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excellent advice

My sister is my MOH, FH's sister is a BM, and my best friend of 19 years is my other BM. No one else!!!

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Thanks for the advice!!!

This helps me!

as you can see from my other posts!!!

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I guess I am fortunate, bc all of my girls are so helpful and tell them to leave me alone

One advised and helped set up my Bridesmaids dress stores
Then 2 came and spent the day with me norrowing choices
All of them drove out of state to try them on (even if they didnt do it at the same time)
One is helping me with my makeup, the other with my honeymoon
One has designed my Church programs.

I am guess I am lucky

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Through out this board I see a lot of venting about the bridal party. I myself am going thru some disappointing moments with some of my bridal party. So I was thinking that if I could give any future brides a word of wisdom, it would be this:


Don’t pick your Bridal party right away, wait a while and see how they are through out the planning, those who are there for you and those that are not. Then make your choice. I think this will save you some aggravation.

I know I chose my girls right away, it was a no brainer. I think somewhere in the back of my mind, I had the list even before I was engaged, these were my girls, but you know what they say. Weddings bring out everyone true colors. Don’t get me wrong I love all my BMS but boy it really hurts when you are counting on them through out the planning and you think they will be there for ya, and they let you down.

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I wish I read this before I picked out my bridal party! lol. One of my former 'best friends', who is a few years older than me and never married, became so JEALOUS that I was getting married, she actually tried to sabotage some of my other friendships by cc:ing them on OUR e-mail arguments! It was a complete 180 as soon as I asked her to be a BM. You think everyone is going to be happy for you, but it is sadly not the case. She brought up things OUT OF THE BLUE that she had a 'problem' with from YEARS ago. It was insane. Needless to say, she is no longer in my bridal party... no longer a friend of mine. And ya know what? I'm kind of 'glad' it happened so I don't have to deel with that drama during one of the happiest times of my life. Your TRUE friends will be happy for you. Just think of weddings and bridal parties as a big Friend Filter! lol


I DO have to add that this is the best time to also see how much your true friends LOVE you. I have the BEST MAID OF HONOR EVER (yes, she does read these boards). She was recently married, and gives me the BEST advice on what to do and where to go! AND she has been with me to try my dress on ALL THREE TIMES before I FINALLY made up my mind! She's a true friend. Thanks, Deb!

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good advice...
i definitely feel you on the 'it brings out everyone's true colors' omg it's crazy!
unfortunately i saw your advice a little late. we were so excited and chose our BP and everything was great--it's just one person that isn't so great (my FH's cousin--who HITS on me!!!)
Of course he didn't start doing this until after we asked him. It's inappropriate but not to the point where we can say okay you are out of the party. He knows what he is doing and he walks the line of right and wrong. It's just something that we are going to have to suck up and deal with... esp b/c he is family and no one else really sees what he does besides me, my FH, and by accident-- a neighbor of ours who was shocked!
Again, we just have to deal with it but it stinks...
Thank God--everyone else is really great!!

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

good advice...
i definitely feel you on the 'it brings out everyone's true colors' omg it's crazy!
unfortunately i saw your advice a little late. we were so excited and chose our BP and everything was great--it's just one person that isn't so great (my FH's cousin--who HITS on me!!!)
Of course he didn't start doing this until after we asked him. It's inappropriate but not to the point where we can say okay you are out of the party. He knows what he is doing and he walks the line of right and wrong. It's just something that we are going to have to suck up and deal with... esp b/c he is family and no one else really sees what he does besides me, my FH, and by accident-- a neighbor of ours who was shocked!
Again, we just have to deal with it but it stinks...
Thank God--everyone else is really great!!

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You should def have FH talk to him!! The last thing you want through this process and on your wedding day is to feel uncomfortable!!!!!

