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I probably wouldn't blink an eye if i walked into a black-tie affair and there was a dj...perhaps if there were a ton of giveaways then maybe. But a dj that was in a tux and low key would be fine. However, i have never been to a black-tie affair.

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For me personally if I was wearing a ball gown and my husband was renting a tux (as he doesn't own one) i'd rather have a band and the type of elegance and formality it brings then a pasta course and a viennesse. To me, there is formality and elegance that live music brings that cannot be recreated by a DJ.

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You said your honest opinion, I'll say mine, and YES the biggest night to have any party still and always will be Saturday night! Research it!

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Posted by ars194

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For me personally if I was wearing a ball gown and my husband was renting a tux (as he doesn't own one) i'd rather have a band and the type of elegance and formality it brings then a pasta course and a viennesse. To me, there is formality and elegance that live music brings that cannot be recreated by a DJ.

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You said your honest opinion, I'll say mine, and YES the biggest night to have any party still and always will be Saturday night! Research it!

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Can I just ask why the hostility? It looks like you are brand new to these boards and this isn't really the way to make friends. Honest opinions are fine and welcomed, but posts where you are directly attacking another poster is really uncalled for.

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I would have to admit, good advice, other people who have been on this site for a LONG time should be careful for what they say also, and try not to offend other's who may like something rather something else. So you had a band, no need to talk about formality and elegance, just say you liked your band and they turned out great and made your wedding dreams come true, I am knew to this website and just got engaged and booked a hall and dj and I'm hearing that a dj doesn't make it nice, only a band does, and I think a lot of other people would agree.

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Posted by ars194

I would have to admit, good advice, other people who have been on this site for a LONG time should be careful for what they say also, and try not to offend other's who may like something rather something else. So you had a band, no need to talk about formality and elegance, just say you liked your band and they turned out great and made your wedding dreams come true, I am knew to this website and just got engaged and booked a hall and dj and I'm hearing that a dj doesn't make it nice, only a band does, and I think a lot of other people would agree.

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Regardless of how long you have been on the site, what you are putting out is a generally unacceptable vibe around here - maybe you should look into posting on the knot - there are alot of women over there who get great pleasure from replying in nasty and sarcastic tones. Where is your real anger directed? Perhaps at your own life. An honest, candid opinion around here is appreciated - total psycho bi^chiness is not.

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I wouldn't take it personally if people tell you DJ's make the wedding 'bad.' There are many brides on here (myself included) who would absolutely disagree w/ that sentiment.

You should still settle down a bit on your posts.

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Posted by ars194

Not for nothing you all have a lot of balls saying that a DJ isnt appropriate for a black tie affair when you are SO nerv that you schedule your wedding on Friday to inconvenience everyone from work and Sundays so no one can have fun and drink. The only reason you are getting a band is because your day is cheap, just like you. Ive been to 500K weddings with Djs - all the really matters is that you have a Sat night hot time affair. Onlyfuddy duddies party it up and inconvenience all their guests. So only an idiot wouyld schedule a black tie affair that wasnt held on a Sat.

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Thats mean.

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Posted by DjPiLL

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Posted by lilmrs

Dj and black tie do not go hand in hand

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This is an innacurate statement. You can have a black tie DJ. All they do is just make themselves more 'low key'. They show up in a Tux so they don't stand out.

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I agree- my wedding will be black tie optional but i think our DJ is classy and tasteful

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Posted by ars194

Sure was - you got some people on here braggin that their cheap affair is Black tie and and so classy because they have a band. Meanwhile they are having weddings that arent even on Sat nights?? I mean who ever heard of that. I work in PR and would be mortified to invite someone to a black tie affair on a SUNDAY DAY?? FRIDAY NIGHT? That is more ridiculous than anything I ever heard. If you like a band get a band, if you like a dj get a DJ, but dont run your mouth if youre cheaping out and having a Sunday wedding. No ones gona have fun - they ll be worrying about their work tomorrow.

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Peoples decisions to have their wedding on a particular date may not have anything to do w/ $. the same goes for peoples decision not to have a band.

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Ok Ok, I get the point! Sassy just made me mad! If I'm still on this website two years after I'm married trying to make others feel bad about their weddings and making it look nicer by saying JMHO, I don't know what I'm going to do with myself!

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Personally I would say do what makes you comfortable.
I would have loved to have a band but I just could not see spending all that money on one part of the event. I feel that my wedding was classy, elegant and beautiful. Our Dj dressed appropriately, was low key and did not have any hand outs or crazy lights or a plasma screen. Everyone danced all night and no one has complained ...at least not to my face.
Maybe we're just not that classy of a bunch

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Honestly, do the guests even care? I can see older folks making a fuss over this, but i'm surprised that our age group (20-30 somethings) would even think about something like this. I've been to several black tie weddings on LI, in NYC and in Florida, some had bands, some had DJ's and honestly the ONLY difference that I noticed was that the men were in tuxes. As long as the food is good, the bubbly is flowing and the music is danceable who cares about a band vs dj!!!

