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The only people my daugther will stay with are my parents, and fmil, my sister who is my daugther's godmother is also going to the wedding and her godfather is fh bestfriend as much as he loves my daugther and comes over to see her, I honestly can say i don't feel comfortable leaving her with him, he's a great guy but before my daugther he has never even held a baby before. I know it's only for a couple of hours, but god for bid something was to happen (considering my daugther is in her terrible 2's and puts everything in her mouth) it's not like this wedding is around the corner. it's about an hour and a half from my house

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It's her wedding and she has a right to say 'no.' She may have been getting numerous requests for kids to attend and if she says yes to you she may not want to deal with others questioning her. Also, you may have to sacrifice your FH as your date to stay home and to watch your child. That's what someone in this situation should do.

JMO

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You're not wrong for being upset, but I do understand the 'no kids' thing. I don't wantany at me wedding either. I think the problem is that the 1 or 2 that you may want to have is not fair to all th others. Once you invite 1 you have to invite all. I hope everything works out for you.

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'and I would hope someone would slap some sence into me and show me how silly I look! '

I think this is very rude. Brides aren't silly for trying to plan perfect days for themselves and their FH. You have different views on this since you already have a child. It should be a perfect day for the couple, you should accomodate the couple and be happy to do so.

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Soon2bMrsZ post

'and I would hope someone would slap some sence into me and show me how silly I look! '

I think this is very rude. Brides aren't silly for trying to plan perfect days for themselves and their FH. You have different views on this since you already have a child. It should be a perfect day for the couple, you should accomodate the couple and be happy to do so.

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you may think its rude but its the truth. I am not talking about you I am talking about what I would like if it were me in the situation. You are right the bride can try to plan the perfect day. But nothing is ever perfect and you have to take things in stride. People act like its the end of the world over every little thing. If the woman can NOT leave her child with someone else what would you expect her to do???

Nick & stepher have it right though. Honestly if the bride wont be accomodating and let you bring your daughter you just shouldnt go - JMO
Unless you feel comfortable having fh watch her for you and you go alone

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Honestly? I'd expect her to leave the child with her FH. Personally, I don't think that is too much to ask.

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Posted by GIGIBRIDE04

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU RAINMAMA
I GUESS PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN DON'T REALIZE THAT YOUR CHILDREN ARE THE MOST INPORTANT THING IN THE WORLD

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They will understand in a few years
some brides act like hitler on their wedding day!!

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That is a horrible and very disgusting thing to say especially just because you disagree with someone. Ive been reading posts on this board for months and I think this is the most insulting thing I have ever heard

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Why can't you leave your daughter w/ a friend ? or a trusted member of you FH's family ? There has to be someone else who can babysit - She's 2 ........I could understand if she were 2 weeks or 2 months. -
Try to understand your friend's situation as well - I know you're in a bad spot- and I don't know her situation, but personally, i'd have to be explaining myself all night if ONE child was @ the wedding b/c there are about 25 in my family !

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if you are the bride, you don't have to explain anything- and if someone makes a stink say it was an emergeny.

I personally don't agree with this bride- as it is, a lot of many was spent doing this bride a FAVOR. If she doesn't feel comfortable leaving her child (hello- another person.. not like it's a dog- that is her choice and probably a wise one)... the bride is making it seem like she should leave the kid with whomever just to satisfy her request.

take this as a lesson brides-to-be... life gets in the way of everyone- yes a lot of you want a no children reception- but would you rather not have one of your BMs attend or put in a position of leaving their child with a stranger? it's not right.

the wedding is one day- relationships with friends & family last forever.

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Posted by Marisa&Brian

Why can't you leave your daughter w/ a friend ? or a trusted member of you FH's family ? There has to be someone else who can babysit - She's 2 ........I could understand if she were 2 weeks or 2 months. -
Try to understand your friend's situation as well - I know you're in a bad spot- and I don't know her situation, but personally, i'd have to be explaining myself all night if ONE child was @ the wedding b/c there are about 25 in my family !

