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The Official 2007 'Already Married Brides' Advice Thread
melbalalala Posted: Mar 29, 2007 10:26 AM+
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The Official 2007 'Already Married Brides' Advice Thread

I remember printing out a bunch of threads a year or so ago with advice from past brides on do's and don'ts for planning and the wedding day and reading it on the subway ride home. It was soo extremely helpful at the time.

I figured maybe us old, married 2007 farts could continue the tradition to help the '07 and '08, etc. gals.

Here are mine:
-Read my 'cheap bride' thread... tons of great advice from brides on saving $ on your wedding: Thread on saving money on your wedding


-GET VIDEO I am the cheapest bride alive and Im sooo glad I splurged on video. The night is such a blurr I am so looking forward to popping that DVD into the player and re-living the night. Its something you could wind up regretting for the rest of your life.

-Never leave DH's side during the reception. So many weddings we've been to, the bride and groom get pulled apart. We wouldn't let that happen.

-See each other beforehand. and get your photos done with. I know, I know 'tradition' 'the moment'. Blah, DH said he was a bundle of nerves until he saw me, and I felt the same way. I couldnt imagine not being able to have a few moments together beforehand. Walking down the aisle was still AMAZINGLY special. And, since we were able to mingle during CH, we were able to dance the night away during the reception because we got our hellos done with!

-Have faith in your vendors. They have done this a million times and you have not. I didn't really bother my vendors at all in the weeks before my wedding and didnt feel the need to. They were all exactly where they should be doing exactly what they should be doing.

-Ask your bridal salon the best 'action plan' to go to the bathroom. My dress was two pieces so they instructed me to step out of the bottom part. You dont want to pee on your dress!

-Similarly, make sure someone gets a bustle-ing lesson. Every second counts and you dont want people struggling with this while your party goes on.

-If you give your DJ a 'must play' list highlight, bold, etc. songs that absolutely MUST be played. A few on mine were skipped and one was a song I wanted to play for FMIL and I didnt realize it until the night was over.

As I think of more, I will add them. I urge other '07 already-married brides to add to this post
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nifheim Posted: Mar 29, 2007 10:29 AM+
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I like this thread I will be checking up on it feq. to make sure i am not wasting or missing anything!
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brittny817 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 10:50 AM+
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Mel this is a BRILLIANT thread. With 37 days to go I am taking every bit of your advice seriously. I was thinking of forgoing a video and so glad we decided to get one AND am glad that I will be seeing FH before the ceremony. I will need all the calming down I can get!

Because I am in the last stages of planning I can give some advice to 08 girls. I am sure I will have a ton more after the big day:

1. If you don't have a lot of OOT guests and are not having your wedding over a holiday weekend SKIP THE STD's. The are a cute touch but at the end of the day a total waste of time and money. If people want to be there they don't need 12 months notice. Trust me on this!

2. Don't get caught up in LI Weddings and what every other bride is doing. Don't get me wrong LOVE the site, many of the ladies on here and the great ideas that have been shared but don't feel pressured to spend the money or time on every flippin thing you see on here. Pick and choose. When I first started planning I HAD TO HAVE everything from slipper baskets, to petal cones, to WE DO letters...I started to feel overwhelmed and decided why bother? Not having any of those..lol

3. If you are having a large wedding (175 plus guests) and are getting married at the RH, hire a DOC. Mine has helped me soooo much and has provided peace of mind that I can't even put a price on.

My two cents from a very soon bride to be!!
More to come!


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truelove5803 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 10:56 AM+
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This thread has definately been 'notebooked' Thanks Ladies!!!!!!
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LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:01 AM+
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this is awesome!

thanks ladies!
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hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:05 AM+
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excellent thread! great idea!i love all these pearls of adivce!

I agree not to leave fi's sight during the wedding. i would imagine that the night goes so fast. i would hate to be apart during the reception!

and i totally agree with brit, don't feel like you have to keep up with the joneses on this board.
can't wait for more advice!!
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Melissa313 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:13 AM+
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THANK YOU!!! I feel so clueless sometimes (most of the time) this will help me so much
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Cpt2007 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:16 AM+
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This is great! Thank you for doing this!
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mskittynj Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:19 AM+
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I second on the VIDEO!!!!!!! I swear there are so many things that happened that night that I missed. I just got the pics from my DJ and there are even people I didn't even know came! I can not wait to see the video and relive my day!!!!
Also, don't get hung up on the little things (bathroom baskets and so forth) Those things are sooooo miniscule and insignificant compared to everything else! Enjoy every minute of planning!!!! Don't let anyone tell you what to do!!!!! Take a moment to look around the room and enjoy your moment!!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty
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LisanAshMay07 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:19 AM+
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This is awesome! These are the kind of tips we need before that big day! Thank you for such great advice.
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kitty1224 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:32 AM+
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Thanks great thread. I am still debating on the video and will keep in mind what you have told me.
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enjft Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:37 AM+
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I want to offer some.

