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I FM'd Ron and Liz and he has informed me that ars194 is HISTORY!

'Ding-dong the witch is dead!....'

GOOD RIDDANCE! Thanks Ron and Liz!

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Yea! Good Riddence No more headaches from her.

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Posted by ars194

Sure was - you got some people on here braggin that their cheap affair is Black tie and and so classy because they have a band. Meanwhile they are having weddings that arent even on Sat nights?? I mean who ever heard of that. I work in PR and would be mortified to invite someone to a black tie affair on a SUNDAY DAY?? FRIDAY NIGHT? That is more ridiculous than anything I ever heard. If you like a band get a band, if you like a dj get a DJ, but dont run your mouth if youre cheaping out and having a Sunday wedding. No ones gona have fun - they ll be worrying about their work tomorrow.

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Well I am having my reception at VILLA LOMBARDI's on a SUNDAY NIGHT and it will be a BLACK TIE AFFAIR0 and there is NOTHING C HEESEY ABOUT IT. Some people just dont have the $$ or the number of guests to guarantee for a SATURDAY count of 200 people and upward!

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I guess I should have read the entire thread before I got POED!!!!

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Posted by neesiepie

I FM'd Ron and Liz and he has informed me that ars194 is HISTORY!

'Ding-dong the witch is dead!....'

GOOD RIDDANCE! Thanks Ron and Liz!

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good riddance is right!!!

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Posted by marymoon

WHEW!

The drama mamas are out in force, and it looks like we have a new one!

Thanks for all of the opinions. The jury is still out on this one. I'm wondering what factors make or break a 'black tie' wedding, for example what our most confrontational posters said is a consideration, how much difference does the dya of the week make? I've already made my day of the week choice,etc, but it's still something to think about.

Please suggest some classy bands and DJ's! I guess I have more research (and saving) to do!

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Wow, I’m glad I missed this post altogether yesterday and today…honestly it made me dizzy (and sad) to read it just now…

I agree that the “newbies” seem to be because I was a newbie not so long ago and I would never dream of coming onto a new site and saying half the things that were said and it also seems that this person knows too much or feels too comfortable putting down brides to be (as well as veteran brides). I appreciate honest feedback, even if it means that something I like or think is cool is not liked by others, that’s why I post, I don’t expect to be sugarcoated and hand held and I know you do too Mary, but this person was being rude on purpose, just to upset, not to help or share or be a part of this wonderful family, but to be mean…again, the behavior of someone that’s not so new. I think their mission was to cause drama and it seems that they succeeded in getting you wonderful, beautiful and smart ladies riled up. Don’t fall prey to it…it’s silly and they win if we do.

With that said Mary, I think you and your fi will dictate the mood of your wedding…and only you and your fi have a say in what kind of wedding it is…Black Tie, Black Tie Preferred, Black Tie Optional, etc. is something that is entirely up to you. It will be wonderful and magical regardless!

You asked for recommendations…when someone mentions a classy, elegant DJ only one name comes to mind…they have been called “the DJ equivalent to a band” and I think you’ll agree, give them a try…best wishes!

A Starry Night Elegant Disc Jockeys
The Empire State Building
Suite 5522, 350 Fifth Avenue
New York, NY
Phone: (212) 946-5119
www.astarrynight.com

Each party is unique. We let the music speak for itself. We play pure music without any gimmicks. We work very closely with each client to create an individualized song list to ensure that your party reflects your personal style and musical tastes, not ours. We believe in discreet and tasteful use of the microphone for any announcements. Besides the specialties listed below, we also specialize in World Music and Brasilian Jazz.

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Thanks Sasha for that great response. i thought about it today and I realized I was getting WAY too cuaght in what the books anbd maagzines were saying and WAY too caughjt up in other people's opinions (not that they're not valid). I mean I initially decided on a DJ because of price but also because it's much more our style. I thought about what I wanted my wedding to be like and I decided I couldn't imagine dancing to my wedding song sung by anytone other than the original artist. When we hear songs, FH and I like to hear them by the original artists, and while there are great bands out there, sometimes I feel like the band has too much personality and I want the music to be sort of secondary, so I think i'm going to go with as classy a DJ as I can find, and maybe think about adding some live musicians elsewhere, like the ceremony and the dinner hour. I was a finalist and I won 50% off a wedding composition, and what's classier than my own processional.

