Anything you wish you could have changed/prevented from your wedding???? (mines long!)

All and all, my wedding was perfect and I really should not complain. BUT…. I have one thing that still bothers me to this day that I really didn’t notice until I saw our raw footage from the video. (this may sound silly to some!)

My Bustle was not bustled right at the wedding. I spent all of this time with my seamstress designing my bustle. I decided to do a low French bustle with many points. She also turned my champagne sash into this big bow. It was the most beautiful bustle I have ever seen. It was really puffy with a lot of layers and then on top sat this big bow. Also very $$$$$! I loved it so much.

Anyway, at the wedding my bridal attendant bustled it for me really fast. Within 5 minutes it was done and I didn’t think anything of it (A pro-yeah right!). That is until I watched my video. I just about cried when I realized it was sloppy and just pinned up any which way. I ran upstairs to my dress at this point and turned it around and there was that sloppy bustle. I fixed it right then and there, a little late!!!

The worst part if this all is that my seamstress was at the wedding. She didn’t even say anything (FH's older cousin). My SIL was the only who knew how to bustle if from my seamstress and she didn’t even notice the day of and then had the nerve to say "that is disgusting" when we watched some of the video. I don’t know why this still gets me so upset every time I think about it. I mean, everyone else says they didn’t even notice. I still always get upset about how beautiful it could have been.

I know there are bigger things to worry about, but I guess I just needed to vent. Maybe this will help me forget it!!!

Message edited 8/6/2008 6:45:09 PM.

Re: Anything you wish you could have changed/prevented from your wedding???? (mines long!)

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

Message edited 8/6/2008 6:49:42 PM.

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Posted by Espo22

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

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Posted by Tuosto

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Posted by Espo22

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

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Thank you!! You looked beautiful as well. Well, that makes me feel a little better At least I know I'm not the only one! That was very smart to have DH take that last pic at the hotel room

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Tuosto

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Posted by Espo22

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

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Thank you!! You looked beautiful as well. Well, that makes me feel a little better At least I know I'm not the only one! That was very smart to have DH take that last pic at the hotel room

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you're welcome, and i looked at your pics after to really look at the bustle and didnt see anything wrong with it. Im sure its not how you wanted it but at least it didnt look bad and all weird.

Thank you so much.

Hey you can get dressed again and take a pic with it bustled properly, gives you an excuse to put the dress on now

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Posted by Tuosto

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Espo22

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

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Thank you!! You looked beautiful as well. Well, that makes me feel a little better At least I know I'm not the only one! That was very smart to have DH take that last pic at the hotel room

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you're welcome, and i looked at your pics after to really look at the bustle and didnt see anything wrong with it. Im sure its not how you wanted it but at least it didnt look bad and all weird.

Thank you so much.

Hey you can get dressed again and take a pic with it bustled properly, gives you an excuse to put the dress on now

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I just looked at yours and your bustle looked great! I think I saw the pic at the hotel room with the correct bustle-I love it! I was thinking about taking a picture with the correct bustle. But I already had my dress preserved and they did such a good job I don't want to open it up!!! I also don't think I would fit into my dress right now since I have put on some extra pounds since the wedding!!!! We'll see, I will be sure to post some pics if I ever decide to put it on again!!!

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Re: Anything you wish you could have changed/prevented from your wedding???? (mines long!)

my bustle also wasn't exactly the same as when it was done by my seamstress, but it still looked nice so it didn't bother me (it just wasn't as "poofy").....but I can understand how you feel after watching the raw footage......I already dread seeing a few things on our video that I know bothered me on the day of (I just put in our video order, so I have yet to see it lol).....mostly I'm dreading seeing the mistakes by our DJ.....playing the wrong wedding song for my IL's to commemorate their 40th anniversary, playing the wrong song for our cake cutting and also not playing the songs on my must play list (I didn't expect to hear ALL of them, but there was a half dozen or so that I had in bold as must must play songs). as far as prevention for these mishaps, I think I would've been more of a pain in the neck with the DJ before the day of and not trsut them as much as I did.

