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suven
Sunny skies on my wedding day!
Member since 8/03 5968 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/30/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck: A
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who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore
I see that we are always talking about tips. But, to be honest, if I tipped as many vendors as much as I hear on these boards, I would really be broke.
So, who REALLY needs to be tipped? And, my hall charged me 15% gratuity. Why is it that I am supposed to feel compelled to tip on top of this? Should I really pitch in MORE money because my hall supposedly does not give this gratuity to the wait staff and banquet manager?
Message edited 4/27/2004 11:55:41 AM.
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Posted 4/27/04 9:10 AM 
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jar823
Puss in Boots
Member since 1/03 2117 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/14/2004 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Majestic Gardens
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Re: who are you tipping?
We were charged an 18% Gratuity. And were told we have to tip the wait staff ontop of that. Because that 18% covers their salary for the day. BULL SH***.
We are tipping:
The wait staff
The Maitre D
The Bridal Attendant (s)
The DJ
The Photographer
The Videographer
The Officiant
The Ceremony Musician
If you want to know exact numbers (FM me)f
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Posted 4/27/04 9:37 AM
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Stacey04
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 2/04 2288 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/27/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonards of Great Neck
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Re: who are you tipping?
I don't think its necessary to tip the wait staff...you pay enough in gratituty. I think just the Matrie D is good...
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Posted 4/27/04 9:42 AM
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nylisa
Many More Years To Come
Member since 7/02 11375 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Manor East
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Re: who are you tipping?
We are tipping:
Maitre D
DJ & MC
Photographer
Videographer & Assistant
Limo Drivers (even though there is a 20% gratiuity charge on my contrat)
Flower Delivery Person
Makeup Artist
Hair Stylist
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Posted 4/27/04 9:43 AM
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Marcela1654
Board Princess
Member since 2/02 10392 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2004 3:00 PM
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Re: who are you tipping?
Posted by nylisa
We are tipping:
Maitre D
DJ & MC
Photographer
Videographer & Assistant
Limo Drivers (even though there is a 20% gratiuity charge on my contrat)
Flower Delivery Person
Makeup Artist
Hair Stylist
Same here and we have 2 bridal assistants also that we have to tip.
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Posted 4/27/04 9:47 AM
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Sandy&Ben
Board Fanatic
Member since 2/03 621 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/22/2004 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Land's End
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Re: who are you tipping?
but what about if your vendor is also the owner of the company? my photographer, dj and florist are all the owners. do i tip them?
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Posted 4/27/04 9:47 AM
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nylisa
Many More Years To Come
Member since 7/02 11375 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Manor East
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Re: who are you tipping?
My photographer, videographer, DJ, makeup artist and hair stylist and Florist are the owners and I am going to tip anyway.
Message edited 4/27/2004 10:09:31 AM.
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Posted 4/27/04 9:49 AM
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jar823
Puss in Boots
Member since 1/03 2117 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/14/2004 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Majestic Gardens
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Re: who are you tipping?
My photographer is the owner of the company. We are tipping his assistant
My MC is the owner of the company. We are tipping the DJ
My Videographer is the owner of the company. We are tipping his assistant
WE are not tipping limo's. The gratuity is in our contract. Only if the do an outstanding job, will we tip them. WE ALREADY DIDw
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Posted 4/27/04 9:52 AM
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Marcela1654
Board Princess
Member since 2/02 10392 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2004 3:00 PM
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Re: who are you tipping?
I don't think you have to tip owners. My makeup/hair artist is the owner of her company and I'm tipping her anyway. I really would not feel right not tipping her.
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Posted 4/27/04 9:56 AM
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Rae912
Board Enthusiast
Member since 4/04 87 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/15/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Stuart Thomas Manor
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Re: who are you tipping?
Just a thought. A friend of mine is a hair dresser, and she did a bridal partys hair and make up and the bride gave her a smaller tip, and a nice "thank you" basket. My friend thought it was a really nice token of appreciation. My friend had to get up at 4:30 to drive 1 1/2 hours for this and the owner of the salon decided not to show. So she did 5 peoples hair that morning.
I know a gift basket for the waitstaff would be stupid, but depending on how friendly you become with these people, its nt a bad idea for some.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:01 AM
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shelly3950
I'm married!!!!
Member since 11/03 1965 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/29/2004 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Oceanside Jewish Center
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Re: who are you tipping?
I am tipping almost no one- Except for teh bridal attendant- gratuities with my hall are all included. I am tipping my hair person. (Still need to find a make up person) Almost everyone else i booked has their own company and I usually don't tip owners. If someone does an extraordinary job I will tip them.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:04 AM
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Danielle&Scott
Mom, I will always love you.
Member since 8/03 8806 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/14/2004 7:30 PM
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Re: who are you tipping?
Why are you tipping your photographer and videographer? We dont plan on doing it. It is ridiculous, they already charge you so much money as it is.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:05 AM
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nylisa
Many More Years To Come
Member since 7/02 11375 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Manor East
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Re: who are you tipping?
