Church Question

For those of you who are getting married in a rc church, did you have any problems? I am a little behind schedule on planning but it seems like the churches are very strict and only want to marry you if you are a member or live within the boundaries of the church. Any advice? I didn't realize that the people in a "house of God" have no problem being nasty and turning us away.

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Most churches will marry you if you live outside the parish, but you just have to give more $$ as a donation. I guess each church varies. FH and I are getting married outside of our parish, it's my father's parish and because of my Dad we got the "parishioner donation price".

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Try st francis of assisi church in green lawn. My fi and live in PA, but are getting married on Long island since we grew up there. I told them we live out of state and as long as we both have all our sacrements and the $600 we're good to go!

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so far I am not having problems. FH and I live together and the church knows and have made no comments.

don't let anyone let you feel the way you are. if so, go to another church. it's your day and no one (house of God or not) should make you feel uncomfortable

good luck

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I had minor problems with my church - but they ended up not being able to accomodate me with my date (YES I booked the hall BEFORE booking the church)

I went to another church nearby, and I had no problem at all. I am very happy and satisfied.... I do not belong to the church, and I donate the same amt if I did belong there!

So I think it all depends on the church you go to ...

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thanks

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the church is not being nasty. many churches require that you, or an immediate family member are parishoners because it's only fair that people who live and particiapte in that faith community get preference. i am very active in my church and frankly, i would be upset if i didn't get the date i wanted at my church because it was opened to someone that didn't go there. it's not to be mean... churches get many requests for marriages and cannot accommodate them all, so most request that you are a parishoner there. to me, i would want to get married at a church that i have a connection with, not just any church. also, the Church views marriage as a true Sacrament...by marrying people that are members of the faith community, they are hopefully ensuring that the couple does view the marriage as a sacrament as well... basically if go to church, you want your marriage celebrated in the Church. if you don't even have a church of your own, should you be even getting married in one? hope this makes sense..

there are some churches that will marry you if are not a parishoner. often their donations are higher because you are not a parishoner and tithing on a regular basis. i think st. pat's in bay shore marrys non-parishoners on here... do a searcdh. this has been posted before.

GOOD LUCK!

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I had the same problem when i was in search of my church. I moved to Queens from Long Island on exit 68 on the LIE, about a year a go and i have yet to go to church, so i dont have a specific church that i belong to. One of the churches told me that i should go back to my church in LI that i use to go to when i lived there............i dont know how that would work, since my RH is in Franklin Square....then another church told me, "how come you want to get married in our church if you dont come to this church" at this point i was a little dissapointed becasue i wanted to get married in church, its just so much nicer to do it that way......so then one church contacted me and told me that even though we are not members that they would marry us anyway.....
Churches are not suppose to turn anyone away, and there is a number that you can contact and let them know what these churches are telling you, and that they are turning you down.

Good Luck!

If you are close by to Queens i can let you know what church i am getting married and, they will except you there. And its a beautiful church too!