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Posted by HelenZ

my bustle also wasn't exactly the same as when it was done by my seamstress, but it still looked nice so it didn't bother me (it just wasn't as "poofy").....but I can understand how you feel after watching the raw footage......I already dread seeing a few things on our video that I know bothered me on the day of (I just put in our video order, so I have yet to see it lol).....mostly I'm dreading seeing the mistakes by our DJ.....playing the wrong wedding song for my IL's to commemorate their 40th anniversary, playing the wrong song for our cake cutting and also not playing the songs on my must play list (I didn't expect to hear ALL of them, but there was a half dozen or so that I had in bold as must must play songs). as far as prevention for these mishaps, I think I would've been more of a pain in the neck with the DJ before the day of and not trsut them as much as I did.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Tuosto

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Posted by Espo22

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

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Thank you!! You looked beautiful as well. Well, that makes me feel a little better At least I know I'm not the only one! That was very smart to have DH take that last pic at the hotel room

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you're welcome, and i looked at your pics after to really look at the bustle and didnt see anything wrong with it. Im sure its not how you wanted it but at least it didnt look bad and all weird.

Thank you so much.

Hey you can get dressed again and take a pic with it bustled properly, gives you an excuse to put the dress on now

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I just looked at yours and your bustle looked great! I think I saw the pic at the hotel room with the correct bustle-I love it! I was thinking about taking a picture with the correct bustle. But I already had my dress preserved and they did such a good job I don't want to open it up!!! I also don't think I would fit into my dress right now since I have put on some extra pounds since the wedding!!!! We'll see, I will be sure to post some pics if I ever decide to put it on again!!!

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thank you very much.

I also wouldnt be able to fit into my dress now and its only 3 months later

dont even worry about it then, just think about how amazing you did look

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Re: Anything you wish you could have changed/prevented from your wedding???? (mines long!)

Awww that totally sux! You know what though...everyone must have just been enjoying themself and not paying attention to the back your dress...so maybe its a good thing! I am dying to see a picture tho...do you have any? I had a 12 point bustle and my sisters both did it for me but I remember thinking it didnt look as good as when I was in the dress store! It just looked a little frumpy but I was like whatever.

Also I loved my wedding day as well and nothing got me down....BUT after the fact I had a LIST of complaints...wanna hear them???

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i wish my videographer had shown up

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of course I have to be different . . .
I had no train ( sorta wished I did but oh well ) at least no bustle problem.

what I would have chagned tho - - we went into CH and let bridall att get plates for us. So many people stopped to talk to me I didn't get to sample enough! in do over I would have gone to CYH gotten my own plate hid in suite to eat and then come out for latter part of CH to mingle. didn't drink enough or have the desserts

we had substitute DJ since original was ill but we didn't knnow til he showed up!!!. would have liked to talk to him about must play songs . . DH didn't get his played and German girl here no polkas.

but in scheme of thigs that's all minor minor minor. but I really would like an invite to Larkfield Manor for the food!!!

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Posted by joshisgirl

i wish my videographer had shown up

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Fixing my bustle when my photographer told me to! I refused and he was right, I regret it now.

ummmm I wish I ate more, I got to eat but didnt eat as much as I would have liked.

I wish I had kept my cathedral veil on, but I was sweating and sooo gross that it had to come off!

Getting my period that morning~yea that I would definitely like to go back and change

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Yes i had a similiar situation to yours...but I completely forgot to open my train for the ceremony...that was the only reason i made one so i can open it for the ceremony and then pin it back into my dress for the reception. I wish i had remembered to open it or wish my DOC wouldve reminded me

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Mine's similar to yours as well. I had a sash on my dress that was supposed to wrap around my waist TWICE. The seamstress showed me, my Mom and ALL of my Bridesmaids how to tie it properly. It also helped make my figure look more like an hourglass. I loved it.

Day of.... we only wrapped it around once. It looked pathetic and ridiculous and I cringe at many of the photos. The sash is hanging too low in so many of the photos and it was so thin it did nothing to accentuate my figure or the dress!!

Message edited 8/7/2008 9:06:06 AM.

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Posted by Jenn04

Awww that totally sux! You know what though...everyone must have just been enjoying themself and not paying attention to the back your dress...so maybe its a good thing! I am dying to see a picture tho...do you have any? I had a 12 point bustle and my sisters both did it for me but I remember thinking it didnt look as good as when I was in the dress store! It just looked a little frumpy but I was like whatever.

Also I loved my wedding day as well and nothing got me down....BUT after the fact I had a LIST of complaints...wanna hear them???

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i wish i didnt use the halls Cake.. it came out all wrong.. i should have used an outside vendor.
but it was yummy at least!!

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Posted by PegaLega



ummmm I wish I ate more, I got to eat but didnt eat as much as I would have liked.

I wish I had kept my cathedral veil on, but I was sweating and sooo gross that it had to come off!

