Did/does your man get to pick his own outfit for the wedding?

My fiance and I are having a major dicsussion about two things wedding related and we need to know all opinions:

He say the groom picks the groom's outfit and the groomsmen's outfits for the wedding, I say 90% out your pick your guys outfits for them and their groomsmen's.

He says the man chooses the honeymoon and takes care of it, I say she picks it, he pays for it...LOL (no really they should do it together)?

How much is/was your groom involved in the wedding process?

Thanks!

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My FH picked out his outfit (its his uniform). We will pick out the groomsman tuxes together.

We also planned the honeymoon together. He's been involved in looking at DJs and photographers too. I'd say he's pretty involved for traditional grooms.

Although its known as the 'brides big day' it is the wedding of two people. I wouldn't feel right if my FH wasn't involved in the process.

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those are definitely two things that fall under the grooms domain.. I mean- you should shop with him for his tux- and you should like what he gets-- you should also come to an agreement on what the guys are wearing- but he should handle.

Same with HM- let him research and present ideas to you-- then he can plan it once you both are in agreement-- the bride always has enough on her plate.

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FH knows what I would like him to wear the day of the wedding but I told him just to wear whatever he picks out. The way I figure out, JMO, is that the girl gets to pick out her own dress and surprise her FH, it should be the same vice versa.

As for the honeymoon, yea, traditionally FH plans the whole thing but since he knows how much I love planning vacations, he let me do it

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we picked the honeymoon together and i want to be surprised about his tux like he will be about my dress..he's been shopping around looking for the perfect one

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I'm too much of a control freak to let him pick the tux - i have a distinct 'look' in mind for the whole wedding, and knowing him he will show up to my swanky summer soiree in a yellow leisure suit to be cute.

We researched and decided on the Honeymoon together. I booked the details.

It's really all about your personalitites and who handles what type of thing better. If he really wants to do these things, I think you should let him...with a little guidance of course.

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Thank you so much everyone who replyed. My FH just read all your comments over my shoulder at the computer, stated 'there are too many control freaks on here(meaning LI weddings.com'), then stormed out of the room...LOL... it was like he just didn't believe me when I told him 100 times that the Groom does not have full control of the dress of the male part of the wedding party and not full control of our joint honeymoon. I guess he believes me now...LOL...

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My FI helped with everything except my dress but I definitely went with him to pick out tuxes. Luckily we agreed on what looked best on him! We've sort of had the honeymoon picked since before we were engaged. Again, we were in agreement though!

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We picked his and the guys' tuxes together.... I had him take the lead on this but he wanted to make sure I was happy....we planned the honeymoon together, I also put him more in charge of the contacts, etc. I do most of the research for the wedding and present him with options and we decide together...I also give him distinct 'tasks'. I am doing most of the work

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My fh has been great about helping. As for his tux, he found a pic that he likes and I also love. So he wants that. He recently said to me that he thinks a girl should go with him and gm to actually pick them out in the store. So since he wants a girl to go I might as well. As for the honeymoon. He found a place he wanted to go and told me about it. I thought it was a great idea so we booked it. If i hadn't liked his idea we would have picked something together.

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I really let him pick it out and I loved what he picked out- I made sure I was there though!!!!

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I'm sure that many women pick out the groom's tux but if the groom wants to pick it out, he certainly has that right. FH is going to pick his out but he wants me to come with him. He has picked the honeymoon location but I'm going to do the research to find out where to stay.

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Does it change anyone's opinion if I told you that my FH is one of the cheapest people on earth and that is why I can't let him have the control? I let him pick the county we are going to(Thailand because I wanted exotic and he wanted cheap), now I want control of the hotels otherwise we could be staying who knows where. He des not research the same way I do. Also with guys outfits... I had a vision of this wedding, I have done all of the color scheme planning and all of the design details. He is great with making what I design(He is making a Chuppa, made all the invitations and is addressing them all, is sewing all the material we are using for decorations, etc...)But he won't seem to let the design aspect up to me. My whole point of these questions was to show him that for weddings, women usually take the lead role and the men go along for the ride. The women ultimately have the finally say because it is their vision, their lifetime dream. The problem my FH has is he can not give up being in control, even of something like this. Thank for listening. Can we say therapy!!!

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

I'm too much of a control freak to let him pick the tux - i have a distinct 'look' in mind for the whole wedding, and knowing him he will show up to my swanky summer soiree in a yellow leisure suit to be cute.

We researched and decided on the Honeymoon together. I booked the details.

It's really all about your personalitites and who handles what type of thing better. If he really wants to do these things, I think you should let him...with a little guidance of course.

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Same here - everything was done with 'my guidance'

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FH picked out the guys tuxes but I was there. We kind of decided on the HM togeather.

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FH picked out the tuxes for the guys not in uniform, but honestly i really didn't care...we went with black and white, no color, so there wasn't a chance of clashing and whatnot. and he felt pretty good about doing it himself, which i liked.

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DH picked his out... I of course gave him a few guidelines. No baby blue, no ruffles... that sort of thing.

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FH picked out his own tux - with me there for support We picked out his BM's tux and our dad's tuxes out together.

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My FI picked out his own tux, but I had the finally say, and He is in charge of the honeymoon, my only requirement is a beach.

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I didn't ask his opinion on my dress, I wouldn't expect him to ask my mine on his tux.

As far as they honeymoon, he's 'handling' it (as best he can ) but we decided together. There's a lot that went into our decision about this (we're postponing 2 months) so that's not a decision either of us should have made alone.