Is it typical for the BMs

to (help) pay for the shower?

My MOH called me yesterday and said she wanted to help my mom pay for it. DOnt get me wrong I really appreciate the kindness and consideration of her gesture, but I dont want them footing the bill. My mom and FMIL are going to split it.
She asked me if she should ask my 2 other BMS to chip in.
I feel like they are already spending enough.

So just wanted to know if this is typical or if any of you had a bridal party that paid for your shower?

Thanks girls/

Edited for spelling

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My mom paid for my shower. Both of MOH are my sisters and they are in college with no money. I don't think my bridal party was even asked...

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I will not have my 'suprise' shower until sometime next year, but I thought it was typical for the girls in your BP to pay for it

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it depends. but the bridal party does have to contribute in some way. whether it's favors, plates, decorations etc.

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It is actually traditional for the BMs to pay for the entire shower. It used to be considered rude for the MOB to throw the shower since it is liking asking for gifts. Now more and more mothers are paying for the shower, which is nice for all of us broke BMs out there.

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I have only been a BM once in recent times...
and that was over 3 years ago. I dont remember if I offered any financial help to her mom and sis.

The BMs just got the bride an additional gift and her mom footed the bill.

I mentioned to my MOH that if she is set on doing something maybe she could pay for favors or something smallish.

I feel weird. Weddings are so expensive for everyone involved.

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Ive heard it donw both ways.

Mom & FMIL

BMS

Both together

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i think somewhere in the middle of the BMs and moms chipping in is the most common, especially these days since it's no longer tea and cake i someone's living room like it used to be.

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Posted by laural2979

It is actually traditional for the BMs to pay for the entire shower. It used to be considered rude for the MOB to throw the shower since it is liking asking for gifts. Now more and more mothers are paying for the shower, which is nice for all of us broke BMs out there.

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Yes, by tradition, the bridal party is supposed to throw the shower.

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Honestly it all depends on the family. For my cousin a few years ago - me and my sister did it - and the rest of the BP split the gift from everyone. The wedding that I am a MOH in for my cousin in September, the mothers took care of it and told me not to worry.

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bp is supposed to throw the shower...immediate family members are not supposed to do it...although it does go both ways depending on the family.

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My MOH paid for my shower. I had a very unusual situation though where my MOH is my mom's best friend - like a second mom to me.

I was a BM in a friends wedding a few years ago and her mom paid for the shower.

I am a BM in a wedding in Sept. and the BMs paid for the shower...

SO I guess all situations are different.

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Thanks for your help, though I am still confused.

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I am in the middle of working on a friends shower right now and I am in BP. We are splitting the cost between all of us. I did the same when I was in another BP as well a couple of years ago. I thought that was normal.

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I've been in 2 weddigns. one, the BM's paid for everything, and another one mom foot the bill at the restaurant with the BMs taking care of everything else (decorations, favors, games, etc. etc.)

I think the trend now is Mom AND BP.

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i been in 6 weddings every wedding the bm planned and paid for the shower. we had the moms help too

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Posted by N.Y.bride

Ive heard it donw both ways.

Mom & FMIL

BMS

Both together

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yes like u said

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i thought it was the moh who threw it.... i could be wrong

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My BM's and MOH paid for my shower.....gotta love em..

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My mom paid for the bulk of the shower and I know my MOH and BMs also chipped in. Plus some of them bought the decorations and helped make the CPs.