Question about bridal showers...Please help

Are any of you having children at the bridal shower? If you have a flower girl in your wedding party are you inviting the flower girl to your shower? See I want to only invite my two flower girls but I am being told by my fh family that is not fair to other kids and it is not right a lot of people will get upset. I do not think I have to invite children to the shower which is being thrown by my mother and being paid in full by my mother. I think the only children that should be invited is my two flower girls. Please help.

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i just had my nieces/FGs

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Are you having any other children at your wedding? If not, then only the FG's should be invited.

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Just my niece, who is also my FG.

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for shower kids are allowed...our FG is coming, not sure about other kids

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No I am not having other kids there but the two flower girls. So should I feel force into inviting all the other kids in the family?( Meaning kids 12 and under). I know kids are allowed to come to the shower but I do not want any of the kids there. I want people to be able to have a good time.

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I think FG only. Since the other kids are not invited to the wedding...they don't need to come to the shower! It gets very pricey to pay for everyone and I think people will understand!!!

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The kids are invited to the wedding but not the shower. I have to invite them to the wedding just don't have to invite them to the shower. My cousins did that and it was fine. I know a few friends that did that and it was fine. I just do not want the kids at the shower. The only kids I want at the shower is my two flower girls. Am I wrong for this? Does it make me a bad person?

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My niece will be there.

You shouln't have anyone telling you want is fair. It is your shower/wedding. You should have anyone there or not there that you want.

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ive been to showers with kids there

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Just having the flower girls is fine. You are not a bad person. Showers are expensive today and you have every right to limit the invite list....hell...some of the women don't even get invited sometimes

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Posted by 2009wedding

The kids are invited to the wedding but not the shower. I have to invite them to the wedding just don't have to invite them to the shower. My cousins did that and it was fine. I know a few friends that did that and it was fine. I just do not want the kids at the shower. The only kids I want at the shower is my two flower girls. Am I wrong for this? Does it make me a bad person?

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im actually doing the opposite. I think showers are more appropriate for kids, i dont think all weddings are. Mine is late and i dont think kids should be up that late, its a different type of affair that i think is more suitable for adults. The shower is more casual, its in the daytime.

But this is me, and we dont want kids at the wedding because if we allow everyone to bring their kids we might end up with like 40-50 kids. Plus to pay that much for chicken fingers and fries its a bit much

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Denise,
Don't you think that if the kids are invited to the shower, that people will think they are invited to the wedding too? That' s what I would be afraid of.

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I've never been to a shower where children were present, so not sure. There weren't kids at mine, but then again, I didn't have a FG or RB.

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Posted by CSimiMOB

Denise,
Don't you think that if the kids are invited to the shower, that people will think they are invited to the wedding too? That' s what I would be afraid of.

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no bc for our e-party we did no kids, so bc of that most people know the no kids policy since they already said they figured if we had no kids at e-party that we'd say no kids for the wedding. Even though i wasnt involved with the shower planning, i know on the invites the kids were not listed, but of course the mother of our FG called MOH to ask if our fg can come and i said of course, and only one other person asked if she can bring her daughter but said shes not 100% sure if shes bringing her but just in case.

Theres also a HUGE difference of 70 people invited to the shower and 300 to the wedding so the possibility of how many kids would show up is big.

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I'm also having little girls at my bridal shower. I'm having a Luau Hawaiian theme bridal shower so I think they'll bring some high spirits with them. Some of my nieces (ranging from 4-8) years old are practicing to put on a hula show for us. I think it's the cutest thing ever and a great way for them to get involved.

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Posted by Cpt2007

I've never been to a shower where children were present, so not sure. There weren't kids at mine, but then again, I didn't have a FG or RB.

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ive always seen kids at a shower too, i dont remember being at a shower where there weren't kids

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my friend had her 2 nieces (FG) and no one else. i think what you have in mind is perfectly appropriate.

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If you want only your FG's to be there that is fine. The bottom line is that people are going to tell you how they feel. Most will say something and term it ' a lot of people will get upset.' I think they do this to make their point seem more valid. The actuality is that most people wouldn't even notice and fewer will even care. Stick to what you want and don't let people drive you crazy.

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I'm having my first cousins (our 2 FG who are 6 and 7, and 2 other first cousins who are 12 and 17--not really a kid haha)....none of FH's cousins, but none of the young ones are invited to the wedding plus they live far away....so I guess for me it was kind of cut and dry. I know I went to my aunts' showers when I was little (my mom has sisters who are 12 and 14 years younger than her so I was like 8 when they got married) and loved it! I think if it's a small number of kids it's fine, and for me I wouldn't want it any other way b/c there are only a few of them and I am close to all of them, but if there are a lot and you're not close, I would say forget it and just have the FG