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PrincessConsuela Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:00 AM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:00 AM

Re: I have bad news ladies

I just came back from my parents house and I told them everything. They were very upset about everything but they are on my side. I also called his parents and told them what happened, they were in total shock, but they understand my decision and would love to remain friends with me. As for him he keeps calling, emailing, text messaging me, nothing would change my mind.

He also sent me 100 dozens of roses today I PUT ALL OF THE in the GARBAGE IN FRONT OF HIS HOUSE so when he gets home tonight will get a nice surprise

You are very brave. keep it up. dont let him try to get back together with you. ive been cheated on before and i tried to get back together with him. but the trust was lost. so i had to break it off.
good luck.

stephanief Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:09 AM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:09 AM

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OMG, I am so sorry, that is horrible. What are you gonna do>?

edsprincess Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:19 AM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:19 AM

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I am so sorry. Have you decided what you are going to do? Postpone the wedding? Not do it at all? That is a really hard decision. Before you make any move talk to him about it. Hear his side. Then beat the crap out of him.LOL. We are all here for you. Keep us posted!!!!

JimmysBride Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:34 AM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:34 AM

Re: I have bad news ladies

I'm sorry this happened. The girls here have all already given you great advice so all I'm going to say is that everything happens for a reason. Stay strong!

metmymatch Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:51 AM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 10:51 AM

Re: I have bad news ladies

Posted by finallygotthering

I just came back from my parents house and I told them everything. They were very upset about everything but they are on my side. I also called his parents and told them what happened, they were in total shock, but they understand my decision and would love to remain friends with me. As for him he keeps calling, emailing, text messaging me, nothing would change my mind.

He also sent me 100 dozens of roses today I PUT ALL OF THE in the GARBAGE IN FRONT OF HIS HOUSE so when he gets home tonight will get a nice surprise

good for you! you are handling a horrible situation so well. i've been in a situation where i've been cheated on and tried to make the relationship work afterwards - it was impossible for me to regain the trust. i was in a similar situtation where several of our colleagues/friends knew he was with someone else. looking back, i don't know why i tried to make the relationship work. i mean, it's bad enough getting cheated on, but then to find out that everyone else knows....

yeah, i'm PROUD of you for staying true to yourself. once the anger/hurt subsides, if you start to get sad and need to talk, please feel free to fm me.

STAY STRONG!!!

seta Posted: Sep 13, 2005 11:13 AM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 11:13 AM

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I really respect you. You are a strong individual. You deserve all of the happiness in the world, and you will have it!

Good luck with everything! I don't even know you, but would like to say that you should be very proud at how you are handling everything!

Stay strong and god bless!

d&d05 Posted: Sep 13, 2005 12:51 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 12:51 PM

Re: I have bad news ladies

Just wanted to give you some

Sweetpea130000 Posted: Sep 13, 2005 12:53 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 12:53 PM

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lulugrrl Posted: Sep 13, 2005 12:55 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 12:55 PM

Re: I have bad news ladies

I am glad youu are being so strong through this.. I have nothing but

's for you

Maybride07 Posted: Sep 13, 2005 01:21 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 01:21 PM

Re: I have bad news ladies

Your strength is amazing. Keep your head up, you totally did the right thing and we are all here for you!

FormerlyKnownAsQ Posted: Sep 13, 2005 01:23 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 01:23 PM

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I am so sorry sweetie!!

You will get through it I promise. Trust me I went through a similar situation with an ex-boyfriend. You will come out of this a million times stronger.

mendara Posted: Sep 13, 2005 02:14 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 02:14 PM

Re: I have bad news ladies

Posted by finallygotthering

Posted by gina674

Posted by finallygotthering

Thanks Ladies, I can't imagine going through today with your good words, I appreciate you all for being on my side. I gave him back his ring last night and I put for a transfer. I will meet with my parents tonight to tell them that the engagement is off. I know that I will find my PRINCE one day.

Also, I would like to thanks the ladies who FM me.

