this was said to me...what do you think?

So today I mentioned to someone that FH's sister wasnt too happy about my no kids at the wedding rule (she has 3 sons from ages 13-3)
Then I was told...isnt your sisters son going to be at the wedding?
I say...well yes,he is the ring bearer
I was told...how can you let your sister's son come to the wedding and not your FH's sister's son?
I say...because my sisters son is in the wedding party. Only children in the wedding party will be in the wedding.
Then I received a 'look' and silence.

This really bothered me. And now I feel bad. FH is perfectly fine with the rule. I have way too many children in my family and I want it to be an adult affair. I thought I was doing the right thing by only having the children from the wedding party there.

What do you think?

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No, i agree with you. It can get really expensive if you start inviting everyone with kids.

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I agree with the no children rule but I am only having nieces and nephews there, in the wedding or not. I can't tell my other niece and nephews that they can't come but allow the two that are in it come. Fortunately for me, FH doesn't have any nieces or nephews, but if he did, they would be at the wedding. But that is me.

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i agree with u

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she'll get over it... if not, thats pretty petty... you would think parents want some time away from the kids

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I completely agree with you, and would love to implement this rule, but unfortunately I cannot, so I will live vicariously though your peaceful, child-free wedding

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i agree with you. we have a RB and FG. the only two kids i KNOW are coming are FSIL's boyfriends kids. but they are a little bit older. but we made the decision that we will invite the kids and the parents can decide if they want to bring them. i think some parents need to remember that they will have to watch their kids in a room full of A LOT OF PEOPLE but thats JMO

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is this FH only newphew? Can you have in the wedding party too. I know that is not the case here but if he is the only newphew then maybe you can reconsider. Do you think not having FH newphew their FSIL will hold it against you in the future

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Posted by egem523

is this FH only newphew? Can you have in the wedding party too. I know that is not the case here but if he is the only newphew then maybe you can reconsider. Do you think not having FH newphew their FSIL will hold it against you in the future

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If it was then I wouldnt mind. I have told FH that his sister can bring the baby (3y/o) but her 2 other boys are older. If I let them come I will open a can of worms on my side and his side also!

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Posted by WishfulRinne

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Posted by egem523

is this FH only newphew? Can you have in the wedding party too. I know that is not the case here but if he is the only newphew then maybe you can reconsider. Do you think not having FH newphew their FSIL will hold it against you in the future

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If it was then I wouldnt mind. I have told FH that his sister can bring the baby (3y/o) but her 2 other boys are older. If I let them come I will open a can of worms on my side and his side also!

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tough decision it is either all or none. I think just allowing the 3y/o and not her other sons does not look good and may open a can of worms with his side already if is has not. At the end it is you and FH stick what you believe in. No kids is alway sticky topic. People just do not understand adult affairs!!!

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do you only have one nephew? and him only 3? or are there more nieces and nephews?

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I'm having only bridal party kids which is 3 total...so I agree with you.

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We are having some of our younger nieces and nephews in the ceremony at the church but they aren't going to the reception. I wanted that to be adults only so their parents could have fun. I agree it is kind of odd to have some siblings there and some not but that's your call and people need to respect that in my opinion.

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I'm having my niece and FH's niece and nephew. NO OTHER KIDS. Ya don't like it, too bad!

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Posted by kgicrls

do you only have one nephew? and him only 3? or are there more nieces and nephews?

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I have a ton of neices and nephews. All ages. Fh also has (not as many as me) a lot.

In my bridal party the RB and FG are both under 2y/o. Thats y I said FH sis could bring the baby.

If I let her bring her older boys then I have to let all my family bring their kids. Not only can I not afford it but I do not want my wedding to be a romper room.

I dont know. This all suckss!!!

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Posted by WishfulRinne

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Posted by kgicrls

do you only have one nephew? and him only 3? or are there more nieces and nephews?

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I have a ton of neices and nephews. All ages. Fh also has (not as many as me) a lot.

In my bridal party the RB and FG are both under 2y/o. Thats y I said FH sis could bring the baby.

If I let her bring her older boys then I have to let all my family bring their kids. Not only can I not afford it but I do not want my wedding to be a romper room.

I dont know. This all suckss!!!

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Explain it just like that. Weddings are ADULT affairs and they're expensive. If they don't understand then they're a little silly. Sorry.

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hope it works out!

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i think what your doing is fine especially if FH doesnt have a problem with it, after all it is your wedding. But if its really bothering you, you could have ONLY immidiate family and only your and FH neices and nephews. ive seen that too.. just an idea.

I personally am inviting all kids becuase people have to travel to my wedding and i want them to be able to come but i can totally see why you dont want any. I would do whatever you want to do and tune out everyones opinions.. i learned to do that the day we were engaged.

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Posted by KittyGags

I'm having my niece and FH's niece and nephew. NO OTHER KIDS. Ya don't like it, too bad!

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We're doing the same. I couldn't imagine telling FH's sisters not to bring their kids, they're a part of our family, I want them there. We're having an adult reception but he has nieces and nephews and I have 4 first cousins that are going to be there too.

I would leave it up to FH's sister if she wants to bring her sons or not. If any other family members have a problem, let them know you invited nephews/nieces of yours and FHs only.

HTH...hope everything works out

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I am having all my nieces and nephews at my wedding, unfortunately I have 13 nieces and nephews( ranging from 3-17) and only my one niece and his one nephew are in it. Its prob going to be a romper room but I think the kids and my sisters & brother would be crushed if they werent invited.