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ilovehimso1029
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Wedding Date:
10/3/2008 4:00 PM
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Larkfield Manor
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SIL wants to wear Ivory...
So I went to visit my brother & SIL this weekend & she decided to show me her dress for the wedding. It's IVORY...IVORY..as in the same color as my wedding dress. I am sooo mad but I didn't say anything because I was so shocked..I actually said it was a pretty dress. What was I thinking? My mom said she probably doesn't know better. What do I do. She is super sensitive and might make a huge thing if I ask her not to wear it & anyway can I really tell someone what to wear? Uggh! I know it's probably not a big deal but it's really bothering me...any ideas?
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Posted 8/21/08 3:34 AM 
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Kimbalina
Mrs. G-Rad!
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Wedding Date:
11/8/2008 8:00 AM
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The Inn at East Wind
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Can you have your FH or maybe FMIL say something to her if it is bothering you.
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Posted 8/21/08 6:48 AM
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DrWho
"I'm Addicted"
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Wedding Date:
10/12/2007 6:00 PM
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Miller Place Inn
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Is your mom in a position to say something?
(You are right though, it's not a big deal if she eventually does wear it, although some people might give her a side-eye.)
Message edited 8/21/2008 8:18:02 AM.
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Posted 8/21/08 8:16 AM
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StefPalma
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5/30/2009 7:00 PM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
my FMIL bought an ivory dress and i told my FH to please tell her that Ivory maybe isn't the best color to wear to a wedding and she was fine wtih it and she got a silver one
i totally understand how that is annoying to you - maybe tell your brother to bring it up to her (but have it come from him and not from you)
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Posted 8/21/08 8:35 AM
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anamaree77
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Wedding Date:
6/20/2008 2:30 PM
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Beckwith Pointe
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Are people really this stupid??..........really??? My DH's brother's gf brought his Niece shopping and brought her home with a white dress  I chalked it up to stupidity and let it go...although I did have fun passing a comment that if the flowergirl throws a tantrum, we will use her as a double 
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Posted 8/21/08 8:47 AM
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kirstenjk
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9/19/2008 3:30 PM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
If it is bothering you that much than say something - you will feel better. You don't want this to be the "pebble in your shoe" so to speak.
I agree - if she does end up wearing the ivory dress to your wedding, I am sure she will get the stink eye from the some of the other guests.
Good Luck!
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Posted 8/21/08 8:52 AM
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Future Mulligan
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Wedding Date:
12/5/2008 6:00 PM
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The Dome Room at Jericho Terrace
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
what did your FH say? maybe he can pass a comment to her? people are idiots
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Posted 8/21/08 8:54 AM
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ammie1016
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Wedding Date:
10/12/2008 12:00 AM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
No one should be wearing White, Ivory or a shade of white other than the BRIDE! I would have said to her you realize only the bride should be wearing White. Maybe you should take to your FMIL or have your Fiancee do it.
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Posted 8/21/08 9:13 AM
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wo0shply
Married for 2 weeks :D
Member since 6/07 2650 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/12/2008 12:00 AM
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Vanderbilt Mansion Dowling
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
i would ask FH to speak to FSIL or your FMIL and see if they can have her wear another color. Do people think?
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Posted 8/21/08 9:16 AM
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Snick n Nick
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6/7/2008 3:00 PM
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Hamlet Willow Creek
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I would have said, hey that's the same color as my dress! in a joking way and see if she caught on....if not, I would have someone else in the family bring it up 
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Posted 8/21/08 9:19 AM
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08JulyBride
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Wedding Date:
7/20/2008 2:00 PM
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Bellport Country Club...A+
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I'd have your mom say something.. just to nicely somehow mention that the color is the same as yours and it isn't really appropriate
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Posted 8/21/08 9:21 AM
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zoe282
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Wedding Date:
6/14/2008 3:00 PM
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Hotel Bethlehem Pennsylvania
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I can't believe someone would be this dumb??? Everyone knows only the bride wears white/ivory to a wedding. Very innapropriate. I would have someone just tell her in general its not appropriate, not just to your wedding but to anyone elses.
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Posted 8/21/08 9:32 AM
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FutureMrsJ08
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Wedding Date:
9/7/2008 2:00 PM
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Marina Del Rey
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
No matter what color anyone wears, just remember you will be standing out, your the bride and no one can take your spot light. People would probably be laughing at her anyways.