I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you have to go through this. It's amazing what happens within the precinct walls, and sad to say, it happens more often than we would like to know. I do you wish you the best though, in all the decisions you make. And I hope your transfer goes through quickly, if it doesn't, maybe you can change tours also... From one cop to another, I'm here if you need to talk...

I just came back from my parents house and I told them everything. They were very upset about everything but they are on my side. I also called his parents and told them what happened, they were in total shock, but they understand my decision and would love to remain friends with me. As for him he keeps calling, emailing, text messaging me, nothing would change my mind.

He also sent me 100 dozens of roses today I PUT ALL OF THE in the GARBAGE IN FRONT OF HIS HOUSE so when he gets home tonight will get a nice surprise

Remember that in this world you can lose a great thingif you don't take care of it and appreciate it - there are TOO many men in this world that think that a woman WILL NOT leave them - or that they WILL NOT get caught and they take chances - you are brave and right 100% - the fact that he cheated with someone you knows - shows that he didn't even consider that as a huge cahnce he was taking and HE did it anyway - total disregard to you and your love.

I have been cheated on before - where the guy I was seeing slept with my very own cousin - there is absolutely no excuse for that behavior and the sooner people start not accepting it and walking away the more difficult it will be for people to risk it.

good luck - roses will not make up for it.

tracie143 Posted: Sep 13, 2005 03:32 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 03:32 PM

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O MY GOSH. I feel so bad for you.. I want to give you a hug. My advice will be think with your Brain not your heart. If he is cheating on you then he does not respect your feelings. I know you dont want to hear this right now but you are better off with out him and you will find someone that really loves you and respects you 100%. If you need anyone to talk to please FM me..

finallygotthering Posted: Sep 13, 2005 03:42 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 03:42 PM

Re: I have bad news ladies

Thanks Ladies, I got rid of that PIG, I just have to get on with my life without him. I can really say the LOVE that I had for him is gone, I really HATE him. I know that one day he will pay for this. I will never forget you guys but I think this will be my last post because I don't belong on this forum because I no longer have a wedding to plan.

Thanks again to all who FMed me and all those who responded to my post.

Steph

mendara Posted: Sep 13, 2005 03:45 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 03:45 PM

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bye

TimDogsGal Posted: Sep 13, 2005 05:39 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 05:39 PM

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I'm so sorry...

Crismicka Posted: Sep 13, 2005 05:54 PM+

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Posted: Sep 13, 2005 05:54 PM

Re: I have bad news ladies

Posted by finallygotthering

Posted by SomethingBlu

I am so so very sorry!

This has to be one of the toughest things anyone could ever go through, especially with a friend. I am sorry that two people you love and trust let you down.

I feel that if he didn't respect you enough to be faithful to you and she didn't respect you enough to not touch your boyfriend, neither of them are worth being in your life.

Of course this is a personal and difficult decision and one that you have to come to and live with. My own personal beliefs are that 'once a cheater, always a cheater' and this is the one thing where I cross the line. I don't feel strongly (to the point of not ever 'rationalizing' or 'talking myself out of') about too many things, but this is one of them. I would actually get divorced due to infidelity.

Again, I'm sorry and I pray that you are given the strength to get through this.

Thanks SomethingBlue, that is how I feel, once a cheater always a cheater, I will leave him

I hate to say it, but I totally agree! I wish this never happened to you, but it did and I hope the ring and the fantasy idea of getting married doesn't blind your good judgement. All the apologies in the world and all of the tears are meaningless...unfortunately. I've been there and I have learned that people don't change...even if they promise that they will.

You will eventually meet the PERFECT man for you. One that will treat you with the respect that you deserve. Don't settle.

My friends use to laugh at me and say that I was too picky and that I would never get married. Now most of them are divorced or separated and look at DH and I and tell us that we have the perfect relationship --- one that most people envy. Wait for that and your life will feel complete!

Best of luck to you!
You're inmy thoughts and prayers!