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mskittynj Posted: Mar 14, 2006 12:48 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group


Posted by robynlevy

Genius! (I'm the original poster of FMIL sweet revenge..)

So lets recap my FMIL:

(1) She's looking into buying a wedding dress for MY wedding
(2) She's been mean and nasty to every vendor, thus embarassing me & my father and making me worry that the vendor will find a way to f-ck us the day of the wedding as revenge
(3) She uses FH as a messenger to tell me things. TELL ME YOUR GODDAMN SELF!
(4) She complains to FH about me -- the last time this happened I ended up speaking with her. I told her that if she has a problem with me she has to tell ME because FH can't rectify a problem that he has nothing to do with, and putting him in the middle isn't fair.



You poor thing! to you!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty
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TheBigDay Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:15 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

i could go on and on and on!!!!

all i have to say is Marie from everybody loves raymond... FH, pointed out similarites but said his mom isnt that bad... he is obviously still a little blind.. personally she is just as if not worse cause she can not even appologize for some of the very wrong things she has done.. only keep giving excusses usually 'i am his mother'... personally that does NOT give her the right to treat another person like $hit, to be rude, disrespectful, inconsiderate and just plain selfish!!! or her famous 'well, i dont know' it's like something takes over and she forgets what she does and just wont ackowledge it! She has crossed the line way too many times and far too frequently...
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thelilacone Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:20 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group


Posted by nicothy


Posted by uawojcik

here's ny issue. My FMIL doesn't like me. She said she won't even come to the wedding, but FH's sister said that if she has to she will 'tie mom up, throw her in the car and drag her to the wedding'. The thing is, I have no idea what I have done to this woman for her not to like me. I'm a very likable person; I don't have any enemies (at least to my knowledge). I thought that maybe she had an issue with me taking away her little boy, but i'm the one who's moving far away from my family; we're going to be living in the same town as her, so he'll still be able to drop in and visit her whenever. And other than her not liking me, I have no problems with his mom.



did he have an ex-girlfriend that she loved and didn't want him to break up with her or something like that..



no, she wasn't very fond of his ex either.
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SeptBride70 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:23 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group


Posted by sarahradio5

um... I don't have any issues like these with my FMIL, but can we please recognize the girl who suggested this for you guys on the other thread about FMIL Sweet Revenge? lol

Posted by sarahradio5

you guys should form a support group together! And introduce your FMIL's! lol.


THAT WAS ME!!! (not to pat myself on the back or anything. lol)

I just saw the need for it when I kept confusing FMIL horror stories between different brides on these boards. Inviting Ex-girlfriends, no shower, must play Greek music, RSVP's come to me, etc. Yikes!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!!!



lol sarah!! too funny!
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SeptBride70 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:25 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group


Posted by sarahradio5

Not that I am in ANY way a fan of Jane Fonda (can't STAND her actually), but I found myself watching 'Monster-in-Law' late the other night. (at this point, I try to watch anything about weddings, and it was on after Starsky and Hutch, so I just fell into watching it). I think you all would be able to relate to some of the stuff in that movie. You'd probably get a good - and much needed - laugh out of it.



that movie was cute-- i don't like michael vartan at all tho blahhh!!!
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sugarkube4 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:27 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

I am hugging all you girls right now...

The worst that I can say about my FMIL is that she is a PIMA!!! She's not allowed to have any say in my wedding and FH is fine with that.. He is pretty indifferent about her to begin with..

The closest thing to a FMIL we have is FH's Aunt Marge, who is FMIL's sister..
Now SHE I involve heavily in our wedding.. she's more of a mom to FH and my mom adores her and Aunt Marge's daughter is getting Married 3 months b4 us in Florida, so she's going through all the planning with her daughter too.. so Wednesday Me, my mom, My MOH and Aunt Marge are going to the bridal show at my hall together!!
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BellaEyes Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:45 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

Wow, we totally needed a thread started on this!

My FMIL (like someone else mention on here) does not call the house ever! She will never call me to ask about me, or how the preparations are coming along, if I need a hand or anything.

If she wants to talk to my FH, she calls his cell, and lately they have not been talking since she pissed him off. She sent him an EMAIL the other day, and said something like we all need to talk, this should be a happy time an noone is getting along?! ***?! Well it is a happy time and SORRY you are not happy about it! As far as needing to get together to TALK.. OH GOD..I can't TAKE her CRAP anymore. She is SOOO twisted.