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if you are the bride, you don't have to explain anything- and if someone makes a stink say it was an emergeny.

I personally don't agree with this bride- as it is, a lot of many was spent doing this bride a FAVOR. If she doesn't feel comfortable leaving her child (hello- another person.. not like it's a dog- that is her choice and probably a wise one)... the bride is making it seem like she should leave the kid with whomever just to satisfy her request.

take this as a lesson brides-to-be... life gets in the way of everyone- yes a lot of you want a no children reception- but would you rather not have one of your BMs attend or put in a position of leaving their child with a stranger? it's not right.

the wedding is one day- relationships with friends & family last forever.

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I agree, BUT, her FH could watch the child. So it's not like there is NO ONE.

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JUST TO CLEAR UP A FEW THINGS, I DIDN'T MEAN FOR EVERYONE TO GET ALL UPSET.
FIRST OF ALL, ALL I WAS DOING WAS VENTING, I WAS UPSET ABOUT THE WAY MY COUSIN HAD SPOKEN TO ME , AND YES YOUR RIGHT ABOUT IT'S A COUPLE OF DAYS BEFORE HER WEDDING AND I JUST GAVE HER MORE TO HAVE TO THINK ABOUT. BUT LIKE I SAID IN MY FIRST POST , ALL I DID WAS TELL HER MY SITUATION WITH THE HOPES SHE WOULD SAY IT WAS ALRIGHT TO BRING HER, I DID'NT ASK HER IF IT WAS O.K OR TELL HER I HAD TO BRING MY DAUGTHER. I DID'NT B**CH HER OUT OR TELL HER I'M NOT COMING TO YOU WEDDING NOW. YES, I WILL FIGURE SOMETHING OUT AND HER WEDDING WILL BE JUST FINE, SO I GUESS WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY IS THAT I DON'T THINK IT'S RIGHT THAT I WAS CALLED UNFAIR AND INSENSITIVE. THIS IS SURPOSE TO BE BRIDES HELPING BRIDES AND I WAS A LITTLE UPSET ABOUT THE WAY SHE SPOKE TO ME AND WANTED TO VENT. BUT I WILL DEFINATLY THINK TWICE ABOUT THAT NEXT TIME.

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Posted by Marisa&Brian

Why can't you leave your daughter w/ a friend ? or a trusted member of you FH's family ? There has to be someone else who can babysit - She's 2 ........I could understand if she were 2 weeks or 2 months. -
Try to understand your friend's situation as well - I know you're in a bad spot- and I don't know her situation, but personally, i'd have to be explaining myself all night if ONE child was @ the wedding b/c there are about 25 in my family !

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if you are the bride, you don't have to explain anything- and if someone makes a stink say it was an emergeny.

I personally don't agree with this bride- as it is, a lot of many was spent doing this bride a FAVOR. If she doesn't feel comfortable leaving her child (hello- another person.. not like it's a dog- that is her choice and probably a wise one)... the bride is making it seem like she should leave the kid with whomever just to satisfy her request.

take this as a lesson brides-to-be... life gets in the way of everyone- yes a lot of you want a no children reception- but would you rather not have one of your BMs attend or put in a position of leaving their child with a stranger? it's not right.

the wedding is one day- relationships with friends & family last forever.

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Well said. Seriously, it's ONE DAY. I don't want children at my reception either, but if one of my BM's - all of whom are my CLOSEST FRIENDS - was in this bind, I wouldn't even think twice about having her there, with her FH and her baby.

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MEG.......
WHEN I SAID THAT MAYBE PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE CHILDREN DON'T UNDERSTAND..... I DIDN'T MEAN FOR THAT TO BE HORRIBLE ALL I MEANT WAS THAT MY DAUGTHER IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO ME AND I WOULD'NT JUST LEAVE HER WITH ANYONE.

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i agree with you..

it's all well and good for you to go out of her way for her- be her BM, buy a $400 dress/shoes, give her gifts, etc and then she wants you to go the wedding alone and leave your FH at home so she doesn't have to be inconvenienced...

