should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

hello ladies,

i would like to have a "wedding photos" display where i set up my guest book. i would like to display as many wedding photos of my guests as i can get my paws on.... example, groom's parents, bridal party and their spouses, and so on.

it's a small wedding, so there won't be TOO many pics to want to hunt down....

here is my problemo... i have the one-and-only picture of my parents at their wedding (there was a fire and all but this one was lost many years ago)... my parents are divorced and each will be attending my wedding with a new significant other.

my dad has re-married, but my mom has a serious bf.

i don't want to offend anyone, but their marriage is why i exist.

what would you do?

TIA

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

i dont know if this is the right thing but i dont think that i would display it

but definitely talk to both of your parents about it privately and see what they say

i feel that their new partners might feel somewhat uncomfortable about it but then again its not like the marriage was a secret!!

HTH!

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

In all honesty, I wouldn't do it.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

I would put the photo out, I would also ask them for photos of them wth their significant other to display.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

thats a hard 1.....why not ask them if its ok? are they friends or was it a bad split...if they are on good terms im sure its ok but if they dont talk then it can cause an issue!!

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

My parents are also divorced (both are remarried), but I don't think I would have displayed their wedding picture.

Even though they get along well enough, I think it would be too akward.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

I agree, I don't think it would be a good idea to display it. It could potentially bring up bad memories for a lot of people.

Talk to your parents and see what they say, but I'd just be afraid to do in fear of bad luck!

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ladies, thank you all for replying so quickly.

i re-read my question and all of your replies. i had started to write this reply and it was going on forever. the more i typed and thought about my family/parents'/MOTHER, i realized that instead of going on my honeymoon, i would be going to jail on my wedding night for killing my mother.

if i display the pic, she WILL make it all about HER, and i would end up killing her... right there, in front of everyone.

i guess, i will not be displaying this picture. i am very heart-broken that i won't be.

i guess, i was hoping that posting the question would MAGICALLY make things right. i'll just cry about it now, so that i can be "over it" by my wedding.

ladies, again, thank you for you quick replies

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

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Posted by DebsNY

My parents are also divorced (both are remarried), but I don't think I would have displayed their wedding picture.

Even though they get along well enough, I think it would be too akward.

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Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

I have parents who are divorced 2... I don't know if that would be a great idea... you could ask both parents and see what they say about it ~ if either of them dont care ~ go for it...

or

you can have two pictures...
one with dad & your stepmom
one with mom & boyfriend...

good luck!

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

My best friend displayed wedding photos of various guests at her wedding. it was such a beautiful sentiment.... like sending you good wedding wishes!

Her parents are divorced, yet she still displayed the picture. i think her views were their MY parents... and neither one of them had a problem with it.... but then again, it was an amicable divorce; i don't know your situation.

perhaps there is just one of your mother in her dress and one of your father separately from their wedding day....perhaps youcoudl use those?

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

Ask them - they will let you know if it's OK.

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I would not

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

My DH was married before and he has son who lives with his mother but spends alot of time with us. I know that I would be very uncomfortable if at his wedding there was a pic of DH and his ex-wife. So I would have to say don't do it.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

NO!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

If you want to do it, ask them!!!! But I vote no. They might feel like they have to do it.

My mother was very upset at my brother's wedding because they posted pics of our grandparents, and parent's weddings. One set of grandparents weren't allowed to get married in the church (N Ireland vs S Ireland). It was my mom's parents and she was very embarrassed about the picture. She begged us, through tears, not to post wedding pics at our wedding. You have to feel people out.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

I dont think that it is a good idea to display their wedding photo. It might make them feel akward during the reception and it might realy make their sig. others feel weird. If you really want to do it i would talk to them all about it prior to the wedding and get their feelings on it. But be prepared if they say no, i wouldnt fight them on it! HTH

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

definitely not....

however, i think family pictures of your mom, dad, and you when you were young are ok...

Message edited 8/5/2006 9:25:48 AM.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

my parents are divorced and both remarried....im not having their wedding pic, my parents "get along", but not well enough that they would be cool with their wedding pic being displayed, i think it would be awkward

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

I would say no, not a good idea. My parents are divorced and actually have a very good relationship now(after 18 years being divorced!)but I still wouldn't do it. They're both remarried and out of respect for my stepfather and stepmother, I just wouldn't do it. Just my opinion.

Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

My parents are divorced too, I didn't do the wedding picture thing because

1. I felt it was inappropriate
2. I didn't want to make anyone feel awkward (i.e. my stepmother, my mother's BF)

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

In all honesty, I wouldn't do it.

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Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

It is tricky. I felt the same way with the wedding video when I had all the grandparents wedding photos of both sides and then having the video graduate to our parents. My parents were the only ones divorced.
Mom is remarried
Father single.

I didn't do it but it made me sad.

Instead believe it or not - I had my BIRTH parents walk down the isle together and I came out afterwards. I had them wait for me at the end before I met my DH and I kissed them both.

After all if it were not for them I would not be here and that was my point. It was not about them that day and everyone was teary eyed cause 'they got it'.

Ofcourse I ran it by all parties involved bfr hand and they respected my wish.
IT IS ONE DAY FOR YOUR WISHES TO BE GRANTED!!! Tell them why you wish to do it this way and what it means to you.
EVERYONE NEEDS TO GET OVER IT.
Good luck what ever you decide & don't worry about making it all about your mom that day due to your decision. It will never be all about MOM that day don't let anyone tell you different.
It is your wedding

oh Btw..had to share what I was talking about

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Re: should i display divorced parents's pic at wedding????

i wouldn't put their wedding pic since they are now divorced maybe of you with each parent it would be just as special