I extended my hand to her numerous times and called her when she was going through her health issues, since then NO RECIPROCATION at all! No calling me to see how I AM, how about a call, like ' hey sweetie, how are you? How's the planning going? If you need a hand let me know, let's do lunch' That's how it should BE, but she has choosen this bridge she built.

I believe they all LOVED his ex. The Grandmother had the nerve to tell me on NY Eve that the difference between the ex and I were that the ex (she uses her name like she's still around) was so loving and hugged them all the time when she came over... UM excuse me, I am very loving and warm. The only reasons why I had not extended myself more in the past is b/c of their treatment towards me. You see I'm not some door mat fiance that's going to let his mother and them walk all over me and determine our life together and impose strange things on me. The reason she hates me is b/c I stole her little boy and she can't WAKE up and see he is a MAN now..and she does not like that I'm a strong person I bet you. She wishes I was like his ex, fake and pretended to like them, when in reality I heard through my FH's friends that the ex would complain to them all the time about how she could NOT STAND his mother and them. This was the main reason she broke it off.

Anyway, I told the Grandmother that day listen she is no longer in the picture it's been almost 3 years we are together and I would appreciate you not bringing her name up anymore! Im so glad I said that! Anyway, I could go on and on..
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FDWedding07 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 01:58 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

This is great!!
My FH had our wedding song played at a party for us. When I was dancing with him she came up and said 'I am the mother and it is wrong that he is dancing with you when I am the mother'. Ok so I think she is crazy and I let it go. Then I try to keep her involed in some wedding plans. She is alone and does not drive or anything. When I take her places she says 'I am the mother and this is my special day with my son'. UGH!!! She just does not get it!!
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klingklang77 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 02:26 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

i have a few problems with my FMIL, but also with how FH deals with his mom.

IMO she is just an airhead. also FH is a bit of a mommas boy, so whenever i do talk to her, she is always saying michael this, michael that and giving me tips on how to take care of him in the future- i.e.- make sure his shirts get ironed when he goes to work. i basically said to that- he is perfectly capable of ironing.

at first FH would say, she means well, etc. he would also give me tips about random things saying 'mom says that you should do that'. i had the last straw when he was having a problem with me and decided to talk to his mother first, giving away very personal stuff i told him. that resulted in a huge fight....

since then we went to FOCCUS and pre-cana. one of the problems that came up was his mother. a lot of things have been solved between me and FH thanks to the FOCCUS and pre cana. he realised many things and yes that doesnt solve issues about his mother, but i have to learn to pick my battles. she just annoys me....

for those that are having a Catholic ceremony there is a reading about how the man is 'leaving' his family for his new wife. it is from the old testament. do that for a reading if you have mommas boys....

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SeptBride70 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 02:29 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group


Posted by FDWedding07

This is great!!
My FH had our wedding song played at a party for us. When I was dancing with him she came up and said 'I am the mother and it is wrong that he is dancing with you when I am the mother'. Ok so I think she is crazy and I let it go. Then I try to keep her involed in some wedding plans. She is alone and does not drive or anything. When I take her places she says 'I am the mother and this is my special day with my son'. UGH!!! She just does not get it!!



omg crazy crazy crazy!!!!!!!!!!

my sister dated a guy once that went to an open house with her son (my sis' BF at the time) and came back and said 'we just saw our house, that house is going to be me and jimmy's house, together-a house for my son and i '.... my sister told me this and i could hear the psycho theme playing LOL
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R&J0806 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 03:14 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

i actually thought about buying a copy of monster-in-law for FMIL awhile back when it was in the theaters. I guess I was foreshadowing....that move sure does hit home!
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R&J0806 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 04:31 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

My FH had our wedding song played at a party for us. When I was dancing with him she came up and said 'I am the mother and it is wrong that he is dancing with you when I am the mother'. Ok so I think she is crazy and I let it go. Then I try to keep her involed in some wedding plans. She is alone and does not drive or anything. When I take her places she says 'I am the mother and this is my special day with my son'. UGH!!! She just does not get it!!


OMG -- what is listed above is my worst fear come true and I have totally envisioned it. Yikes! And, I really truly think that FMIL thinks this is all about her. Sounds like our FMILs are the same person.
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ellebelle1 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 05:00 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

Ok, I'm not trying to sounds sick, but it sounds like the things your FMIL's do are sick. These woman (FMILs) are using their sons as husbands (or admiring males). These women seem to really want some sort of closeness or attention from their sons, which is really inappropriate. It's like another (younger) woman is stealing their husbands (ie. sons).
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julybride06 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 05:13 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

This is a great thread!!!!

