Jewish Brides...throwing things after the ceremony

Does anyone know if throwing things like rice, rose petals, butterflies, blowing bubbles is a Catholic thing?

It just occurred to me that this may not be appropriate for a Jewish wedding. The majority of my friends are Catholic and I have been a BM in way too many Catholic weddings. Unfortunately I can't say the same for Jewish weddings, haven't been to too many of those.

I am having my ceremony indoors and I was thinking of making little jingle bells on a ribbon for guests to ring as we walk out right after the ceremony... Similar to the ones featured in the latest Martha Stewart Weddings issue.

Does anyone know if this is appropriate for a Jewish wedding?

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We are having a jewish ceremony and we are using the little bells for when we walk out. Our hall won't allow bubble but that is what I want to do. It is perfectly appropriate and religion has nothing to do with it. IMHO

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I believe its not a Jewish 'thing'. I have never seen that at Jewish weddings.

But, maybe you can ask your Rabbi.?

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I dont think it is a Catholic tradition per se. To my knowledge there is no set RULE against throwing or ringing anything though I have never in all of my years seen anything thrown or rung at a Jewish wedding. I grew up with a fairly conservative Jewish background and I do not plan on throwing or ringing anything during or after my ceremony or my reception. It isn't a question of 'appropriateness.' Its just not done just as Jordan Almonds arent served. It is simply not a Jewish tradition.

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As the others have said, I don't think it is traditionally done at Jewish weddings, but I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong with doing it. My immediate thought was, oh my mom would have a heart attack since SHE would think it is a non Jewish things to do... but she thinks that of the shower, bachelorette party, etc. Traditions change. I would check with your Rabbi (and maybe your mom? ), but if there are no hard and fast rules, do what you want!

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True, things and times do change. Maybe I don't!

I never thought of that perspective. Thanks.

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I've never seen it anything thrown at a Jewish Wedding, but then again, on simchat torah, they throw candy for the kids, so I don't know if it's not allowed, or just not done...

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My friend had bubbles at her jewish wedding. That's the only time I saw anything like this done.

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Thanks for your opinions... I agree that there probably isn't a 'rule' about this but out of the blue it hit me that it may not be a Jewish thing and might be out of place.

Our Cantor may say its ok but the guests may not think so. I think I'll just pass on the whole idea... even though I think its cute.

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LOL, I once told my mom, LONG before I was engaged, that I was going to do the bubbles instead of the rice at my wedding. She looked at me and said 'My Goyishe daughter!' and laughted.

I don't think that it's necessarily inappropriate, just uncommon.

However, I did just think of this for you - at Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, I've heard of throwing candy. They also throw candy at the Aufruf. Have you considered throwing (WRAPPED) candy? As long as people don't pelt you with it, it's ok, and that IS a Jewish Tradiation.

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I would check with the rabbi for that answer. I've been to alot of jewish weddings and never seen that before.

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I dunno, the thought of someone throwing a Starlight mint at my head makes me a lil nervous. Those are some HARD candies! I mean its all fun and games until someone loses an eye!

If you do have your ceremony in a synogogue, just make sure the candy is Parve.

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I went to a conservative wedding where we blew bubbles as the bride and groom danced their first dance, but that was during the reception. (Looked incredibly romantic, by the way.)

So I would agree with the other girls that it's OK, just not done. How about substituting and doing something like above instead?

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I am not Jewish...I am Catholic but I wasn;t aware that it was a 'Catholic Tradition' to throw things. I think throwing of the rice was supposed to symbolize fertility....so people throwing it were in a way wishing the couple would be fertile and have children.

I think it depends on where you are getting married. I think its best to check with them first.

Good Luck

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Posted by beautyq115

I am not Jewish...I am Catholic but I wasn;t aware that it was a 'Catholic Tradition' to throw things. I think throwing of the rice was supposed to symbolize fertility....so people throwing it were in a way wishing the couple would be fertile and have children.

I think it depends on where you are getting married. I think its best to check with them first.

Good Luck

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I was pretty sure that it wasn't a 'Catholic Tradition' but I have never seen it at a Jewish wedding... We are pretty reformed... having our ceremony at our hall with a Cantor on a Saturday night just a weeee bit before sundown. My concern is more that I don't offend anyone... if its not something that has any meaning in a Jewish ceremony then there is no reason to do it (even though I love the bubbles, etc).

Thanks to everyone for your help!

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I've been to a ton of Jewish weddings, and I've never seen anything thrown or blown after the ceremony.

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The only Jewish bride I remember having something thrown was one who got married in a interfaith ceremony. She had these cute snowflakes (like the confetti ones) thrown at her. She just got married a few weeks ago.

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I think the Jewish brides (myself included) are only concerned that if they do something non traditional, that it will be remembered as a faux pas at any up coming Mah Jhong game involving some of your older wedding guests. Trust me on this one - my mom used to play weekly when I was a kid and they talk and talk and talk.....

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Posted by Goldi1021

I think the Jewish brides (myself included) are only concerned that if they do something non traditional, that it will be remembered as a faux pas at any up coming Mah Jhong game involving some of your older wedding guests. Trust me on this one - my mom used to play weekly when I was a kid and they talk and talk and talk.....

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Posted by Goldi1021

I think the Jewish brides (myself included) are only concerned that if they do something non traditional, that it will be remembered as a faux pas at any up coming Mah Jhong game involving some of your older wedding guests. Trust me on this one - my mom used to play weekly when I was a kid and they talk and talk and talk.....

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You're exactly right! I know the 'elders' do TALK