Everyone one on the site has great ideas and pays attn to details. What I have found, in order to get that wow factor, take a few ideas you like and merge them into something new. This will give you the unique idea you are looking for.
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mskittynj Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:41 AM+
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Posted by brittny817




2. Don't get caught up in LI Weddings and what every other bride is doing. Don't get me wrong LOVE the site, many of the ladies on here and the great ideas that have been shared but don't feel pressured to spend the money or time on every flippin thing you see on here. Pick and choose. When I first started planning I HAD TO HAVE everything from slipper baskets, to petal cones, to WE DO letters...I started to feel overwhelmed and decided why bother? Not having any of those..lol





SOOOOOOOOOOO True!!!!!!!!!!! My husband said the same thing to me about that!!! He said LIW made me out of control with things!!! lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty
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violiz Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:42 AM+
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A HUGE thanks to the 07 Brides!

I (as well as other 08ers) will be checking this and using your advice and tips.

THANKS!!!
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NinaChris07 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 11:43 AM+
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Thanks Ladies!

thsis helpful!

and I will definitely post after I am married (In LESS than a month!!!)
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JeanetteandSteve Posted: Mar 29, 2007 12:04 PM+
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this is awesome!! i hope it will be updated with more advice!!

thanks!!
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LyseeH Posted: Mar 29, 2007 12:04 PM+
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I had to disagree on the seeing DH before the wedding. I didn't see DH before, I had great pictures with my BM's. The feeling of seeing him the first time standing there was so amazing. I felt like I was dreaming!

My advice

Outside wedding...if you are having your hair down and it is warm, stay inside as long as possible and make sure to bring a curling iron if you have your hair curly.

Don't expect a perfect wedding day. We had little things that vendors didn't do. For instance, the cake didn't have flowers on its tiers. BUT the cake itself was amazing.

Try not to forget what your big day is about! Ofcourse you want your wedding to be perfect, but you are marrying the man you love more than ever!

Def. agree on the video! The day goes by soo fast! Pictures are great but to see and play it again is great!
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iamvocal72 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 12:04 PM+
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This rules - OMG thank you immensely!!!

I am still not sold on the video thing and with only 17 days left I don't see it happening....

We are already maxed out on so many different things... I don't know.,... It's just going to be one of those things I may live to regret.... What can I do?

Thank you all so much!
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LyseeH Posted: Mar 29, 2007 12:09 PM+
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Posted by iamvocal72

This rules - OMG thank you immensely!!!

I am still not sold on the video thing and with only 17 days left I don't see it happening....

We are already maxed out on so many different things... I don't know.,... It's just going to be one of those things I may live to regret.... What can I do?

Thank you all so much!



If you have someone who can video tape really well, you can have that if you want! Its still great. Have them move around to get different angles.

My uncle who walked me down said something amazing to my DH before he gave me away. I can only remember bits and pieces of it. I can't wait to hear it on the video!
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MJDoc12 Posted: Mar 29, 2007 12:11 PM+
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WOOHOOO!!!!!!! I'm a total old fart now!

Advice to give you ladies:

1)Give up control-being brides I know the idea of letting it go and just relinquishing control is hard, but you MUST do it. There is an eerie calm that comes over you about the nite before the wedding and continues on when you are getting ready.....and its very nice if you let it just flow! Have trust that you have planned every single moment and that it will go just fine.

2)DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF!: It is said over and over again, every single day, but I think people just forget it on the wedding day. But seriously, do NOT let things bother you that day. If there are like 5 roses missing from a CP or you found a small stain at the bottom of your dress that no one but you will notice...LET IT GO! The day goes by at lightning speed, and spending time focusing on things that just don't matter is time that you could be spending with your new husband. So if Aunt Sally shows up in some tacky outfit, just laugh it off and look at your husband and say 'I love you.'

3)Take it all in: Before the reception starts, ask to be taken into the room before the guests arrive and just take it in. We did this and I loved seeing each place setting all perfect, and all our hard work paying off. It was great just having him and I there and enjoying it all.

4)Sneak away: Right after the ceremony, DH and I ran into the bridal suite by ourselves. I was DYING to get take my slip off cause I was tripping on it like crazy. So while we were in there laughing and everything, it was a nice moment for just him and I. Make sure you have some time, just the two of you.

5)EAT!: Make sure you stuff some food into your mouth, otherwise, you'll be a sick bride! I made sure my fat azz ate plenty, but not so many brides think about it.

6)HAVE A 5 FT. RULE!: This is SO IMPORTANT. You and FH will have tons of family & friends who all want your time, but it's hard to see them all. So you'll be tempted to split up and handle your own guests separately. DO NOT DO THIS! If possible, hold each other's hands allllll nite at the reception, so you are always at each other's side. If this is too much, instill the 'five foot rule', and make sure that you are within 5 ft. of each other at all times. That way when they might need you for a dance, or speech...no need to hunt for each other. It was funny cause anytime DH wasn't right next to me, I'd shout: 'Where's my HUSBAND!?' And no matter what he was doing or talking to, he'd stop and say 'My wife is calling me!' and he would come running! It was adorable.

I'm sure I'll post more advice as I think of it!

ETA:
If you are marrying at the hall, do pics BEFORE: I know tradition is against me, but DH and I weren't marrying in a church, and therefore had no time gap. We saw each other beforehand and did 2 hrs of pics before the ceremony...and it was the best decision we ever made concerning the wedding. Our 'reveal' moment was so wonderful and its one of the best parts of the day for us. We were calm and there were less tears during the ceremony! (I'm a crier!) But it was so much more calming for both of us, and I am so glad we did it.
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