My FMIL has...
1.) Told me I make her son unhappy
2.) has not invited my family for more than coffee and cake
3) When my parents were expecting their first grandchild is didn't even call to congratulate them
4) Has told my MOH, 'She's not my daughter...'
5) Lied REPEATEDLY to her son!!!!
6) Has told me, 'I don't think of you.' ~I I don't think my FMIL thinks at all
7) Has told me how miserable I am going to be when I am married ~sounds like they have issues!
8) I asked her to go shopping with my BM and she said working at stacking Hallmark cards is more important
9) I asked her to go for a hair trial and sahe said, 'I'll get back to you' I'm still waiting!
10.) Lied to my mom and said that my MOH 'just called her.' (Yeah 3 weeks earlier!)

Oh my goodness girls..I could go on forever!

After having a Psych degree..I think she's a sociopath (she has no remorse for anything that she does and sees nothing wrong with her behavior..nor does she take responsibility for these things!)
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julybride06 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 05:15 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

I also forgot to add..
On my b-day she didn't even call in fact she gave me a coffee pot off the registry!

But for her SIL she called him and through a giant party (with extended family too)
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mrsbyrd06 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 05:19 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

After all the ex problems I've had with her, she just called my FH phone and left a message saying that she didn't understand how she was being inconsiderate of us as a couple and that she has tried so hard to be considerate of us. BULL SH$T!!!!!!
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mrsbyrd06 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 05:22 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

Okay, I have a personal website that I post on when I'm having a rough day or something. It's just for me to vent. I'm going to show you what I posted on it. The reason I posted this is because she somehow found it and asked, 'Does your hatred for his family bother BJ? I am so torn up over your hatred for me.' Read it and weep girls!


I love the fact that people think I'm stupid. I think it's absolutely hilarious. I may not be the brightest crayon in the box, but I damn sure ain't the dullest.

I am so sick and tired of people trying to start stuff, so I'm just going to finish it right now. I DO NOT hate BJ's family. I really like some of them. I love his Dad's side of the family and Mrs. Dorothy and Holly and Bill. LOVE THEM! They are so supportive of anything that we want to do. Especially Aunt Jan... she's freakin' funny.

I like his Mom's side of the family. I think they are nice. I had fun at Christmas hanging out with Tyler and stuff. It was great. I do not by any means hate them. I just feel like they are very unsupportive of BJ and I and our decisions. Tyler was the only one that made it clear that he wouldn't do it this way, but he supported BJ because he wanted BJ to be happy. I definitely appreciate that. It made BJ feel really good.

The thing that really makes things difficult is that when we are invited to a family function and Tracy is there. We understand that Tracy and Ms. Rita are friends and that is fine, but there comes a point where it's ridiculous. We had to go get our engagement present at Tracy's house... She was there at Christmas... She was at the cookout this weekend. I honestly think that Ms. Rita is trying to make it difficult for me and BJ. It's not really working. The only thing that is resulting out of that is that BJ is getting madder and madder everytime it happens. We understand that the family likes Tracy, but we also know that if the family was supportive of him and his decisions that they would make sure that she showed up after we left or before we came or whatever. If they cared at all about him and his feelings, they wouldn't make sure that she was there everytime. And, by they I mean the ones that plan for her to come.

I'm sorry if this pissed you off.... but something needs to be said. It's time that they realize that BJ is an adult. He can make his own decisions and if they happen to be the wrong ones, he has to deal with the consequences... But, until his decisions are wrong, they need to keep their opinions to themselves.

If you feel that you need to speak to me about this, please feel free to email me at [email protected] or call me at (home) or (work).
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TheBigDay Posted: Mar 14, 2006 09:04 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

ha.. my fmil doesnt even send the pics of FH's new niece to me anymore.. we dont have a land line, but she doesnt call my cell.. and one morning she called his while in the shower and he asked me to answer.. her first response was, i thought he'd be on his way to work by now.. no hello or anything..

but hey, if she wants to play that game! i can 'forget' to share stuff and include her too!
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BellaEyes Posted: Mar 14, 2006 09:58 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

WHat is WRONG with our FMIL's??? WHY can't they just be NICE people? :(
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bride2b24 Posted: Mar 14, 2006 10:03 PM+
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Re: Official FMIL Issue Support Group

this is the place where we could just type for days...........................................lol....mines not that bad........but she has her moments!!!! like making a face about her seating arrangement at the eparty............are you paying??? uhh no
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