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Thanks Sasha for that great response. i thought about it today and I realized I was getting WAY too cuaght in what the books anbd maagzines were saying and WAY too caughjt up in other people's opinions (not that they're not valid). I mean I initially decided on a DJ because of price but also because it's much more our style. I thought about what I wanted my wedding to be like and I decided I couldn't imagine dancing to my wedding song sung by anytone other than the original artist. When we hear songs, FH and I like to hear them by the original artists, and while there are great bands out there, sometimes I feel like the band has too much personality and I want the music to be sort of secondary, so I think i'm going to go with as classy a DJ as I can find, and maybe think about adding some live musicians elsewhere, like the ceremony and the dinner hour. I was a finalist and I won 50% off a wedding composition, and what's classier than my own processional.

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OMG nothing is classier than your own processional...how awesome is that?!

I hear nothing but wonderful things about a Starry Night and they are very reasonable, they are all about the music, not the giveaways and stuff (I wanted 'clubby' not so much 'classy' sorry I never go out, this is my chance! :lol) and I know that Carol's husband (the owner) can play live instruments during the cocktail hour...they are definitely worth a call.

I agree with everything you said (and also like my music from the original artists) and am so happy that you're ignoring the 'rules'...I don't think that there are any hard and fast rules...and if they are aren't they 'meant to be broken'? I have no doubt that your day will be classy, beautiful and no one will want to leave - I am sure of it!

Let us know how it goes (FM me if you wish).

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Posted by ars194

Yes - Im calling you cheap. Shut up - No one cares about your whining. Go have your Sunday wedding that no one will have fun at because they have to work the next day. I hope your wedding singer gets drunk and and slurs all the lines to your song. ugh whatevs

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GOD, I can't believe no one can see who this really is. If only you were as smart as you think you are. You make me laugh

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Huh? I'm lost please clue me in...

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Posted by gNi1125

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Posted by ars194

Yes - Im calling you cheap. Shut up - No one cares about your whining. Go have your Sunday wedding that no one will have fun at because they have to work the next day. I hope your wedding singer gets drunk and and slurs all the lines to your song. ugh whatevs

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GOD, I can't believe no one can see who this really is. If only you were as smart as you think you are. You make me laugh

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Huh? I'm lost please clue me in...

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Ditto!

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Posted by ars194

Yes - Im calling you cheap. Shut up - No one cares about your whining. Go have your Sunday wedding that no one will have fun at because they have to work the next day. I hope your wedding singer gets drunk and and slurs all the lines to your song. ugh whatevs

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GOD, I can't believe no one can see who this really is. If only you were as smart as you think you are. You make me laugh

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Huh? I'm lost please clue me in...

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Ditto!

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Double Ditto.

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Posted by ars194

Yes - Im calling you cheap. Shut up - No one cares about your whining. Go have your Sunday wedding that no one will have fun at because they have to work the next day. I hope your wedding singer gets drunk and and slurs all the lines to your song. ugh whatevs

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GOD, I can't believe no one can see who this really is. If only you were as smart as you think you are. You make me laugh

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Huh? I'm lost please clue me in...

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Ditto!

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Double Ditto.

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Make that triple ditto..i'd love to know who this really is...

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personally i hate bands. id definatly go with a dj. even if you think it may look less formal (which i really wouldnt worry about, i dont think it will) i think it will be more fun! this is just my opinion though.

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Posted by ars194

Not for nothing you all have a lot of balls saying that a DJ isnt appropriate for a black tie affair when you are SO nerv that you schedule your wedding on Friday to inconvenience everyone from work and Sundays so no one can have fun and drink. The only reason you are getting a band is because your day is cheap, just like you. Ive been to 500K weddings with Djs - all the really matters is that you have a Sat night hot time affair. Onlyfuddy duddies party it up and inconvenience all their guests. So only an idiot wouyld schedule a black tie affair that wasnt held on a Sat.

