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Registry cards in it! That's getting a jump on things And is it just me or do people keep getting more and more forward about this registry stuff!

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Wow that's not very proper!

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All brides should have the benefit of LIW

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No, thats the way its done now AND I got that FROM LIW - I did the same thing! Hotel info gets sent with them too! When we got engaged sooooo many people asked us where are you registered, so putting them in there was perfect- even though you dont expect it so many sent engagement gifts and christmas gifts off our registry! we did not have an engagement party.
So NO I dont think its forward AT ALL!

edited to say- I have NEVER received an engagement invite or STD that didnt have a registry in it and I didnt think it was inappropiate at all, I thought it was smart so I knew what to get them, cash is for the wedding and I wanted to get them something I knew they wanted!
Times have changed-

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This is just my opinion but when it comes to something like this I think you need to use your own judgement. Personally I would find it inappropriate if I recieved a Save the Date or engagement invite with registry information and I know that my close friends and family would too. So even if I read it was 'ok' I personally wouldn't do it. But again- JMO.

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I agree with you Lisa!
I sent out e-party invites and would never think of including registry info.
Plus,I havent even registered yet!

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I wouldn't have known it was inappropriate had I not used these boards - I prob would have included registry cards with the stds. Now I am just going to include them with the shower invites.

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IN- AP-PRO- PRIATE

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I think its kind of forward. I got an invite to an engagement party with one, plus the STD, plus the shower, plus the wedding invite. I mean, C'MON! I can see the shower, but FOUR DIFFERENT TIMES??

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When I was MOH in my cousin's wedding, I made and sent out the shower invites...my cousin (the pain in the a$$ bridezilla ) insisted that I include her registry info...IMHO I thought it was tacky but she didn't and so I did what she wanted.

Did I mention that she was a HUGE pain in the a$$

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Yuck

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speaking of forward-I read somewhere that someone had engagement party invitations that had the brides address in it and asked people to send gifts directly to the bride...meaning there wasnt really a party-it was more like an invite to send her gifts!

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I thought that the registry info shuold not come from the bride. That's why it's sent with the shower invites, since it's not given by the bride.

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Why is it ok to send registry info with a shower invite but not with an e-party invite?

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Wow, I guess Im the out cast here- whats the difference between sending the registry info with the STD and having your website printed on the STD and having your registry info on that??????????

I think it all depends on timing too, for instance I got engaged and married within 7 months, family members were hounding me where am I registered b/c they wanted to send an engagement gift which of course said is not necessary but of course DH family surprised us with a mini engagement party of just his side, and I had a TON of OOTer's too, so by the time I got my hall, church, blocked rooms it was now 5 months till my wedding so YES I included the registry, and hotel info with my STD's and didnt think it was Tacky or Inappropiate at all. My mother and the girls did my shower and it was a suprise and it was about 7 weeks before my wedding and I had guest tell me they were happy I sent the registry out early enough to give them time to get gifts knowing the shortness of time and a lot couldnt make the shower mailed the gifts to my mothers house too.

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While some people (like me) send out STD's when their weddings are on holiday weekends, I venture to say that the majority of STD users do not have weddings planned on those days. An STD card serves a function - to have people mark their calendars - not to mark their calendars and give gifts. Thats what e-parties and showers are for. We arent having an e-party but we got more engagement gifts from our registry BEFORE we sent out STDs than after. I think the difference in putting a website on an STD (which I didnt do) and sending the registry info, is that a website has more than just registry information on it. I know mine does.

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Posted by Goldi1021

While some people (like me) send out STD's when their weddings are on holiday weekends, I venture to say that the majority of STD users do not have weddings planned on those days. An STD card serves a function - to have people mark their calendars - not to mark their calendars and give gifts. Thats what e-parties and showers are for. We arent having an e-party but we got more engagement gifts from our registry BEFORE we sent out STDs than after. I think the difference in putting a website on an STD (which I didnt do) and sending the registry info, is that a website has more than just registry information on it. I know mine does.

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So what?????? YOur registry is still there! thats the point! You are just doing it inconspicously (sp) You cant judge someone elses judgement when you are not in the situation- We did too get a ton of gifts prior to the STD's- close family knew where we were registering, so same applies- gee how did your guest 'know' where to get you gifts PRIOR to the STD's and not having an engagement party???? Guest asked someone and someone told someone and so forth- I eliminated that problem - Now had I gotten engaged and set the date a year later then NO I wouldnt have sent them, I would have sent just the hotel info with them, but for me time was an issue and too many guest asking where is she regsitered!
I think its very unfair for anyone to say its tacky or inappropiate when the trends of wedding are changing quickly and ANYTHING goes now- these boards Im sure have shown you that!

oh and edited to say yes many of us do , do wedding around holidays- mine was a holiday weekend!

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I gave my answer to a posed question. Sorry my answer wasn't to your liking but it was still my answer and my opinion. And I did not call anyone or anything tacky or innappropriate. Those are someone else's words. MY words ALSO voiced an opinion that spoke of a supposition on why and when people mail STDs - nothng more.

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Posted by Goldi1021

I gave my answer to a posed question. Sorry my answer wasn't to your liking but it was still my answer and my opinion. And I did not call anyone or anything tacky or innappropriate. Those are someone else's words. MY words ALSO voiced an opinion that spoke of a supposition on why and when people mail STDs - nothng more.

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Thank you for your supposition. Can you please tell me where you got it from?

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To suppose, is to think something is true but not to be sure. It was my own supposition and NOT a statement of fact. Im done here.