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i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

madseason Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:43 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:43 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

Posted by debbieh

thank you ! i told FH and he flipped... he honestly was like do i even want S there to begin with.. i cant be bothered...

Man... i cant WAIT to make the guest list!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe when u dont invite E...S and the engaged one (too many letters floating around here) will get mad and just not go!

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:45 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:45 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

yeah FH really was liek W T F i dont want to be bothered i dont liKE the girlfriend (extra) i cant have drama...

i hope they get the invite and just dont go. <-- that is if we invite them

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:56 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:56 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

i am also not going to judge if that's what they are into. but i myself am not into that sort of thing, and would feel uncomfortable having their little party of 3 at my wedding.

besides, just b/c that's their girlfriend, that doesn't mean she is your friend. they should respect that at your wedding you are inviting YOU friends and family. don't want her there? tell her she is not invited. seroiusly, don't even stress over something like that. you can do it in a nice way w/o hurting any feelings, just tell her you can't afford to start inviting friends of friends or WHATEVER she is...lol...

SeaMaiden Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:17 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:17 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

i agree with all the above, i really dont see how she thinks it would be appropriate, i wouldnt second guess or feel bad about not inviting her. now if they are practicing mormons or something(no disrepect to mormons especially because i dont know much about it) then i would think twice because there may be some prinicipal or something, but for her to demand acceptance of their lifestyle or discomfort of the whole family at your wedding is very innappropriate.

Dolce19 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:25 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:25 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

That is insane. I wouldn't invite the 3rd party. What if they start all making out..lol.

Sorry..I couldn't help myself.

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:27 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:27 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

Posted by Dolce19

That is insane. I wouldn't invite the 3rd party. What if they start all making out..lol.
Sorry..I couldn't help myself.

seriously that would NOT be the first they woudl do somethign TOTALLY inappropiate

jgl Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:52 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 05:52 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

i cant believe that the 2 of them have a woman living with them that is FH's girlfriend. what at SCREW-up relationship.

in all honesty that goes against everything i beleive in and i wouldnt even invite S or K and def no E

FutureMrsRice Posted: Mar 23, 2007 06:05 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 06:05 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

WHOA!!

While it is a bit of a weird situation, I would say that if she is his 'significant other,' she should be invited to the wedding, too. We have people coming to the wedding that we don't particularly like, but since they are coming as someone's date, there's not much we can do about it except avoid them at the wedding.

SoinLoveRwe2 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 07:54 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 07:54 PM

Re: i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

HOLY HOT DOGS!

I just had to read this entire thread 4 times before I understood--- let's just say that the term 'third party' was a bit misleading...lol.

I was going to ask if they were from Utah as well!!

IMO-- they're not acting 'appropriately'-- so why should you? Say what you have to say in a not too nasty way & be done with it. If it was me-- I wouldnt want someone there who was making a mockery of marriage and fidelity- not something I'd like to be around on my wedding day! (to each his own lifestyle-- and to each his own opinion!!))

PS- how RUDE that she'd come out and ask you!!!

branNjay Posted: Mar 23, 2007 09:56 PM+

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Posted: Mar 23, 2007 09:56 PM