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I find this post absolutely rediculous! How dare you say that because a wedding is not $500K, or around that, a wedding is not as good. You know, not all of us are as lucky as some to get everything paid for by others. Some of us are just starting out in life and need to make ends meet. The fact they are able to make the most out of their situation should be RESPECTED. Actually, I think those who have weddings on sundays or fridays are actually just as classy. I don't know about anyone else, but I don't NEED to drink to have fun. Much less do I want to have a bunch a sloppy drunks staggering and puking at my wedding. If my guests don't want to party with this 'fuddyduddy' at my sunday night wedding, well, then they don't have to come do they? After all a wedding is supposed to be about a celebration of 2 peoples LOVE. Not a circus. And hey, if you have the ability to pay almost double per person just so you can claim that it is 'classier', then you can pay for my wedding and I will be happy to move it to a saturday! You have a lot of nerv.
As far as the question goes: A DJ or a Band does not make or break the classiness of a wedding. It's a personal choice...if you want your dances to be sung by the artist...and you don't have an extra $100K or so to pay for personal performances from the artist themselves, then go for a DJ. Some people like live music, they opt for bands.

ETA: PLEASE, no one else take offense.

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Well atleast the witch is gone

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Posted by ars194

Yes - Im calling you cheap. Shut up - No one cares about your whining. Go have your Sunday wedding that no one will have fun at because they have to work the next day. I hope your wedding singer gets drunk and and slurs all the lines to your song. ugh whatevs

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OMG you are a B#%CH!!!!!!!!

Futhermore, you've been on this board since before you were married and have been married for two years and your still a Newbie? So what do you post once a year?


You are rude and obnoxious. You're in PR and know so much about class and what is right? Then you should know not to run your mouth the way you have been.

some people

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Posted by ars194

Not for nothing you all have a lot of balls saying that a DJ isnt appropriate for a black tie affair when you are SO nerv that you schedule your wedding on Friday to inconvenience everyone from work and Sundays so no one can have fun and drink. The only reason you are getting a band is because your day is cheap, just like you. Ive been to 500K weddings with Djs - all the really matters is that you have a Sat night hot time affair. Onlyfuddy duddies party it up and inconvenience all their guests. So only an idiot wouyld schedule a black tie affair that wasnt held on a Sat.

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Woah. Someone is opinionated. LOL.

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oh and to answer your question on what I think . . . I really wouldn't put 'Black Tie' on an invitation if you are having a DJ... I mean, DJs are great, nothing against them at all . . .but when you say 'Black Tie' I think of a VERY formal party and I love DJs but do consider them SLIGHTLY less formal than a band. Anyway, I just think maybe Black Tie Optional or Formal Reception to follow are approrpriate if you're having a dj.. JMO.

oh, and for the record, I'm having a band and my wedding is on a Saturday and whatever else that rude person said . . . But I'm still putting Black Tie Optional.
I think when you say Black Tie, you're requiring all guests to go get a tux, and I just don't think that's fair. Some people really can't handle the expense and don't already have one. JMO again!

Hope I helped.

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Posted by CubanBride

I'm sorry but this has got to be the dumbest thing I have heard in awhile. A Black Tie event DO NOT IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM mean you have to have a band. I worked with an events company before and they had many black tie affairs AND a DJ. Whoever is telling you otherwise is WRONG.

It's the music that counts. That is way more important.

And while ars194 seems a little nuts, she does have a point on something...

Some have stated that having a Black Tie affair would inconvenience the guests. What a late sunday evening or friday wedding where people would have to take off or leave work early is also inconveniencing the guests. I admit, I am inconveniencing my guest becuase my wedding is on a Friday at 3pm, so everyone would have to take off. Howver, I AM CHEAP! LOLOL! But, anyway, I just wanted to point that out.

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My wedding was on a sunday afternoon, with a band! I planned the wedding in 3 weeks and had people come in from all over. I did not hear one damn complaint about missing work. People came in on Saturday and left Sunday evening. If it was a inconvience for ppl they just didn't come. No, I was not CHEAP either. I have rl stuff going on that did not allow me to wait untill my original date. Saturday June 4, 2005 BLACK TIE w/BAND. Instead I had a Sunday afternoon, wedding casual, w/BAND. In my opinion, when I think DJ...I think sweet 16 or Bar Mitzvah. I am sure there are tame DJ's out there but the last time I went to a function with one I had braces and frizzy hair.

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I am having a Sat night Black Tie Optional wedding in NYC with a DJ - can't stand bands!