HELP!!! Kids at Wedding?! AAAAGGGGHHH!!!

My mom and I just had a huge fight about kids at the wedding. We agreed over a year ago, that no kids will be invited under the age of 10. I love my cousins but I have too many. We would be inviting 20 kids under the age of 10, with more than half of them under the age of 6. I feel that she is only arguing with me because my uncle is hesitating about going because his 3 year old was not invited. I can't make an exception for one without the other 20 coming... My wedding is a Saturday night, with the reception ending at 1230 am, I am concerned about 20 kids running around, yelling, and crying and changing the atmosphere of my wedding? Am I wrong for this? PLEASE HELP!!! SO STRESSED OUT!

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i am not having any kids except for my uncles 3 kids, and im not even sure if my aunt will want to bring them out that late - im thinking they will leave early.
other than that NO kids

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we chose to have the 14-15 kids in our family attend the wedding. we couldn't not invite them and plus, we wanted them there anyway. Personally, them running around (if they do) won't be a problem for me, it won't ruin my day...but its up to you. If you agreed a year ago that there would be no kids, then you have every right to stick by that. your uncle may be able to find a sitter for that day?? dont stress

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Explain to your family member that have a problem with it, it is like taking kids to a bar!!!!!!!Drinks are going to be served and you don't feel comfortable with liquor and kids.

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No kids...no exceptions....or else everyone else will be really upset with you!!! Unless you invite them all, of course. don't you hate when family gets involved??? grrrr

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it is your day, i completely agree with you about the kids running around (which they will do cause theyre kids) and ruining the atmosphere. its a wedding not gymboree.

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Everyone has different opinions about having kids at the wedding or not and everyone is right for their situation. If you feel as though children will be out of place for your reception then I would stick with you original plans of no kids.

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I totally agree WITH YOU!
#1 - It's your wedding..and while naturally you try and please everyone - at the end of the day, it's your wedding and your day to do as YOU please.
#2 - dont these parents want a rest? I think it's nice for them to have a nice of 'real' funnnnn
#3 - children under 10 WILL change the dynamics of a party, especially one that ends at 1230am
SOOO, I suggest you stick to your guns
Good luck

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I had 5 kids at my wedding (5 and under) and they were in the BP. 4 of them went home with their grandparents after the CH and the other, my 2 and a half year old nephew stayed and slept in a portable crib off to the side and wasn't seen or heard from the entire night. He is my brother's child he belonged be there. There were second cousins there where the youngest was 12. At 12, children know how to behave and they did. Any younger than that, it can present a problem - unless of course they sit with their parents.

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Posted by MushesGirl

it is your day, i completely agree with you about the kids running around (which they will do cause theyre kids) and ruining the atmosphere. its a wedding not gymboree.

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Honestly - I had about 15 kids at the wedding. They behaved wonderfully well. They danced and they ate... there were no problems. But it does give the wedding a different feel. It takes it from that very 'elegant' feel to a more 'family' feel. I really wanted kids at my wedding... and that is the biggest point. You should have whatever YOU want. YOU are the bride.

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I AGREE WITH YOU..NO KIDS AT A WEDDING.

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No kids, except those in the BP.
My FH's side has 14 kids under the age of 11. Too much chaos. The parents actually asked us NOT to invite the kids because they want to have a good time without them.
Does your RH discount a children's meal ? Even at half price, that's a lot of money for chicken fingers and FF.

In the case of your uncle with the 3 year old - hasn't he heard of BABYSITTERS ?

Re: HELP!!! Kids at Wedding?! AAAAGGGGHHH!!!

It's your wedding and if you don't want to have kids, don't have them. You can't please everyone...so at least please yourself!!!!

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The youngest person at our wedding will be 19. NO KIDS were invited.

To be honest, their parents didn't want to bring them anyway.

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no kids at the wedding origianlly we were having just the kids at the bridal party but i have now elimanted RB and FG so NO KIDS ... i have way to many younger cousins and i cant afford to pay for them all ... i know FH aunt is going to have a problem when she first heard this she said that she would go just to the church and then go home with her daughter ... you know what my response is if she wants to do that thats her problem and her loss ...one less person to have to pay for ... do what you want and if anyone is threatening not to come over not being able to bring thier child then its there lost!!!!

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We are having kids there but I have two boys ....My family always have kids at functions so I think I am just used to it @!

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i am the 4th oldest of 20 grandchildren.... we're talking first cousins here!!! so i have no choice but to invite all 16 of my little cousins ranging in age from 1-17.... other than that, we are not inviting any children

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No your not wrong at all....and I'm having a second wedding and I have a 4 yr. old daughter

We're having a adult reception as well...with the exception of only my daughter, and our 4 nieces and nephews at the wedding. They range from ages 1-13. We are also have a Saturday Afternoon wedding.

I don't blame you at all...and you're right about making an exception for one and then you have to do it for all. If the adults can't enjoy a nite out on their own without the kids and get a babysitter...then they should stay home. JMO

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i mentioend this before but.. here's my thought.. DO WHAT YOU WANT!!! someone mentioned they had a lot of kids and it changes the feel of the reception from elegant to family.. i agree.. but I personally LOVE that!! i'm allowing EVERYONE to bring their kids.. I'm putting on the invitations family friendly reception to follow.. i'm having chicken fingers and french fries PRINTED on the menu.. heck i secretly wanna move my reception to chuck e cheese and call it a day (they have GREAT buffalo wings)..



now if u absolutely HAVE to have kids there... whatcha do is this... u get the Viennese hour.. with the cotton candy machine.. AND the chocolate fountain.. and the pies, and the cakes.. oh and a candy buffet... and roll it out around 11:45.. when the party ends at 12:30 and ANNOUNCE that the kids are encouraged to eat candy and cakes and pies... let them eat candy for 45 minutes AND THEN put baggies out so they can take more home for the next morning.. AND then they can go home with their parents...

i promise that will be THE LAST TIME that that set of parents take their kids to a wedding reception..

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Posted by DiamondPipa

No kids...no exceptions....or else everyone else will be really upset with you!!! Unless you invite them all, of course. don't you hate when family gets involved??? grrrr

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I agree. We are having no kids at all under 18 at the wedding. I even had a bridesmaid drop out because of it. Stick to your guns!