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FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 11:56 AM+

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FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

I WANT TO TELL HER OFF.... I CAN BARELY EVEN CONTAIN MYSELF...

what would you do? i probably can't even say anything right?

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it is just so wrong to be the mother of the groom and have the nerve to show up there with a married man - shame on both of them. this is the first time she's even bringing up the issue to me, CUZ I FINALLY HAD TO ASK is she bringing a guest or NOT since the wedding is in 19 days. i'm HORRIFIED.

CaCRmr Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:00 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Would she bring him as a DATE? If she's just friends with him I don't see it as a problem. If this makes you uncomfortable then of course you have to let her know that.

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:02 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by CaCRmr

Would she bring him as a DATE? If she's just friends with him I don't see it as a problem. If this makes you uncomfortable then of course you have to let her know that.

YES as a date!!! I spoke to FSIL about this and she says she is 100% convinced they are more than just friends but FMIL will not admit that to me I'm sure... I don't know if it is my place to say something???

What would I say?

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:05 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

omg

PeterNChris Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:05 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

LisaJill Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:06 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:06 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

um... i guess you should tell her that he should take his ring off before coming

Just a little joke! Ok seriously this is a tuffy. speak to FSIL maybe she can try to convince her mom not to do it. they are soo close that it just might be better coming from her.

sorry about the drama a mere 19 days before the best day of your whole life (until baby comes!!)

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:06 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

I THINK I'M GOING TO BE SIIIIICK.

You know, we had suspicions she would try to do this, BUT I NEVER ACTUALLY THOUGHT SHE'D HAVE THE AUDACITY.

kam29 Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:06 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:06 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

That's a tough one but I am with you about how upsetting that is!

She's going there to witness and celebrate the union of marriage of her son and she'll be there with someone who disregards the vows that you'll be taking!

Unfortunately I don't think that there is much that you can do. It may be more of a stink asking her not to bring him. Unless your FH can do something....

Beth1210 Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:07 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:07 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

that is so wrong for so many reasons

and not apportipate even as freinds in my opinion!

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:07 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by 12-3Princess

I THINK I'M GOING TO BE SIIIIICK.

You know, we had suspicions she would try to do this, BUT I NEVER ACTUALLY THOUGHT SHE'D HAVE THE AUDACITY.

what does your FH say?

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:07 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by LisaJill

um... i guess you should tell her that he should take his ring off before coming

Just a little joke! Ok seriously this is a tuffy. speak to FSIL maybe she can try to convince her mom not to do it. they are soo close that it just might be better coming from her.

sorry about the drama a mere 19 days before the best day of your whole life (until baby comes!!)

FSIL thinks it's HORRIBLE but says that if we try to get her not to do it, it's going to cause more drama and anyway, her ex- husband, FFIL, is bringing a date, so she needs a date too... DON'T THESE PEOPLE KNOW IT'S NOT ABOUT THEM? I CAN'T DEAL WITH THIS. IT'S DISGUSTING.

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:08 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:08 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by dleeny

Posted by 12-3Princess

I THINK I'M GOING TO BE SIIIIICK.

You know, we had suspicions she would try to do this, BUT I NEVER ACTUALLY THOUGHT SHE'D HAVE THE AUDACITY.
what does your FH say?

he thinks it's disgusting and in the past asked her what was up with her and the married guy and she says 'we're just friends' - but too bad she already admitted to FSIL that they are MORE than just friends. it makes me sick.... so she won't admit it straight out to FH b/c she knows he will be so against it. now FH wants to know what I think he should say. I DON'T KNOW???!@!!

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:09 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:09 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by Beth1210

that is so wrong for so many reasons

and not apportipate even as freinds in my opinion!

i agree. what do i do? i'm so upset.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:10 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:10 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by 12-3Princess

Posted by Beth1210

that is so wrong for so many reasons

and not apportipate even as freinds in my opinion!

i agree. what do i do? i'm so upset.

well, I wouldn't say anything to her directly. but try to have FH talk to her and try to reason with her. it's is very inappropriate, and she need to know that.

N.Y.bride Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:11 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:11 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

My FMIL brought a married man to our wedding. They have been friends for quite a while and his wife is a-ok with it. They are just friends so I was totally cool with it, especially since my FFIL was there with his wife I didnt want her to be the only one without a date.

SummerBride06 Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:11 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:11 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

does the married man's wife know. maybe she should 'find out' mysteriously.

it's really FH who has to deal with this, although i understand why you're so upset. it's embarrassing, but FH's family are the ones who will really be mortified. best of luck with whatever happens. i think your FH and his family should have some type of intervention with her.

12-3Princess Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:12 PM+

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Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Posted by N.Y.bride

My FMIL brought a married man to our wedding. They have been friends for quite a while and his wife is a-ok with it. They are just friends so I was totally cool with it, especially since my FFIL was there with his wife I didnt want her to be the only one without a date.

Oh trust me, THIS IS DIFFERENT. this guy's wife would NOT be OK with it... IF SHE EVEN KNEW.

just like she wouldn't have been ok with my FMIL going away with him last month for a weekend. (i just heard this from fsil)

IT IS DISGUSTING.

N.Y.bride Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:13 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:13 PM

Re: FMIL WANTS TO BRING A MARRIED MAN as a GUEST TO OUR WEDDING

Sorry, I just read the rest of your post. I would have FH talk to her and see whats really going on. She should tell him the truth.

If theyre not just friends I wouldnt feel comfortable with it either, a married man cheating on his wife with my FMIL at my wedding? Heck no.

melissaandsean Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:14 PM+

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Posted: Oct 10, 2005 12:14 PM

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I think this is honestly your FH's decision to make. How does he feel about it? He needs to talk to his mother about this, and if I were you, I'd just step back and let them hash it out.