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Posted by ars194

I would have to admit, good advice, other people who have been on this site for a LONG time should be careful for what they say also, and try not to offend other's who may like something rather something else. So you had a band, no need to talk about formality and elegance, just say you liked your band and they turned out great and made your wedding dreams come true, I am knew to this website and just got engaged and booked a hall and dj and I'm hearing that a dj doesn't make it nice, only a band does, and I think a lot of other people would agree.

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maybe you should learn how to read... I didn't say a DJ wouldn't make the weddiing 'nice'. I said for a black tie formal affair a DJ was probably NOT the norm. I also went on to say there really aren't many TRUE black tie events on Long Island and even WHEN you write Black Tie on invites quite a few men would STILL show up in a dark suit.

This thread wasn't about if a DJ will or will not make your wedding not 'nice' it was about what is generally accepted by wedding guests when black tie is written on the invitation.

If you want to be 'knew' here and get along with others I would chill out- it doesn't seem Marymoom was upset with the thread so why should you- it wasn't your thread.

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Posted by ars194

Ok Ok, I get the point! Sassy just made me mad! If I'm still on this website two years after I'm married trying to make others feel bad about their weddings and making it look nicer by saying JMHO, I don't know what I'm going to do with myself!

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I'm sorry if I made you mad- but if you're going to be a grown up married woman soon, maybe you should realize that in life you aren't going to agree with everyone- and the whole idea of acting like a grown up married woman is to not take it personal and launch personal attacks on another person- you take it for what it is and either use advice or not- lets be real people aren't forcing you.

Finally- you say I made you feel bad for not having a band- what about how you made people feel by stating that people are cheap for having a Friday or Sunday wedding.. I have to tell you the MAJORITY Of girls on this site are having their weddings on 'off' days... so why don't you check yourself.. if you are going to be the 'polite police' you should watch what you say.

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Honestly, I don't think the 2 have anything to do with eachother. I think it's more about the atmosphere than band vs. DJ. Just relay to your DJ your style and the atmosphere you want.

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we are having black tie optional and a DJ

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Posted by ars194

Not for nothing you all have a lot of balls saying that a DJ isnt appropriate for a black tie affair when you are SO nerv that you schedule your wedding on Friday to inconvenience everyone from work and Sundays so no one can have fun and drink. The only reason you are getting a band is because your day is cheap, just like you. Ive been to 500K weddings with Djs - all the really matters is that you have a Sat night hot time affair. Onlyfuddy duddies party it up and inconvenience all their guests. So only an idiot wouyld schedule a black tie affair that wasnt held on a Sat.

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Whoa!!!I think I missed this before posting.

First off, this post was started by marymoon to get people's opinions. Now while YOU might not agree with all of them there is no need for you to start bashing ppl for the day or time or amount of $$ their wedding costs!!! That's the point of posts to get different opinions. If everyone gave the same one then what would be the friggin point???? My wedding is on a Sunday AND I am having a band. Are you trying to call me cheap??? I'd like to see you say that my face. What ppl decide to do for their wedding is there own personal preference. Nothing more nothing less. Next time offer your opinion and keep your stereotypes to yourself.

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Posted by gNi1125

Honestly, I don't think the 2 have anything to do with eachother. I think it's more about the atmosphere than band vs. DJ. Just relay to your DJ your style and the atmosphere you want.

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Right on!

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Posted by lanikai

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Posted by gNi1125

Honestly, I don't think the 2 have anything to do with eachother. I think it's more about the atmosphere than band vs. DJ. Just relay to your DJ your style and the atmosphere you want.

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Right on!

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Agreed! I can't believe how snooty some of the posts on this thread are!! We opted for a dj, not because of money, because we do not like bands! You can opt for your band because you don't like djs, that is entirely your perogative. However, do NOT state that your wedding will have class and elegance that are unachievable by a dj'd wedding. That's truthfully one of the most ridiculous propositions I have ever seen on this site.

Marymoon - do whatever you want. If you want Black Tie, Black Tie Optional or Nude Welcome, do it! I don't see at all how the selection of a dj over a band has any affect whatsoever on this choice.

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Posted by ars194

Not for nothing you all have a lot of balls saying that a DJ isnt appropriate for a black tie affair when you are SO nerv that you schedule your wedding on Friday to inconvenience everyone from work and Sundays so no one can have fun and drink. The only reason you are getting a band is because your day is cheap, just like you. Ive been to 500K weddings with Djs - all the really matters is that you have a Sat night hot time affair. Onlyfuddy duddies party it up and inconvenience all their guests. So only an idiot wouyld schedule a black tie affair that wasnt held on a Sat.

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Whoa!!!I think I missed this before posting.

First off, this post was started by marymoon to get people's opinions. Now while YOU might not agree with all of them there is no need for you to start bashing ppl for the day or time or amount of $$ their wedding costs!!! That's the point of posts to get different opinions. If everyone gave the same one then what would be the friggin point???? My wedding is on a Sunday AND I am having a band. Are you trying to call me cheap??? I'd like to see you say that my face. What ppl decide to do for their wedding is there own personal preference. Nothing more nothing less. Next time offer your opinion and keep your stereotypes to yourself.

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you tell her! what a beeyotch