tell me things. TELL ME YOUR GODDAMN SELF!
(4) She complains to FH about me -- the last time this happened I ended up speaking with her. I told her that if she has a problem with me she has to tell ME because FH can't rectify a problem that he has nothing to do with, and putting him in the middle isn't fair.

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i could go on and on and on!!!!

all i have to say is Marie from everybody loves raymond... FH, pointed out similarites but said his mom isnt that bad... he is obviously still a little blind.. personally she is just as if not worse cause she can not even appologize for some of the very wrong things she has done.. only keep giving excusses usually "i am his mother"... personally that does NOT give her the right to treat another person like $hit, to be rude, disrespectful, inconsiderate and just plain selfish!!! or her famous "well, i dont know" it's like something takes over and she forgets what she does and just wont ackowledge it! She has crossed the line way too many times and far too frequently...

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Posted by uawojcik

here's ny issue. My FMIL doesn't like me. She said she won't even come to the wedding, but FH's sister said that if she has to she will "tie mom up, throw her in the car and drag her to the wedding". The thing is, I have no idea what I have done to this woman for her not to like me. I'm a very likable person; I don't have any enemies (at least to my knowledge). I thought that maybe she had an issue with me taking away her little boy, but i'm the one who's moving far away from my family; we're going to be living in the same town as her, so he'll still be able to drop in and visit her whenever. And other than her not liking me, I have no problems with his mom.

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did he have an ex-girlfriend that she loved and didn't want him to break up with her or something like that..

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Posted by sarahradio5

um... I don't have any issues like these with my FMIL, but can we please recognize the girl who suggested this for you guys on the other thread about FMIL Sweet Revenge? lol

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Posted by sarahradio5

you guys should form a support group together! And introduce your FMIL's! lol.

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THAT WAS ME!!! (not to pat myself on the back or anything. lol)

I just saw the need for it when I kept confusing FMIL horror stories between different brides on these boards. Inviting Ex-girlfriends, no shower, must play Greek music, RSVP's come to me, etc. Yikes!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!!!

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Message edited 10/6/2006 12:34:00 PM.

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Posted by sarahradio5

Not that I am in ANY way a fan of Jane Fonda (can't STAND her actually), but I found myself watching "Monster-in-Law" late the other night. (at this point, I try to watch anything about weddings, and it was on after Starsky and Hutch, so I just fell into watching it). I think you all would be able to relate to some of the stuff in that movie. You'd probably get a good - and much needed - laugh out of it.

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Message edited 10/6/2006 12:34:38 PM.