strange news (updated)

My sis got engaged last week, and sent me a text saying she is getting married

TOMORROW ,.... that she does not want to step on my toes ..

Now my brother says its my fault and I should tell her not too ...

WAIT WHAT?? I am freaking out about my wedding and sent my invites out today, having NO CLUE she was going to decide to get married ...

What do I do?

UPDATE! ******************************************
Well .... Just got a text from her that she is married ... I am happy for her, but am really sad she did this ... I mean crying at my desk sad ...

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first of all its not your fault! i really think you should have a talk to her and tell her no to rush things! she can still get married in the same year but a bit later in the year of course! there is nothing wrong with that I wish you luck!!!!

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Posted by grrulz

first of all its not your fault! i really think you should have a talk to her and tell her no to rush things! she can still get married in the same year but a bit later in the year of course! there is nothing wrong with that I wish you luck!!!!

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I agree .... but she texts me, sends me a facebook message and chats with me about this ... all I could do is say congrats, and that I really wish we could be there ....

I am sad for her .. I really am ... but ***?! How can I help crazy?

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i'm confused. are you upset because you think she is rushing into this marriage or that she is getting married before you?

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Posted by kristend

i'm confused. are you upset because you think she is rushing into this marriage or that she is getting married before you?

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ditto......

I mean if she is happy and her fiance is a nice guy then honestly, I don't see it a big deal if thats what she wants to do. I mean I don't think she will be or is trying at all to step on your toes your wedding is still 3 months away and she is getting married tomorrow. Obviously it's just going to be prob. her and i'm guessing the immediate family. If it were me I wouldn't take it that way at all. On the other hand, if you have concerns for who your sister is marrying well then thats a totally different story and I think that you need to sit down and have a sister to sister talk with her to express your concerns. GL.

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Posted by SoonToBMrsC

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Posted by kristend

i'm confused. are you upset because you think she is rushing into this marriage or that she is getting married before you?

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ditto......

I mean if she is happy and her fiance is a nice guy then honestly, I don't see it a big deal if thats what she wants to do. I mean I don't think she will be or is trying at all to step on your toes your wedding is still 3 months away and she is getting married tomorrow. Obviously it's just going to be prob. her and i'm guessing the immediate family. If it were me I wouldn't take it that way at all. On the other hand, if you have concerns for who your sister is marrying well then thats a totally different story and I think that you need to sit down and have a sister to sister talk with her to express your concerns. GL.

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i agree....

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Posted by SoonToBMrsC

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Posted by kristend

i'm confused. are you upset because you think she is rushing into this marriage or that she is getting married before you?

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ditto......

I mean if she is happy and her fiance is a nice guy then honestly, I don't see it a big deal if thats what she wants to do. I mean I don't think she will be or is trying at all to step on your toes your wedding is still 3 months away and she is getting married tomorrow. Obviously it's just going to be prob. her and i'm guessing the immediate family. If it were me I wouldn't take it that way at all. On the other hand, if you have concerns for who your sister is marrying well then thats a totally different story and I think that you need to sit down and have a sister to sister talk with her to express your concerns. GL.

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ITA!!!!

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Posted by SoonToBMrsC

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Posted by kristend

i'm confused. are you upset because you think she is rushing into this marriage or that she is getting married before you?

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ditto......

I mean if she is happy and her fiance is a nice guy then honestly, I don't see it a big deal if thats what she wants to do. I mean I don't think she will be or is trying at all to step on your toes your wedding is still 3 months away and she is getting married tomorrow. Obviously it's just going to be prob. her and i'm guessing the immediate family. If it were me I wouldn't take it that way at all. On the other hand, if you have concerns for who your sister is marrying well then thats a totally different story and I think that you need to sit down and have a sister to sister talk with her to express your concerns. GL.

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itaaaa

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i dont think its ur fault that she's gettin married so quickly. if thats what her and her FH want to do then they're gonna do it. every couple wants to have their wedding/marriage take place differently and if thats what they want, thats fine.
but maybe u two could sit and talk anyways............

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If that's what she wants, then ok. If she's just doing it b/c she thinks that it will interfere with your wedding, then you should definitely talk to her about it either way. Good luck!

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I am upset for 2 reasons ...

1) the reason she is rushing is because of me ... I don't really understand her reasoning ... but my family wanted me to call and tell her she can get married whenever she wants, WHICH SHE CAN!

2) She is not giving any of our family the opportunity to be there, her FH's family will be there ..

I am just sad NOT JEALOUS!

ETA: She text me yesterday and she is getting married TODAY! she is in CT, there is no time to talk it out.....

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since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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Posted by FutureCap

since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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She is getting married this afternoon, then going with him and his family to mohegan sun right after ...

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I would let her know she can still plan a wedding and get married next year and not step on your toes. you getting married in Feb, she will have the rest of the year to get married. I would speak to her before she makes this quick decesion and she and the rest of your family resent you forever for something that wasnt your fault

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by FutureCap

since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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She is getting married this afternoon, then going with him and his family to mohegan sun right after ...

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Wow! Are you or any member of your family going to be there?

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Posted by DaniandKen2010

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by FutureCap

since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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She is getting married this afternoon, then going with him and his family to mohegan sun right after ...

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Wow! Are you or any member of your family going to be there?

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Nope ... not a one .... its very sad

ETA : We would have gone, don't get me wrong, but a phone call the evening before your wedding does not give anyone the time to go to another state to be there at a wedding. I wish I could be there

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by DaniandKen2010

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by FutureCap

since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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She is getting married this afternoon, then going with him and his family to mohegan sun right after ...

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Wow! Are you or any member of your family going to be there?

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Nope ... not a one .... its very sad

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Have you expressed to her that you want to be able to be there and see her get married? That the rest of your family would love to be there?

In the end...she's gonna do what she wants. But if your whole family wants to see her get married and she doesn't know that...thats not too good.

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by DaniandKen2010

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by FutureCap

since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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She is getting married this afternoon, then going with him and his family to mohegan sun right after ...

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Wow! Are you or any member of your family going to be there?

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Nope ... not a one .... its very sad

ETA : We would have gone, don't get me wrong, but a phone call the evening before your wedding does not give anyone the time to go to another state to be there at a wedding. I wish I could be there

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Awww that stinks, but don't feel like it's your fault!! Just because you are getting married in February, doesn't mean she needs to get married this afternoon, alone! My FBIL got engaged right after FH and I did and they didn't rush out to the altar! They're holding off and getting married in 2011. DOn't feel guilty about it, it's not your fault. It's your sister's own choice. It is sad though and not just for your sis but your whole family. I'm sure they'd love to be there.

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totally not your fault... seems like she jsut wanted the attention

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Posted by MikesBride2B

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by DaniandKen2010

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Posted by bridezilla2b

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Posted by FutureCap

since you wrote this on 11/18 tomorrow is now today.... any update?

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She is getting married this afternoon, then going with him and his family to mohegan sun right after ...

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Wow! Are you or any member of your family going to be there?

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Nope ... not a one .... its very sad

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Have you expressed to her that you want to be able to be there and see her get married? That the rest of your family would love to be there?

In the end...she's gonna do what she wants. But if your whole family wants to see her get married and she doesn't know that...thats not too good.

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I chatted with her on facebook, she would not answer her phone. She had a long conversation with my mother - which I have not been told how the conversation went.

It is what it is I guess ....