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We didn't pad the invitations. I didn't even know people did this until after I had ordered them!

Personally, I don't think you should. If people are late, it's their loss. Most people will probably get there early if anything, so you'll be making them wait a really long time. But, this is my opinion. I dislike when work meetings start late also to accomodate the stragglers!

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We were married at the reception hall. The ceremony was at 11:30, but the invitation called for 11. The hall had a hospitality half hour from 11-11:30 where they served light refreshments. I'm glad we had the extra time so that all of my guests could see the ceremony, which is the most important part of the day.

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I probably will put the time as 15-30 mins earlier just to be safe. I usually don't like to accomodate latecomers, but for this one time I'd rather have most people there before we start.

ETA: I also have a lot of OOT guests (my whole side of the family) and so this will be extra padding in case anyone gets lost.

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I am not doing that. What about the people that show up earlier then the invite time? They could be waiting like 45 mins.

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Posted by ChristineAE

We're not...I'd be pretty pissed off if someone ever sent me an invite w/a time that's earlier...I don't like being 'lied' to - we're adults....

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I agree with this. We put our actual start time and everyone was there on time. I would be really annoyed if someone put a fake time on their invite, and I got to the church early like we usually do, then I had to sit at wait for an extra 1/2 hr-hr. I personally think it's rude to all of your guests.

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Posted by ChristineAE

We're not...I'd be pretty pissed off if someone ever sent me an invite w/a time that's earlier...I don't like being 'lied' to - we're adults....

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I agree with this. We put our actual start time and everyone was there on time. I would be really annoyed if someone put a fake time on their invite, and I got to the church early like we usually do, then I had to sit at wait for an extra 1/2 hr-hr. I personally think it's rude to all of your guests.

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I agree too!

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well I put 30 minutes earlier on mine, but not intentionally. I THOUGHT the ceremony started at 6:30...but I guess they just hand out drinks etcc... til 7...I personally would have put 7 if I had known.

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We are getting married at the hall, and they actually told us to put the time on the invitation a half an hour earlier than the actual time of the ceremony. They will have stuff set up for people who show up early. This prevents late comers from interrupting the ceremony. Also, at a hall, it probably takes a lot longer to get all the people situated than at a church or temple. We are also on a much tighter time schedule, we can't start the ceremony late, the CH starts right after the ceremony.

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i will probably do that - like 30 minutes before or so because Chateau Briand offers a hospitality cart for people in their lobby which is huge! Champagne too so people should enjoy that. And be there!

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We went to a wedding last month that the invite said it started at 3:30 but it really started at 4.

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

We are getting married at the hall, and they actually told us to put the time on the invitation a half an hour earlier than the actual time of the ceremony. They will have stuff set up for people who show up early. This prevents late comers from interrupting the ceremony. Also, at a hall, it probably takes a lot longer to get all the people situated than at a church or temple. We are also on a much tighter time schedule, we can't start the ceremony late, the CH starts right after the ceremony.

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Here was my situation at WM...

I got married at 11am.
Another bride got married at 11:30am
Another bride got married at 12 noon...

They had to have extra upon extra valet because I found out the girl getting married at noon put 11am on her invite...which normal guest plan on getting there approx 15-30mins before...talk about traffic jam! Thanks to putting the incorrect time on the invite - MY guests were inconvenienced!. AND we had to ask our guests to try and make it even earlier than expected because of this...

But all in all...with hospitality breakfast, etc. only one stupid guest was late...and that was her fault.

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We ut the actual time on our invites. We went to a wedding in July and they put a 1/2 earlier. Alot of people got upset because they got there 15 mntues for the invite time so they were actually there 45 minutes ahead of time.

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i never thought of this...i figured that people should realize that its a wedding and should give themselves ample travel time (especially if they don't know the area) to get there on time. IMO if you put an earlier time the way people think they would not use it for travel time but would leave their houses later.

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I am putting 6:00 for 6:30 ceremony

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i put 12 and the ceremony was at 1230. personally since my hall was going to give out drinks and food to the incoming guests i felt it was nice for the guests to mingle and say hello for the 1/2 hour instead of them coming and having to sit right away. nobody seemed to get upset and i think i generally expect that i'll be waiting a bit before a wedding..i would hate to run late, hit traffic or something and miss the 'grand entrance' as someone said in an earlier post. stuff happens and even if you don't want to be late you might be. jmo

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I think you should just give really detailed directions and let people know that the ceremony location is difficult to find.

If you put the earlier time on the invite, people will think you started late, and many would think that's thoughtless and rude (IMHO).

HTH!

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Posted by JCam695

One of my BMs suggested putting the ceremony start time 15 - 30 minutes before the actual start time so it will start right on time.

Has anyone done this or thought of doing it?

I am considering it because I feel like people may get lost trying to find the church if they are not from the area...it's hard to find.

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our hall told us to put 30 minutes before so we did. we still has some guests show up late though

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We are also going to put an earlier time on our invires 20 mins. Our DOC told us that this way everyone will be there for the ceremony even thiose who are usually fashionably late....

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I think it depends. I know my circle of friends and family if I put the correct time on the invite they will miss the ceremony.

Sad but true.