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Posted 8/21/08 9:40 AM
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mrsdraskin2009
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11/6/2009 6:00 PM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Definitely have someome say something to her. Maybe she will be fine with it, thinking if she showed you and you said OK, it would be fine, and had you said NO, it would be fine. KWIM??? Good luck!
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Posted 8/21/08 9:42 AM
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MELABELLA82
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Wedding Date:
11/22/2008 3:00 PM
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Jericho Terrace
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
You need to say something because that is wrong. What person wears white or ivory to the wedding knowing the bride might be in that color.
That is def not cool...make ur brother say something.
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Posted 8/21/08 9:47 AM
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MyLobster
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Wedding Date:
11/22/2008 12:00 AM
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Giorgio's
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Honestly...I think it's more embarrassing for her! Noone is obviously going to mistake her for the bride but I guarantee your guests will be talking! I went to a wedding where a guest wore an ivory dress and it was the talk of the wedding!
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Posted 8/21/08 10:29 AM
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jennarose023
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Member since 1/08 2514 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/18/2008 3:00 PM
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Gurney's Inn
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I wouldn't worry...noone is going to be looking at her...all eyes will be on YOU!!!!
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Posted 8/21/08 10:33 AM
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ttw910
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Wedding Date:
9/26/2008 3:30 PM
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The Hamlet Golf & Country Club
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
A girl at my cousins wedding last month wore and off white dress (she was married two weeks earlier - she should have known better). To be honest, I didn't even notice that night, I didn't realize the color of her dress til the next day when I was looking at pics.
Very few people will notice the color your FSIL is wearing, and those who do will know that she is a fool.
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Posted 8/21/08 10:43 AM
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emomma17
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Wedding Date:
10/10/2008 4:30 PM
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Sans Souci
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I'm sorry I know some people may not care but I would. No one should be wearing any shade of a brides' dress except for the Bride. I probably would have said something in the most polite manner possible. If she refused there would be a problem! lol
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Posted 8/21/08 10:45 AM
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bluekat16
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12/27/2008 4:00 PM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
 I don't get why she would think that's OK...Maybe you're FMIL or FH can speak with her about it and suggest she get another dress that isn't the same color as the BRIDE"S!
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Posted 8/21/08 11:00 AM
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FutureMrsCarrieri
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9/27/2008 11:30 AM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Posted by MyLobster
Honestly...I think it's more embarrassing for her! Noone is obviously going to mistake her for the bride but I guarantee your guests will be talking! I went to a wedding where a guest wore an ivory dress and it was the talk of the wedding!
This is what I think too -- she's look like a fool that's trying to upstage the bride. The only time I thought this was okay was at my cousin's wedding like 5 years ago where a very very pregnant woman wore an off white dress. She was like 9 months pregnant and we all just figured it was the only thing that fit. Anyone else looks like an idiot.
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Posted 8/21/08 11:09 AM
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mmckinnon
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Wedding Date:
11/28/2008 3:30 PM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I would be just as bothered as you. You should ask her to accessorize her dress with some color. Or ask someone to say it for you to her.
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Posted 8/21/08 4:32 PM
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GinaZ
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3/28/2008 7:30 PM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Posted by Kimbalina
Can you have your FH or maybe FMIL say something to her if it is bothering you.
I agree- see if there is someone else that can say it is inappropriate to wear white and ivory and cream to a wedding.
I went to a wedding in chicago last summer and I counted about 5 people wearing white. I was shocked and appalled! I thought it was common knowledge that wearing white and ivory etc to someone elses wedding was not right....
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Posted 8/21/08 4:35 PM
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nifheim
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Wedding Date:
3/16/2008 4:30 PM
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CLM
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
I really don't understand how you don't think wearing white/ivory/cream is wrong at a wedding. My parents went to a wedding where there were four people in white! One crazy woman wore a skin tight white dress that was short with no underwear and you can clearly see her butt and crack and EVERY DETAIL in the pics.
I would say something or have your mom say something.
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Posted 8/21/08 7:26 PM
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beachbum05
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Re: SIL wants to wear Ivory...
Posted by jennarose023
I wouldn't worry...noone is going to be looking at her...all eyes will be on YOU!!!!
I agree...
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Posted 8/21/08 7:28 PM
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