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Thank you cards to Non-gift givers..............

dgtlsunshine Posted: Jun 27, 2003 10:38 AM+

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Posted: Jun 27, 2003 10:38 AM

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I still sent a card. I don' feel its right to assume everyone has to give a gift at the wedding. I was just very happy that people showed up to show support and enjoy our day.

I sent everyone thank you cards. I am glad I did as the people who did not give us gifts at the wedding later mailed us gifts.

Send everyone a thank you card. They are not expensive.

michele31 Posted: Jun 27, 2003 10:42 AM+

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Posted: Jun 27, 2003 10:42 AM

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I sent a thank you card to each guest who attended the wedding, gift or no gift. The thank you card is NOT to really thank them just for a gift but for joining you on your special day. Just because other people are rude doesn't mean I have to stoop to their level.

Teri Posted: Jun 27, 2003 07:42 PM+

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Posted: Jun 27, 2003 07:42 PM

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yes, I gave the two cheap @$$es a TY card even though they didn't even bring us a card to our wedding.

I decided to rise above their tackiness and show them proper ettiquette, for thanking them for being a part of our day.

curlysue Posted: Jun 28, 2003 09:10 AM+

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Posted: Jun 28, 2003 09:10 AM

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just wondering who were these people to you? were they friends, family

This post makes me laugh my wedding is coming soon and I never thought that people can be so rude. I think you absolutely should bring a gift or at least a card. to come to the wedding with no gift at all is ridiculous. I do belive that if the people can not afford it of course thats one thing you are inviting them because you want them there but they should at least have the decency to write out card thanking 'us' for inviting them. People are unbelievable at times. Bless them. I also think that leaving without saying goodbye is the worst. I just had my shower and someon from my work just got up and left withouts saying goodbye to me or anybody. That really did **** me off. And show some class that was my boss!!!

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 28, 2003 10:17 PM+

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Posted: Jun 28, 2003 10:17 PM

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definately dont send one... they came to your ceremony... you already thanked them with

1- a favor
2. a free dinner with alcohol...

***edited... sorry didnt realize this was on the newlywed board.. i was searching for favors and just posted cause it was recent... sorry

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 28, 2003 10:18 PM+

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Posted: Jun 28, 2003 10:18 PM

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just a though... if you send them a thank you card...keep the wallet size photo for yourself...

Dani00518 Posted: Jun 29, 2003 12:46 AM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 12:46 AM

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I would never send a thank you card to a stiffer but I will be sitting at home waiting for that cheap a$$ to send me my thank you card.

ChristineC68 Posted: Jun 29, 2003 07:10 AM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 07:10 AM

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We sent everyone a TY card, gift or no gift. We kind of felt no one owed us a gift and we were really glad that everyone was at the wedding.

kmcwed Posted: Jun 29, 2003 11:57 AM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 11:57 AM

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Jenn, LMAO!!!!!

I guess my friend got my wedding gift

I'm not sure it's okay to assume that everyone must give a gift. Yes, it's customary, but to expect it is a little tacky. So I think I would send a Thank You just because they were there. But I would write,

Dear Stiffer,

It would have been nice if you covered your plate you cheap skank, but since you didn't I will only thank you for your presence and not your generousity.

Seriously, though, getting ****ed off if you don't get a gift seems crass and greedy to me. Some people really can NOT afford it. And in that case, I would rather have their presence than have them stay home because they can't afford a gift.

JMHO.

shamma Posted: Jun 29, 2003 01:09 PM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 01:09 PM

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You know where I stand on this

Tammy5-03 Posted: Jun 29, 2003 01:48 PM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 01:48 PM

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I am definitely sending a thank you card to everyone who attended. A gift is not necessary but of course very nice. A lot of my guests gave 'modest' gifts but I appreciate them anyway. Around my way, very few people seem to know the concept of covering your plate. I wasn't expecting much anyway, its not a fundraiser. I know they were all happy for me and I was happy to see them. I do think the least you can do is send a card. The people who am I really upset with are the ones who stood me up at the last minute AND didn't apologize or send a gift. I think that is inexcusable.

Cindy Posted: Jun 29, 2003 02:16 PM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 02:16 PM

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I have already stated my opinion on this. To anyone that thinks it is greedy to expect a gift, I NEVER expected a gift. A simple card would of been nice. I did recently receive a gift after 10 months from one couple which leaves only one couple that didnt think of us at all. I think it is inexcusable when someone does this and you have been to ALL of their functions with your hands full with gifts and they come with nothing. Not being able to afford a gift wasnt the problem in this case.

kmcwed Posted: Jun 29, 2003 03:15 PM+

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Posted: Jun 29, 2003 03:15 PM

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I completely agree with you Cindy. A simple card, which costs less than 3.00 is all it really takes. To me, someone who cannot even do THAT is a REAL stiffer. Money is not the issue. It's the principle.

I don't care how poor a guest may be, they can at LEAST give you a card with good wishes.

It's not wrong to expect at least that much.

Sweetd Posted: Jul 27, 2005 04:29 PM+

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Posted: Jul 27, 2005 04:29 PM

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I didn't. My so called childhood friend didn't give us a gift up until 7 months later. So, I sent out all my thank you's 3 weeks after my wedding, and she got her's a few weeks ago, when I got the gift