Help! FH Won't Take Engagement Pics!

he just doesnt want to. hes having eye surgery in november and hes chubbier than he has been lately, and he just claims that hes in no mood to take pics. furthermore he claims that since well have so many great pics taken at the wedding, why take a round of "not as good" pics beforehand, even though they are included in price from our day of photographer (B rett M athhews).

help! they really mean a lot to me. ive considered postponing until the spring when hes thinner and the surgery is complete. but i realllly want fall pics since were having a fall wedding. i also dont have a real pic for STD's which i wanted to send out around Xmas time.

i really want to respect his feelings. im a photography freak and he puts up with A LOT of pics from me. also he said we can go upstate soon and do some of our own pics but not with a real photographer. so hes not being pure evil lol, hes just being difficult.

should i suck it up and wait until the spring where hes more likely to want to do it, or is there anything i can say or do to change his mind??
Help!!

Re: Help! FH Won't Take Engagement Pics!

I'd wait until spring. If you're having a fall wedding, it might be nice to have some different spring pictures for your epics.

And if he feels better about himself, I"m sure it will show in the pictures!

JMO

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I'd wait until FH felt more comfortable with his appearance.

We took our's in the summer time even though we are having a winter wedding..it was nice to have pics in a different season.

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Posted by hayleyandsteve

I'd wait until spring. If you're having a fall wedding, it might be nice to have some different spring pictures for your epics.

And if he feels better about himself, I"m sure it will show in the pictures!

JMO

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Re: Help! FH Won't Take Engagement Pics!

i wish i could help you but my FH refuses to take them too - just bc he hates taking pics so all i can offer is a hug! good luck!

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I would wait if that would make him more comfortable. Since you are having a fall wedding I personally would rather have spring pics for epics - that way they are different! HTH!

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If he doesn't want to take pics, then forget about it.......would you consider having a shoot by yourself? maybe with a family pet? or your MOH?...I think that would be fun.....

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Hey weekend twin
Why don't you just tell him how much it means to you. Maybe you don't need to send any of the pics out for your STDs, but you'd like to have them as a part of your album/video?
Good luck!

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I would wait a little while. He may change his mind.

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Posted by hayleyandsteve

I'd wait until spring. If you're having a fall wedding, it might be nice to have some different spring pictures for your epics.

And if he feels better about himself, I"m sure it will show in the pictures!

JMO

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I think with all they put up with from us this is a small concesion to make. Imagine if you were uncomfortable with your appearence and he was pushing the issue.

Maybe you could spend a day going through pics you have that you do like and pick one together that makes you both happy.

My photographer changed our epic shoot into an additional two 8*10's. There are options out there with your photographer so you don't lose money.

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I totally agree too. I'm hoping my FH will take the E pictures. I might wait until spring now though because it will be nicer!

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I'd wait until he feels comfortable. They will be nice in any season..the most important thing id that you are both in them and love them.

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My FH was less than thrilled about taking e-pics. I think you should compromise with him. Let him have his eye surgery and give him some time to shed the lbs. he wants to loose. Let him know he has until early spring to feel better about his appearance and then you will take your e-pics. I am sure if you are fair and he knows how much it means to you, he will meet you half way. Good luck

Oh, you also don't need your e-pic on you STD's. I didn't use ours bc I had my STD's done a couple of months ago and just had our e-pics taken last week. I actually prefered a floral design on our STD's opposed to using our pics anyway.

Message edited 10/2/2006 3:14:42 PM.

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I'm anti-E-pics, can't help you on this one.
I agree with my fellow man, it's definitely a lot to ask.

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My advice is pick your battles wisely!!!! My FH HATESSSSSSSS pictures and somehow he agreed to go and do our Epics with me (after me putting up an enormous fight) I am super picture crazy and I know he puts up with it more than others would. AT the end he hates the pictures and doesn't even like to see them....I would talk to your FH and explain how much you want those pics and how the time is really important to you, however if he doesn't feel his best he'll end up hating the pictures and why would you want him to right? ; ) I totally understand you though I am the EXACT same way!!!! Good luck!
XOXOXO
Kitty

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FH has been holding this off too...hopefully we will get this done next month. I just keep telling him that it will be his fault if we hate our pic's.

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My FH and I were having the same problem right after we got engaged. I really wanted to go to a photo place (like Olan Mills) and get professional pics done. FH adamantly refused. I begged and begged but he said no. I also wanted to use the pics for our save the dates. However, I compromised with him and asked if we could take several nice pictures during the holiday time and I would pick from one of those to use on our save the dates. It actually worked out really well and the STD's came out great! Needless to say, we found out that our wedding photographer included e-pics in the package and when I asked FH about them, he agreed to do them. We did them in a couple of weeks ago (he wanted fall like pictures) and we are having a summer wedding. I hope this helps even though it is long!! Long story short - it all worked out because I was able to compromise with him!

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Posted by ant n tilde

i wish i could help you but my FH refuses to take them too - just bc he hates taking pics so all i can offer is a hug! good luck!

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Posted by hayleyandsteve

I'd wait until spring. If you're having a fall wedding, it might be nice to have some different spring pictures for your epics.

And if he feels better about himself, I"m sure it will show in the pictures!

JMO

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Re: Help! FH Won't Take Engagement Pics!

I would say rather than aggrevate him completely and risk him declaring that he is not doing it at all, hold off until spring. Our situation is exactly the opposite...I'm doing Weight Watchers right now and would prefer to wait until spring, but FH wants the fall leaves. I figured I have gotten my was in 90% of the decisions for the wedding, so i'll let him win this one....