I would bring the kid anyway- the day of the wedding is a blur- she probably won't even realize it...

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MEG.......
WHEN I SAID THAT MAYBE PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE CHILDREN DON'T UNDERSTAND..... I DIDN'T MEAN FOR THAT TO BE HORRIBLE ALL I MEANT WAS THAT MY DAUGTHER IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO ME AND I WOULD'NT JUST LEAVE HER WITH ANYONE.

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Sorry for the confusion gigi - I was referring to Soon2b's tackless comment about your cousin (or other brides) being like HITLER because they dont want kids (or just have an idea of what would make their day perfect and what would make their day less then perfect) at their weddings. I found that comment to be immature and highly insulting. Calling someone bridezilla or even a bit(h is one thing, but Hilter. That is awful

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Posted by GIGIBRIDE04

MEG.......
WHEN I SAID THAT MAYBE PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE CHILDREN DON'T UNDERSTAND..... I DIDN'T MEAN FOR THAT TO BE HORRIBLE ALL I MEANT WAS THAT MY DAUGTHER IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO ME AND I WOULD'NT JUST LEAVE HER WITH ANYONE.

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Sorry for the confusion gigi - I was referring to Soon2b's tackless comment about your cousin (or other brides) being like HITLER because they dont want kids (or just have an idea of what would make their day perfect and what would make their day less then perfect) at their weddings. I found that comment to be immature and highly insulting. Calling someone bridezilla or even a bit(h is one thing, but Hilter. That is awful

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First of all it was JOKE so relax. People get so upset over nothing. I am not saying that brides act like hitler b/c they want their weddings to be perfect... it when you try to control everyone else around yous lives and actions b/c its your wedding day. to me THAT is immiture and insulting

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I am not having children at the wedding, but if it was my bridal party, I would make the exception. My only request would be that the parents make sure that the child behaves and doesn't leave the supervision to someone else.

Children at weddings are not problems if they are supervised. It's when their parents who have been dying for a night out leave the parenting to everyone else, I get annoyed. Don't make my guests babysit someone's child!

In your case, this is your cousin, she is your family. She, if anyone, should just suck it up and let you bring her. It's not like you or your daughter are strangers.

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Posted by xjulietx

I am not having children at the wedding, but if it was my bridal party, I would make the exception. My only request would be that the parents make sure that the child behaves and doesn't leave the supervision to someone else.

Children at weddings are not problems if they are supervised. It's when their parents who have been dying for a night out leave the parenting to everyone else, I get annoyed. Don't make my guests babysit someone's child!

In your case, this is your cousin, she is your family. She, if anyone, should just suck it up and let you bring her. It's not like you or your daughter are strangers.

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Posted by GIGIBRIDE04

MEG.......
WHEN I SAID THAT MAYBE PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE CHILDREN DON'T UNDERSTAND..... I DIDN'T MEAN FOR THAT TO BE HORRIBLE ALL I MEANT WAS THAT MY DAUGTHER IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO ME AND I WOULD'NT JUST LEAVE HER WITH ANYONE.

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Sorry for the confusion gigi - I was referring to Soon2b's tackless comment about your cousin (or other brides) being like HITLER because they dont want kids (or just have an idea of what would make their day perfect and what would make their day less then perfect) at their weddings. I found that comment to be immature and highly insulting. Calling someone bridezilla or even a bit(h is one thing, but Hilter. That is awful

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First of all it was JOKE so relax. People get so upset over nothing. I am not saying that brides act like hitler b/c they want their weddings to be perfect... it when you try to control everyone else around yous lives and actions b/c its your wedding day. to me THAT is immiture and insulting

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Like I said calling someone bridezilla is not that bad - but come on. What you said was totally uncalled for. I agree that sometimes people do blow things about of proportion and I am normally not one of those people, however I think you might want to consider how the words you choose might affect people. That being said, you compared this bride and others to a man that was the mastermind behind one of the largest genocides of all time and was responsible for killing millions of people. I think your analogy SUCKED!

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hahaha get a life

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Get some tact, compassion & a education!