Getting my period that morning~yea that I would definitely like to go back and change

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Posted by milana

Yes i had a similiar situation to yours...but I completely forgot to open my train for the ceremony...that was the only reason i made one so i can open it for the ceremony and then pin it back into my dress for the reception. I wish i had remembered to open it or wish my DOC wouldve reminded me

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Posted by Espo22

the same thing happened to me. But I bustled my own dress quickly. I put them all on the right hooks so technically it was bustled correctly. Only thing is after it was bustled you had to put these two points in and pull the middle part yourself with your hands. I did it quickly during pics and didnt notice until we got to the hotel at the end of the night, that the middle part wasnt really showing and just wasnt how its supposed to look. I did get one pic in the hotel room, made dh take a pic so i can have just 1 that shows it properly.

Its ok, i just figure that most ppl probably wouldnt have paid too much attention regardless.

I can see why it bothers you, but you looked absolutely stunning on your wedding day and the dress looked gorgeous, didnt effect your whole look at all.

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Re: Anything you wish you could have changed/prevented from your wedding???? (mines long!)

You girls are gonna make me run back to my parents and take a look at my bustle!!! I'm second guessing if my bridal attendant did it right. But all you girls looked gorgeous regardless of the bustle being off!!!
My biggest issue was with my RH and florist, I hold both responsible for my CPs not being set up properly. They were missing the hanging votives and crystals, it didn't have that romantic setting I was looking for. I used a suddle color scheme because I wanted the CP to be the main focus on my table set up.

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I actually attempted to prevent the cake topper from ending up next to the cake, rather than on top of it, and I also attempted to make sure that the ribbon we used wouldn't get all nasty from the cake oils. I got nasty ribbon and the cake topper became a table topper.

I also would have gotten more posed shots at my parents house, and somehow wrangled more of my guests to use the shuttle I paid for.

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Posted by Tuosto

All and all, my wedding was perfect and I really should not complain. BUT…. I have one thing that still bothers me to this day that I really didn’t notice until I saw our raw footage from the video. (this may sound silly to some!)

My Bustle was not bustled right at the wedding. I spent all of this time with my seamstress designing my bustle. I decided to do a low French bustle with many points. She also turned my champagne sash into this big bow. It was the most beautiful bustle I have ever seen. It was really puffy with a lot of layers and then on top sat this big bow. Also very $$$$$! I loved it so much.

Anyway, at the wedding my bridal attendant bustled it for me really fast. Within 5 minutes it was done and I didn’t think anything of it (A pro-yeah right!). That is until I watched my video. I just about cried when I realized it was sloppy and just pinned up any which way. I ran upstairs to my dress at this point and turned it around and there was that sloppy bustle. I fixed it right then and there, a little late!!!

The worst part if this all is that my seamstress was at the wedding. She didn’t even say anything (FH's older cousin). My SIL was the only who knew how to bustle if from my seamstress and she didn’t even notice the day of and then had the nerve to say "that is disgusting" when we watched some of the video. I don’t know why this still gets me so upset every time I think about it. I mean, everyone else says they didn’t even notice. I still always get upset about how beautiful it could have been.

I know there are bigger things to worry about, but I guess I just needed to vent. Maybe this will help me forget it!!!

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SOOOOOOOOOOO many things went wrong day of. don't even know where to start, but the important part is that we're married, made a year and still going strong!

If ti makes you feel better:

-My dress was too big in the bust and fell down due to shoddy seamsterss work-crappy minor boning. (mind you that was only the first of MANY issues with my dress)
-My dress bustle wasn't done rght so we couldnt bustle it despite the many pics we have of my mom's oldest childhood friend underneath it trying to bustle it.
-My heart necklace that I wore to the RH but didnt wear at the wedding (was in the room) was "misplaced" by the staff when they without permission moved our stuff to a CLOSET downstairs WITH A WET FLOOR to make room for another bride...
-The roof leaked over the thr hrad table onto my head for most of the night
-The ice sculpture was nowhere to be seen
-The cake filling was wrong after telling them 100 times and EMAILING the exact filling and them assuring us it would be so.
-My family are crazy inconsiderate LATE people and got me to the RH a 1/2 hour before the ceremony rather than 3 hours before so DH and I could do the meeting brforehand and take nice pics.
-The photographer screwed up on the quality when shooting our formal portraits-they look fine untill you try and elarge them. Then NO DICE. nevermind I have like NO formal pics of me and my mom alone or me and my dad alone and the one with my brother his eyes are closed....
-The tablecloths which I was assured were full length, were SHORT and th aful tacky metal legs of the table poked out from beneath.

Just anything that could go wrong went wrong but seriously, it all turned out ok in the end. Try not to dwell too much. It will only upset you and you cannot go back.

Message edited 8/7/2008 10:21:46 AM.