Some people have SOME NERVE...VENT

Last week I sent out an email to all of my BM saying that they should start making fitting appointments, what shoes, some day of details, etc.

This morning I got a response from one of the girls saying that she couldn't be in my wedding.

THERE ARE LESS THAN TWO MONTHS LEFT AT THIS POINT!

She asked me to be in her wedding and at the time, I was out of work for several months with an injury and couldn't afford to be in her wedding and let her know it 7 months prior to her wedding and before dresses or anything been ordered. Bear in mind that her wedding was 2 weeks ago and I went and gave a gift. I also went to her shower and offered to help her with anything else she needed help with on several occassions leading to her wedding.

I am so mad that she did this and I told her so. There was no reason given and I am owed an explanation. I feel like she used me to come to her wedding and make her minimum and have me give a gift. She must have known 2 weeks ago that she planned on backing out of my wedding, but she let me believe all was fine.

I am more mad at this point since she should know better than anyone having just gone through this process that people lay out money for BP gifts, etc. and I have done that at this point.

I would have understood had she done this in a timely manner, but I now I just feel used. Maybe she made me come to her wedding and give her a gift so that her dress for my wedding would be paid for? I just don't get it.

Sorry this is so long, I just had to vent to people who would understand.

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how can she NOT give you a reason for dropping out of the BP????? that's CRAZY!

did she say she can't make the wedding at all? doesn't she already have her dress (that she paid for??) this doesn't make any sense

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I hope she doesn't plan on coming to the wedding, especially after what I responded with. She should at least send back her invitation response with a big NO. I don't want her there at this point anyway.

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I would try & cancel your check if she hasn't cashed it yet....especially if you think she used you...that is just rude.

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Unfortunately being her friend, I gave her cash. I can tell you this....We live and we learn.

What makes things worse to me, is that she had several people drop out of her wedding and much later than me. Says something about the bride I guess.

I at least did right by our friendship and was honest and did it with enough time. I offered to help her, but being in a wedding is expensive and at the time, I was not able to afford it.

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Wow I have no words for you...just hugs!

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didn't she already pay for her dress? this makes no sense. do you think she's mad at you about something?

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She already paid for her dress. I think she is just mad that I dropped out of hers but I wish she would have done it sooner. Less than 8 weeks is unacceptable. Don't you think?

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Posted by JCMsGirl05

She already paid for her dress. I think she is just mad that I dropped out of hers but I wish she would have done it sooner. Less than 8 weeks is unacceptable. Don't you think?

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I agree.... she is clearly being immature if she's being spiteful.

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Some of the girls on BHB didn't feel the same way.

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I cannot believe someone would do this to a 'friend'... I am sorry you are going through this. What did you say to her?? And to tell you this in an email is totally wrong. She should of said all this to you in person. Shame on her!!!

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I don't mind the email honestly. I just wish she had done it sooner. All the plans have been made. Now I have to change things and I am stuck with things I ordered for her and I feel like it was more spiteful than anything else.

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Posted by JCMsGirl05

I don't mind the email honestly. I just wish she had done it sooner. All the plans have been made. Now I have to change things and I am stuck with things I ordered for her and I feel like it was more spiteful than anything else.

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I seriously would be tempted to egg, toilet paper, shaving cream her house her car or something! (Well, maybe not really, but I'd like to I think) That is bulls#!t! That is NO friend! You are better off not having her, she'd probably not smile in any of your pictures and make the morning of your wedding just really horrible! Your true friends will be there. It ***** for now, but I think you'll be better off in the end!

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that's horrible if she's doing it for that reason! If so, maybe u would n't want her there anyway if that's the kind of friend she is.

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OMG I would have killed her! And to not even give a reason???

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She said it was in both of our best interests if she decline being in the bridal party and that we have many issues. Only issue I can think of is that she is pissed that I dropped out of hers. But to do it this close is just wrong in my opinion. She she know, since someone dropped out of hers at about this time, maybe even closer to hers.

We live and we learn, I guess. I am mad.

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You have every right to be sweety!

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it does suck that this was done to you so close to your wedding, but like everything in life there are 2 sides to every story. It doesnt make sense that she would even pay the money for her BM dress, knowing how every penny counts when planning your own wedding. It seems to me that we are not getting the whole story here.