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OMG!!! I am so sorry. There is very little advice I can offer that hasn't already been posted. So I will just send 's your way.

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I am so sorry. You need to do some soul seraching and see what is best for you . Remember a lepords spots do not change . If it was me I would have a trust issue. It is easy to get married, not so easy to get divorced.
I was once engaged not to my DH, someone else, and broke it off soon after i found out he was cheating- I felt so relieved. A little while later i met my DH, and we are very happily married. I think if I would have stayed with creep#1 I would have been miserable.
Feel free to FM mail me if you need to talk.

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Im so sorry

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Ouch. You need to make some serious decisions right now!

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OMG I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THIS. THAT IS A TOUGH SITUATION TO BE IN. HAVE YOU TALKED TO HIM AT ALL ABOUT THE SITUATION???

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OMG... I feel so bad! That's sooo messed up!!! I honestly think you need to 86 FH and find someone who deserves you!!!! And that girl is a loser... She couldn't find her own guy I guess. Talk to your family, you need them. And you always have us!!!

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What a rat b@stard! Truly unbelievable. The only good thing is better to happen now than after marriage or you have kids. You will move on and find someone better.

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Posted by SweetCin704

I think everything has been said already, but I'm so sorry this happened to you. You're strong & you'll make it through this.

Being that this is fresh in your head you're going to go through SOOOO many emotions right now. You'll hate him one minute and love him the next and feel betrayed and then feel hurt. I think you need to step back and give it some time and space before you make any rash decisions.

Then I think you need to have a serious conversation with him on why it happened and how many times/one night and if there are feelings there, etc. If he is truly sorry and you can still see yourself with him and honestly think that in time you could forgive him, then I think you really need to sit down with someone and talk it out. It's NOT going to be easy and if you truly think he's not committed to you or that you are not the type of person that can forgive & forget (in time) then you may be best to move on. Only you know you....

We're here for you. If you need to talk feel free to fm me.
Cindy

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this is perfectly stated and I agree. relationships CAN come back from a breach of trust, but there has to be a HUGE commitment on BOTH sides to make it work. it will be ugly and it will be painful...but if you are both up for it, it may be worth it.

that being said, take A LOT of time before making your decisions. don't be pressured by anyone into making one now. Perhaps you should take a few days off and just go away somewhere to clear you head....even if it's a b&b somewhere close, just to be alone and think.

fm ANYtime if you want to talk. Good luck. no matter which tunnel you walk down, there WILL be light at the end of it!

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to you. There's nothing much left to say that hasn't been said. Be strong...you have support here if you need it.

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I'm so sorry to hear this. No matter what you choose to do put YOUR needs first.

I definitely think you should seek counseling for yourself. I had a very rough break-up a few years ago and instead of going back to him I finally got smart and found a counselor and worked through it. If you're at all religious I would lean on your faith.

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..I am so sorry. I 100% know the anguish of what you are going through, I was married before, and my husband cheated on me. It really is not that easy to leave, men somehow know how to say all these wonderful things to keep you hooked on them. When you love them so much....you accept things that you would NEVER accept from anyone else. I do not know all the circumstances around what happened, nor is it my business. I will tell you, I am on the other side of that pain now, empowered and happy that I have chosen a better route for myself. You deserve what you are willing to give, once I realized that...my decisions were easy. Painful yes, but I knew life would get better. I wish you the best in whatever decision you choose for yourself.

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I am sorry this happened and good luck with your decision

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I am sorry to sound so harsh, but dont marry him. I sure as heck wouldnt'. I feel so bad for you and if I knew you I would sock him one. U are probably a wonderful person and deserve better than him. Always, remember what you are worth and never ever ever settle.

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I am so sorry but you are right in thinking you couldnt trust him. You have to think about the fact that you may never be able to let the hurt go and that is no way to enter a marriage. Perhaps you need to go to couples counseling if you decide to stay with him.

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What a jerk and what kind of a friend is she.

You deserve much better!!!

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I'm so sorry... How terrible of both of them and how heartbreaking for you!!

But, better to have found out now than later. You deserve A LOT better!!!!!!!!!!!

Have you confronted him yet??

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I'm so sorry! That is terrible. Honestly though--it's a good thing you found out now.
I'm sorry u have to see this girl every day. Can u transfer??? She should.
You'll be more than fine. more hugs:

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I'm so sorry to hear this!

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Thanks Ladies, I can't imagine going through today with your good words, I appreciate you all for being on my side. I gave him back his ring last night and I put for a transfer. I will meet with my parents tonight to tell them that the engagement is off. I know that I will find my PRINCE one day.

Also, I would like to thanks the ladies who FM me.

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Posted by finallygotthering

Thanks Ladies, I can't imagine going through today with your good words, I appreciate you all for being on my side. I gave him back his ring last night and I put for a transfer. I will meet with my parents tonight to tell them that the engagement is off. I know that I will find my PRINCE one day.

Also, I would like to thanks the ladies who FM me.

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wishing you lot's of luck and a happy and bright future.