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Excellent advice date twin!!!
My BMs consist of all family. When I first got engaged I included a very close friend but after the engagement party her true colors came out so I cut her out of my wedding and my life. Now my BMs are: My sister in-law (MOH), FH's two sisters, my cousin, FH neices (one is FG and the other Jr. BM) and FHs sister in-law (we are very close). I don't have any sisters of my own so I am very close with my brothers wife and the girls in FHs life.

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Posted by Sunrise813


Through out this board I see a lot of venting about the bridal party. I myself am going thru some disappointing moments with some of my bridal party. So I was thinking that if I could give any future brides a word of wisdom, it would be this:


Don’t pick your Bridal party right away, wait a while and see how they are through out the planning, those who are there for you and those that are not. Then make your choice. I think this will save you some aggravation.

I know I chose my girls right away, it was a no brainer. I think somewhere in the back of my mind, I had the list even before I was engaged, these were my girls, but you know what they say. Weddings bring out everyone true colors. Don’t get me wrong I love all my BMS but boy it really hurts when you are counting on them through out the planning and you think they will be there for ya, and they let you down.

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Excellent advice!!!!!

I have been very lucky to have a great bridal party, but FH and I only chose family members. We were debating on picking our friends, but we did not want any drama or to lose friends in the process. We are so happy with our decision and everyone has been so great!

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Great advice!!

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Posted by Maybride519

Excellent advice date twin!!!
My BMs consist of all family. When I first got engaged I included a very close friend but after the engagement party her true colors came out so I cut her out of my wedding and my life. Now my BMs are: My sister in-law (MOH), FH's two sisters, my cousin, FH neices (one is FG and the other Jr. BM) and FHs sister in-law (we are very close). I don't have any sisters of my own so I am very close with my brothers wife and the girls in FHs life.

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Thanks date twin....OMG we are in Single digits

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I took my time in picking bridal party. I only chose people that I KNEW would be in my life for many years to come.

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I waited as long as I possibly could to ask them. I've had issues with friends in the past and knowing how catty women can be, I didn't want to take any chances. I also wanted to be sure that the girls I asked would be part of my life for a long time.

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

good advice...
i definitely feel you on the 'it brings out everyone's true colors' omg it's crazy!
unfortunately i saw your advice a little late. we were so excited and chose our BP and everything was great--it's just one person that isn't so great (my FH's cousin--who HITS on me!!!)
Of course he didn't start doing this until after we asked him. It's inappropriate but not to the point where we can say okay you are out of the party. He knows what he is doing and he walks the line of right and wrong. It's just something that we are going to have to suck up and deal with... esp b/c he is family and no one else really sees what he does besides me, my FH, and by accident-- a neighbor of ours who was shocked!
Again, we just have to deal with it but it stinks...
Thank God--everyone else is really great!!

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You should def have FH talk to him!! The last thing you want through this process and on your wedding day is to feel uncomfortable!!!!!

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i know, i know i hate it!! thanks tho--i will def try

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I hear that.... I decided to pick family for my BP. I thought they would be more accommodating, but boy was I wrong... I can't even get them to go try on the dress and most of them don't even work!!! I am on the verge of tears............

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Excellent advice. I would add, ONlY ask girls that are actively involved in your life. Talk on the phone regularly, hang out etc.
Do not ask FH's friends GF unless they are your friends too.

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I knew who I'd be having for the most part, unfortunately now, my sister, who is supposed to be my MOH, and I are not speaking, and I have 2 best friend that I would want as my backups.. The only problem is, is that my BF for 15 years lives in Florida and if I ask my other BF, I don't want to offend the one in Florida, so I would have both.. but I am stuck right now bc since my sister and I aren't speaking, I doubt she is going to let me use my 2 nephews as ring bearers.. I think I am better off eloping!!

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Well said!

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That's excellent advice!! Sorry for all you girls that are having such bad experiences with your BP!!

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My mom always gave me that advice too because she had major BP drama 35 years ago! So far so good on my end, but still have 9+ months to go...fingers crossed!!