IMO, they are performing a service for you. That is why I am tipping them.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:10 AM
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Marcela1654
Board Princess
Member since 2/02 10392 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2004 3:00 PM
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Re: who are you tipping?
Posted by Danielle&Scott
Why are you tipping your photographer and videographer? We dont plan on doing it. It is ridiculous, they already charge you so much money as it is.
We're tipping them b/c they will be with us for about 12 hours. I would not feel right not giving them anything. And we will be feeding them.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:21 AM
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neen
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 7/03 1384 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2004 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Land's End
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Re: who are you tipping?
OMG-- I am not tipping my photographer and videographer they are they owners, I am not tipping the band as they are getting a lot of money-the only people are the Maitre D and limo drivers. I mean to tip everyone would be insane. JMO
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Posted 4/27/04 10:27 AM
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suven
Sunny skies on my wedding day!
Member since 8/03 5968 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/30/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck: A
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Re: who are you tipping?
I always thought that I was paying them for their service. If they wanted the additional money, wouldn't they incorporate that into the actual price?
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Posted 4/27/04 10:32 AM
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neen
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 7/03 1384 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/16/2004 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Land's End
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Re: who are you tipping?
Exactly suven!!!!!
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Posted 4/27/04 10:39 AM
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StepherG
Due 8/25/05!
Member since 7/03 1940 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/1/2004 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: who are you tipping?
I agree. Some of the tipping is a little ridiculous. I plan on tipping where appropriate. I won't "automatically" tip someone. They have to do a wonderful job and deserve it.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:44 AM
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brideinapril
My First Love.....
Member since 11/03 4449 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/17/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Rockhill in Manorville
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Re: who are you tipping?
I tipped the photographer, DJ, wait staff ( my gratuities were included but I gave extra anyway) I also tipped the bartender.
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Posted 4/27/04 10:59 AM
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Monkeybride
One + One=Three
Member since 10/03 1790 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/17/2004 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
On the water
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Re: who are you tipping?
What does everyone think about tipping after the fact? I read one review where a bride sent her tips the next day after her and FH had time to sit down and go over who they felt needed to be tipped and how much?
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Posted 4/27/04 11:03 AM
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Valentinegirl
*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
Member since 7/03 7281 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/14/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor-A+
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Re: who are you tipping?
Posted by nylisa
We are tipping:
Maitre D
DJ & MC
Photographer
Videographer & Assistant
Limo Drivers (even though there is a 20% gratiuity charge on my contrat)
Flower Delivery Person
Makeup Artist
Hair Stylist
This is all I tipped also.
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Posted 4/27/04 11:31 AM
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drewsgirl
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Member since 10/03 1225 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/5/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Windwatch - A++++++
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Re: who are you tipping?
Right now I am not tipping photgrapher/videographer. One they are the owner, which I was going to do anyway, but then I was told you are already paying for the service. I don't know how the pictures or video will come out. Hopefully great but what if I tip them and I am dissattisfied with it all. If anything when I pick up the pictures I may tip then. JMO
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Posted 4/27/04 11:46 AM
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suven
Sunny skies on my wedding day!
Member since 8/03 5968 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/30/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck: A
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Re: who are you tipping?
I don't know. I'm starting to think that maybe I should just start signing my paychecks over to these people.
My makeup artist wants $100 for me and $100 for my mom. Why should I tip him on top of that? If I went to his makeup counter at the mall, I'd get it for free!
The hairdresser wants $65 per person and she works for my Future-Uncle in law. She made her price, not him. So, why should I give her even more?
Photo and video each own their own companies. They established their own prices. If they wanted more, wouldn't they have put it in the price?
Why is it my problem that my hall isn't giving any of my 15% to their staff? If it was so horrible, then why does anyone work there?
Limo already REQUIRED me to pay 20% extra. I think I'd have to be insane to give more than that...
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Posted 4/27/04 11:54 AM
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tracyg
It's A Sickness!
Member since 1/03 5130 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/9/2004 12:00 PM
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Re: who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore
I aske FFIL (who used to be a limo driver) if we should tip our limo guy on top of the 20% gratuity... He said NO, unless they go out of their way and do something above and BEYOND their duty. But not for doing what they are supposed to.
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Posted 4/27/04 11:58 AM
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Stacey04
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 2/04 2288 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/27/2004 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonards of Great Neck
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Re: who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore
Posted by suven
I don't know. I'm starting to think that maybe I should just start signing my paychecks over to these people.
My makeup artist wants $100 for me and $100 for my mom. Why should I tip him on top of that? If I went to his makeup counter at the mall, I'd get it for free!
The hairdresser wants $65 per person and she works for my Future-Uncle in law. She made her price, not him. So, why should I give her even more?
Photo and video each own their own companies. They established their own prices. If they wanted more, wouldn't they have put it in the price?
Why is it my problem that my hall isn't giving any of my 15% to their staff? If it was so horrible, then why does anyone work there?
Limo already REQUIRED me to pay 20% extra. I think I'd have to be insane to give more than that...
You have to do what YOU WANT to do...IMO with the people you mentioned, you shouldn't have to tip them.
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Posted 4/27/04 11:59 AM
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